The production of amateur porn can actually be a ministry and be honoring to God

Previously I have answered objections that Christians and non-Christians have to the use of porn and I have also stated that I believe the use of porn can help societies bring down the rate of sex crimes as well as help Christian men to avoid sexually sinning by having sexual relations outside of marriage.

But if porn is good and healthy for men to use then it must somehow be produced right? In my “Argument #6 Porn is wrong because we are enjoying other people’s sin” I said this about the “source”, “inspiration” or way that porn is produced:

“The Apostle Paul told Christians how to handle a situation where you go to the market to buy something and you are worried about its source:

“Whatsoever is sold in the shambles, that eat, asking no question for conscience sake”

I Corinthians 10:25 (KJV)

In this example Paul was talking about Christians worrying that the meat they were buying in the market had been sacrificed to idols before it was sold to them.  He told them not to worry about the source and that it was simply meat.

In the same way it would be irrelevant for a man when he was buying that erotic image painted on stone to grill the artist as to his inspiration.  Would he prefer that the artist’s inspiration was not from watching a prostitute with a man? Of course.  Would the man buying meat in the market prefer that the meat had not been sacrificed to an idol? Of course.

And now bringing this full circle back to this modern topic of the use pornography by Christians. Would we prefer that all images of men and women having sex were inspired by (photographs of) married couples? Of course we would.  But once the image is made, it is simply that – an image. Just as meat was just meat.”

The issue of porn production is not that much different than movie productions in general.  Would we prefer that every movie we watched adhere to Christian values throughout the movie? Of course we would. Many great Christian movie production companies have started in the last 20 years and we enjoy these great Christian movies and we would like to see more of them.

In the same way we as Christians should support the production of pornographic movies that adhere to a Christian worldview of sex.  That means movies that use only married actors to perform sex scenes. It also means that these movies do not have types of sexual activities that violate God’s law such as me having sex with men and orgies.

From an amateur perspective, we should encourage Christian married couples to produce nude images and images of sex acts that are within the bounds of God’s law.

How The Production of Amateur Porn Can Be A Ministry to Men

Remember that we have continuously shown throughout this entire series on Porn that the real sexual sin we need to guard against is sexual covetousness. This is the lust which is condemned by Christ in Matthew 5:28.  Sexual covetousness, the thought of a enticing another person into having sex outside of marriage, is what proceeds the physical acts of fornication and adultery.

For multiple reasons men are bombarded by the temptation to actually seek women out for fornication.  Sometimes it is because a man’s wife is disabled or has other health problems that make sex difficult for them.  For other men their wife may be wrongly denying him.

For some men, they may be married to much older women who have bodies that do not visually arouse them anymore.  They need to view younger and more beautiful women to build up their arousal so they can have good sex with their wife.

Still for other men their wife may be totally sexually submissive and give him sex any time he wants.  Why would these men need anything else? Because God has naturally created men with a polygynous sexual nature.  Men naturally desire a variety of women.

In order to help these men avoid the temptation to flirt with other women and thus enter into sexually covetous thoughts toward them they need to exercise their sexual nature in ways that will not tempt them to sin.

Some might say “well men can just masturbate and think about their wives”.  But ladies that does not always work and in most cases it does not work.  Men need visual excitement, newness and variety to be able to masturbate effectively.

It is for all these reasons above that the production of amateur porn by Christian couples can be a powerful tool in helping men to avoid real sexual temptation.  Such imagery gives men the variety they need and gives them material to use for fantasy and they can use this to masturbate to fully exercise their sexual nature without sinning before God.

This type of ministry does not cause men to sin. It keeps them from sinning and it can even help arouse a man for sex with his wife.

The Decision to Produce Amateur Porn is the Husband’s Alone and Not the Wife’s

The Bible tells us in Ephesians 5:22-24 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing”.

If you were to ask most Christians today “Who is the powerful human authority God made?” and you gave them the choices of Civil authorities (like Kings, Presidents, Governors), Church authorities (Pastors), Fathers or Husbands – most Christians would choose civil authorities over their citizens or fathers over their children.

The reason they would answer with one of those two answers is because most Christians are woefully ignorant of what the Bible says.

The most powerful human authority God ever established is the ONLY human authority to whom he tells the one under their authority to submit to them “as unto the Lord”.   God does not tell citizens to submit to their authorities “as unto the Lord”.  He does not tell church members to submit to their pastors as “as unto the Lord”.  God does not even tell children to submit to their parents “unto the Lord”. It is only regarding the authority of the husband that God tells women to submit to their husbands “as unto the Lord”.

And God makes this principle even clearer when he tells wives they are to submit to their husbands “in every thing” as the Church submits to Christ in everything.

Is there an exception to a wife’s submission to her husband in “every thing”?  Yes.  And the Apostles gave us that exception in Acts 5:29 “Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men”.

If a husband asks his wife to do something God has clearly identified as sin then she must disobey her husband to obey God.  If a woman’s husband tells her to murder someone she can and should disobey him because God’s command says in Exodus 21:13 “Thou shalt not kill”.   If a woman’s husband asks her to engage in sexual activity with another man than she must refuse because God says in Exodus 21:14 “Thou shalt not commit adultery”.

Did you know that the Bible actually clearly defines what it means for woman to commit adultery?

“But as a wife that committeth adultery, which taketh strangers instead of her husband!”

Ezekiel 16:32 (KJV)

Christian wives – are you taking other men, meaning having sexual relations with other men when you let your husband take sexual pictures of you or when you let him take videos or pictures of you having sex with him?  The answer is absolutely not.

When a wife produces amateur porn with her husband that may be viewed by other men, she is NOT committing adultery with those other men but rather she is rightfully submitting to her husband in EVERYTHING as God has commanded her to do.

And on more thing, I want to bring up about adultery.  In Deuteronomy 22:22 we read “If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel”.   The phrase translated in English as “a woman married to an husband” is not as literal as the original Hebrew text of the Bible.  In the Hebrew that phrase is literally “a woman owned by an owner”. In the Hebrew the word for owner is is used synonymously with the word with another word for man.

So literally the Bible teaches that a woman’s husband is her man and her owner! For a woman to be married to a man was for her to become owned by him.

This understanding of the husband being the master/owner of his wife is confirmed even in the New Testament when it points Christian women back to the Old Testament view of marriage in I Peter 3:5-6 where it states “For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:  Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement”.

The word ‘lord’ there has the same meaning as the Hebrew word for master/owner from the Old Testament.  Christian wives the Bible is crystal clear on this.  Your husband is your master and owner and you are to obey him in everything.

Some wives might argue – “But God commands me to dress modestly and making porn for my husband that he shares with other men would violate that command”.  Again, this interpretation of the Bible is flawed.

In 1 Timothy 2:9 the Bible states “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array”.  The word translated as “modest” is a translation of the Greek word Kosmios.  It has nothing to do with sex or dressing non-sexually as we often associate modesty today.  It has as do with “order”, “orderly” or “appropriateness”.  And the word “apparel” is a translation of the Greek word “Katastole” which basically means to be fully covered or clothed.

So, it says women should be “appropriately fully covered”.  But where should women be “appropriately fully covered”? When a woman wears a swimsuit to a beach is she fully covered? No.  When a woman takes her clothes off at the doctor’s office for an examination is she fully covered? No.  When a woman is at home and takes her clothes off and walks around naked in her house is she fully covered? No.

The question is WHEN does God insist that women be fully clothed in 1 Timothy?  The answer is found in 1 Timothy 3:15 when the Bible states “But if I tarry long, that thou mayest know how thou oughtest to behave thyself in the house of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth”. It is in church ladies! You are to be appropriately fully clothed when you go to worship in Church.

Christian wives, whether you are fully clothed in any other situation is at the discretion of your husband.

And let me just stop here.  God not only tells you to submit to your husband in everything but he tells you if you are to learn anything about the Bible you are to learn it from him.  Speaking of wives, the Bible states in 1 Corinthians 14:35 “And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

Ladies – your husband is to be the one whom you go to for your interpretation and the applications of the Word of God.  Not your Pastor, not some Christian author or blogger.  Now you are saying “Then I guess I should not listen to you!”.  Well if your husband has read what I have written here and he agrees with it and he wants you read what I have written here then you should listen to what I have said here.

Maybe he agrees 80 percent with me and disagrees 20 percent.  Then you go along with what he agrees with me on and follow him where he disagrees.  This is not a complicated principle; it is very simple.  Follow your husband ladies!

So Christian wives, the decision as to whether you as couple or you as woman produce pornographic images is your husband’s decision and his alone and you are to follow his decision.

Husbands Have a Right to Mold and Shape Their Wives

Some Christian wives might say “I agree with God’s Word that my husband owns me and I must submit to him in everything.  But he should not ask me to do anything that I am not comfortable with”.   Ladies your husband absolutely has the right to call you out of your comfort zone and completely remold and shape how you view the world and even how you view porn or how you display your body.

As we showed previously from Ezekiel 16:32, God pictures his relationship with Israel as that of a husband and a wife.  In Jeremiah 3:20 the Bible states Surely as a wife treacherously departeth from her husband, so have ye dealt treacherously with me, O house of Israel, saith the Lord”. Notice the way God refers to his wife when he uses the phrase “O house of Israel”.

Later in this same book of the Bible addressed to Israel as God’s wife God says the following to his wife, the nation of Israel:

“The word which came to Jeremiah from the Lord, saying, 2 Arise, and go down to the potter’s house, and there I will cause thee to hear my words. 3 Then I went down to the potter’s house, and, behold, he wrought a work on the wheels.  4 And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter: so he made it again another vessel, as seemed good to the potter to make it.

5 Then the word of the Lord came to me, saying, 6 O house of Israel, cannot I do with you as this potter? saith the Lord. Behold, as the clay is in the potter’s hand, so are ye in mine hand, O house of Israel.”

Jeremiah 18:1-6 (KJV)

God said in his position as Israel’s husband that he had the right to mold and shape her as his wife.  But she would not let him.

Man is a husband to his wife in the same way God is a husband to his people – this is the clear teaching of the Bible.  Just as God had the right to mold and shape his wife, so too husbands have the right to mold and shape their wives. This application and understanding of Jeremiah as applying to a husband’s right to mold and shape his wife is confirmed in the New Testament’s statement in Ephesians 5:23 that “the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church” and Ephesians 5:22’s statement that wives are to submit to their “husbands, as unto the Lord”.

Christian wives, I know it is difficult to overcome your fears and discomfort and fully give control over your life and body to your husband.  But this is the command of God.

The Bible talks about two types of fears in regard to wives.  One is good and encouraged and the other is bad and is discouraged.

In I Peter 3:1-2 we read “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.    The fear being called for in this case is a “fearful respect” or literally “reverence”.  Women are to not just respect their husbands, but God calls them to reverence their husbands.

But in this same passage speaking to wives we read the following exhortation to women to “not be afraid”:

“5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”

I Peter 3:5-6 (KJV)

So, women are exhorted to be in subjection to their husbands, to obey their husbands, to view their husbands as their master/owner and to not be afraid.  What should wives not be afraid of? They should not be afraid of obeying their husbands.  The need to let goes of their insecurities and doubt and simply trust in God and their husbands and obey!

Again the Scriptures give us the following exhortation to let go of our fears when it states in 1 John 4:18 “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love”.

Christian wives – hear what God’s Word is saying to you.  That insecurity you have about your body – that a fear God calls you to leg go of.  God made your body and your husband loves your body.  If he wishes to display let him! Submit and obey. And God will bless you and your husband for it.

And realize that if your husband chooses to direct you in producing porn, that the images you produce can be a real blessing to other men.  You can help other men avoid REAL sexual sins like having sex with prostitutes or women not their wives by giving them an image that they an enjoy and masturbate to.

Ladies you are not causing men to sin, but rather you are keeping men from sinning!

Can A Husband Force His Wife to Produce Porn for Him and With Him?

Absolutely.  Your husband does not have to ask your permission and he does not have to have your consent.  You belong to him – he is your master and owner.  In Old Testament we see that God “humbled” his wife Israel:

“2 And thou shalt remember all the way which the LORD thy God led thee these forty years in the wilderness, to humble thee, and to prove thee, to know what was in thine heart, whether thou wouldest keep his commandments, or no. 3 And he humbled thee, and suffered thee to hunger, and fed thee with manna, which thou knewest not, neither did thy fathers know; that he might make thee know that man doth not live by bread only, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of the LORD doth man live.”

Deuteronomy 8:2-3 (KJV)

The word “humbled” in verse 3 has the idea of God forcing Israel to do what he commanded against her will. And he humbled, forced his wife to do things against her will by removing her comforts to bring her back to him.

In the same way a husband can force or in Biblical terms “humble” his wife into producing porn because she is his wife and she belongs to him.

But Christian wives – it should not come to this.  Don’t make your husband have to force you, but rather willingly obey him in this.  Let go of your fear and submit.

What About Web Cam Broadcasts?

A few times across this blog I have mentioned that people can have virtual sex through web cams and this would be sin. I have had some women write me telling me their husbands have asked them to masturbate on live web cams for the sexual enjoyment of other men.  And they are concerned that they are engaging in a form of virtual sex.

So I believe it is very important for me to clarify both for the wives involved in this and the husbands producing amateur porn via web cam broadcast where the solid lines are.

Remember that God has reserved sexual relations to be between a man and woman in marriage.  Only a husband and wife can relate to one another sexually.

If a man and woman are mutually masturbating to one another over web cams where they are communicating either through chat or instant messages on the screen or through some form of two- way audio (like a phone or headset on the computer) that is by definition sexual relations between a man and woman.  If that man and woman on both ends of those web cams are not married that act is an act of fornication and therefore sin.

However if a live web cam broadcast is one way, with the woman simply broadcasting herself masturbating and she is not talking to some man on the other end then where is the sexual relations between the man and the woman?  It is no different than if a man were watching an after hours adult movie on Cinemax or HBO that is broadcast through his cable box.   So the answer is that a live web cam broadcast is not virtual sexual relations as long as there is zero communication between the man and woman during such a broadcast.  

Some have also asked me about virtual sexual devices people use for web broadcasts.  There are some devices where the woman can use dildo with sensors on it which sends out signals through the broadcast.  Men who receive this broadcast can use the female receiver for this on their penis.  So in essence, every time she moves the dildo on the screen, it simulating that movement for the men watching.  Now some would argue that this indeed is virtual sex.  But I will explain why it still is not virtual sex.

The movement signals sent by the device the woman is using are no different than the picture or audio signals being sent.  It simply is a three way communication broadcast, instead of a two way.   So the men watching the web cam broadcast are being stimulated visually through the images, in auditory form through the sounds she makes and finally physically through the signals being sent to the receiver devices.

But again as along as she is not relating specifically to any of these men nor are they communicating with her it is no different than if they were sitting in front of their TV watching any other broadcast.

In other words, you can’t have sexual relations with an image, a sound recording, or even a masturbation device that receives signals.  You can only have sexual relations by having some sort of two way communication between yourself and the other person involved.

A Final Word to Wives Making Amateur Porn

If every time you remove your clothes, masturbate, ride a dildo or perform oral sex on a dildo – you remember that it is your husband on the other end of that recording device this will become far easier.  You are doing this for him and no other man. It is absolutely irrelevant whether he never releases the recording to another person or he does a live broadcast to 1 million men.  You are not having sexual relations with those men – you are only sexual relating to your husband.  What he does with recordings of your sexual beauty is at his discretion because you belong to him.

Safeguards that Husbands Need to Enforce

Husbands now I am going to speak to you as the head of your wife.  As I have made the case from the Scriptures up to this point, it is your right to command and even force your wife to produce porn for you.  Whether you keep it for yourself in private, or share it with others is your decision as her husband.

But you need to have safeguards in place for both you and your wife.  Below is a list of safeguards husbands should follow in order to avoid this changing from a wonderful ministry to other men into a sinful activity:

  1. No man should ever be able to talk in a sexual way to your wife except you. Guard her email and phone contact information. They don’t get to send her emails, text messages or have any other communication with your wife. They don’t get to send your wife requests as to poses or actions she should do.  You and you alone are her director in this ministry. Certainly, you can take suggestions from other men, but you need to be careful with that not turning into something where you tell your wife who wants what.  Every pose she does is FOR YOU and what you do with it is your discretion.
  2. While there is no sin in your wife displaying her beauty, even publicly, there is sin if you ask her to flirt with other men. For instance, if you ask your wife to wear a sexy outfit to dinner and the waiter notices there is no sin. But if you ask her to flirt with him there is sin this.  In flirting with him in this way, she is sexually relating to a man not her husband.  You are the only man she may flirt with.
  3. Your wife could wear a tiny bikini to the beach or other places and there is no sin in her wearing this very revealing clothing. But again, the sin comes when you encourage her or other men to flirt with her.  Again, no man may flirt with your wife except you! Remember that.
  4. You need to guard yourself as well. Remember this rule. Fantasizing is not sin, but flirting is if it is another man’s wife.  So, if the wife you are receiving pictures of is one that you go to church with you need to be careful that your interactions with her are completely above board.  In order to avoid flirting you should very much limit how much you talk with or interact with her in person.

 

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