This “daughter of the king” theology (really heresy) has been taught for many years by both conservative and liberal Christian women.  And this teaching has been extended to men being taught that “Husbands should treat their wives as daughters of the king”.  In other words, husbands should treat their wives as princesses.

In her book “Everyday Princess: Daughter of the King”, Sheila Keckler Butt writes the following:

“Young ladies: Wouldn’t it be awesome to be a real princess… not just for a day… or for a month… but for everyday… forever?! God invites as to be just that, and then gives us the perfect instruction manual for becoming His child and living like a courageous daughter of The King.”

But the truth is that nowhere, not one time in the Scriptures, are Christian women referred to as “Daughters of the King” or as princesses.

Christians Have One Prince and That is Jesus Christ

The Bible calls us “the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:26).  And it also says God “predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself” (Ephesians 1:5).  So, we as believers are adopted children of God through faith in Jesus Christ – Amen.

The Bible calls us as Christians “a royal priesthood” (1 Peter 2:9) and says that we are citizens of heaven (Philippians 3:20).   

But the Bible never ever refers to Christians as princes or princesses.  Only Jesus Christ is called a prince in relation to God:

“The God of our fathers raised up Jesus, whom ye slew and hanged on a tree. Him hath God exalted with his right hand to be a Prince and a Saviour, for to give repentance to Israel, and forgiveness of sins.”

Acts 5:30-31 (KJV)

Does the Bible Tell Husbands to Treat their Wives as Daughters of the King or Princesses?

Nowhere does the Bible say what we see on Instagram, Facebook pages or Christian blogs that husbands should treat their wives as “daughters of king” aka princesses.   But rather, this is how the Bible actually tells husbands to treat their wives:

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”

1 Peter 3:7 (KJV)

The Bible teaches us that men are to honor their wives as “the weaker vessel” and if their wife is a Christian, they are to honor her as a fellow heir of eternal life.  Neither this passage, or any other passage of the Bible tells men to honor their wives as “daughters of the king” or “princesses of God”.

But while the Bible never refers to Christians as princes or princesses it does in fact refer to husbands as the earthly lords (masters) of their wives:

“For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”

1 Peter 3:5-6 (KJV)

Conclusion

God has given women an important part to play in his creation plan.   He has made woman beautiful for man, to bring man pleasure, to bear and care for his children, to keep his home and submit to and serve him (Song of Solomon 4:7, Proverbs 5:18-19, 1 Timothy 5:14, Ephesians 5:22-24).

The modern “daughter of the king” teaching which is popular among Christian women today is just another way of elevating women to a place God never meant them to be in.   

The Bible does not teach that husbands should treat their wives as “daughters of the king” but it does teach women to treat their husbands as their masters (1 Peter 3:5-6).

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