Porn use is “a way to escape” the temptation of extra-marital sex

“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

I Corinthians 10:13 (KJV)

Porn used as a way to escape the temptation of pre-marital sex

For un-Christian men who have no qualms about pre-marital sex they use porn and either masturbate or they go have pre-marital sex with their girlfriends. It makes no difference to them.

But for Christian men porn can actually be used as a powerful tool to escape the temptation of pre-marital sex.  Remember that there are two parts to the sexual nature.  There is the mental and the physical.  On the one side men need a physical release of their semen.  But then men also need to allow their brains to experience the pleasure of thinking of beautiful women and sexual acts. When a man fails to exercise both the mental and physical side of his sexuality in healthy ways it can leave him wide open to sexual sin.

This is why it is a good practice for young men to regularly look at porn that does not display types of sex that go against God’s design of sex and then masturbate to completely exercise both the mental and physical parts of their sexual nature in a healthy way.

Porn used as a way to escape the temptation of Whoremongering and Adultery

Porn can also be a powerful tool for married men as well. Here are several scenarios where a Christian man will be put in a position of being tempted to have sexual relations outside his marriage:

  1. If he travels for his job or is in the military and is away from his wife for long periods of time.
  2. If his wife has a temporary or long term health condition that inhibits her from having normal and regular sexual relations with him.
  3. If his wife regularly sexually denies him or tries tightly control their sex life (like refusing to do certain sex acts like oral sex).
  4. If his wife regularly disrespects him, shames him or acts in other cruel ways toward him.

Any of the above four scenarios will put in man in a position to be sexually tempted and the use of porn and masturbation can be a healthy and effective tool –  away to escape the temptation he may have to seek sex outside of marriage.

But there is also a 5th reason that men may be tempted to have sex outside of their marriage.  The 5th reason is because men are naturally polygynous by the design of God. Now some men are more or less polygynous in their sexual natures but all men are built with capacity for polygamy whether they choose to or are able to exercise it.

So even if a wife is fully and regularly making herself sexually available to her husband, she is kind and submissive to him and fully tries to meet his sexual needs in the bedroom at the end of the day she is still only one woman.  God designed women with the capacity and desire to have multiple children.

Women receive great pleasure from holding infants in their arms and taking care of young children.  In a similar way men are designed with the capacity and desire to have multiple wives.  While the pleasure they receive may be different than the pleasure a woman received from holding infants in her arms these are both pleasures that the different genders are designed to pursue.

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