Christian husband – the Bible clearly states that you are the head of your wife and your home. But did you know that the Bible calls your wife the “manager” of your home? These roles do not conflict, but instead they complement one another.
For those who don’t know the Bible’s teaching on male headship over women here is a small primer:
God has established the headship of man over woman
“But I want you to know that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of the woman, and God is the head of Christ.” – I Corinthians 11:3(HCSB)
“For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. Now as the church submits to Christ, so wives are to submit to their husbands in everything.” – Ephesians 5:23-34(HCSB)
“One who manages his own household competently, having his children under control with all dignity.” – I Timothy 3:4(HCSB)
The Scriptures are clear here, as well as in multiple other passages (both Old and New Testaments), that a husband has authority over his wife and his family (contrary to popular teachings of our Egalitarian and Christian Feminist friends).
You are to be the head of your home, but your wife is to be the manager of your home
“Therefore, I want younger women to marry, have children, manage their households, and give the adversary no opportunity to accuse us.” – I Timothy 5:14(HCSB)
“Encourage the young women to love their husbands and to love their children, to be self-controlled, pure, homemakers, kind, and submissive to their husbands, so that God’s message will not be slandered.” – Titus 2:4-5(HCSB)
The phrase “manage their households” in I Timothy 5:14, is an English translation of the Greek word “Oikodespoteo”, which comes from two Greek words “oikos” (house) and “despoteo” (to rule). This literally means to “to occupy one’s self in the management of a household”. The King James Version translates this as “a guide to house”, which is also an accurate translation.
Titus 2:4, a companion passage to this subject of women and the home, calls women to be “homemakers” (translated as “keepers at home” by the KJV). This is a translation of the Greek word “Oikouros” which literally means “watcher or keeper of the house” or “caring for the affairs of the house”.
Proverbs 31 shows a wife taking care of all the affairs of the home while her husband Is away.
7 Ways to let your wife manage your home
So up to this point we have established two foundational truths about the home that are taught in Scripture. The husband is the head of the home, but the wife is the manager of the home. The wife being manager of the home, is a delegated authority from her husband, but it is an authority that God wants men to give to their wives. Below are ways that you, as a Christian husband can encourage, and delegate the management of your home to your wife.
- Your wife picks the appliances, you fund them and have them delivered.
- Your wife picks the paint color for the house, you fund it, and put it on the walls where she wants it.
- Your wife picks how the walls of your home are decorated, again you fund it, and hang it till she thinks it looks straight on the wall.
- Your wife decides the style of all furniture, your job is to fund it and get it in the house where she wants it.
- You can make dinner requests, but don’t ever tell her how to cook – that’s her domain.
- Your wife picks out the clothing for the members of her house, you are simply there to fund said clothing, and hold the bags as she shops.
- While you are the ultimate decider of the discipline policies and other things regarding the teaching of your children, a wise man will always hear what the mother(and manager) of his children has to say before making any determinations.
I will just say one thing about “funding”. Husband, as the head of your home, it is your job, and it is a moral responsibility for you to set the funding policies of your home. Your wife comes to you with a need in the home, you discuss the need, and determine the appropriate level of funding. Many men have spent themselves and their homes into financial ruin by not setting any spending limits on themselves, or their wives, and this ought not to be the case in a Christian home.
But having said all that – if you as a Christian husband will simply stand back and let your wife manage your home(without trying to interfere and micro manage her as she does this) you will find that God has naturally equipped your wife to make your home the best it can be. The concept that “a home is not truly a home without a woman’s touch” is not only a true statement, it is also a Biblical one.
This has been the second part of our series “How to be a godly husband”. Check back for more updates to this series.
6 thoughts on “7 ways to let your wife manage your home”
Love this !
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I would personally not so much agree with the carrying the bag’s part. I think God intended woman to shop with other woman, while the man are keeping themselves busy with other man.
I here you – women do love to shop with other women. I am just saying a husband can enjoy shopping with his wife from time to time.
You list for the husband to fund whatever the wife picks, but proverbs 31 mentions the wife making money to provide things as well. What is the husband allowed to do that the wife isn’t? What is being subject to a husband in everything?
Yes, the wife may help with providing for the home. You asked “What is the husband allowed to do that the wife isn’t? What is being subject to a husband in everything?” And the answer is the husband can override his wife’s decisions, but she cannot override his. And he can tell her to do something she does not want her to do, she cannot do that toward him because he is her authority.
While it is true that God has appointed women as the managers of the domestic affairs of the home and husbands should defer to them in matters of the care of the home wherever possible – the husband can override any decision his wife makes including those related to the domestic affairs of the home.