“Should a man attempt CDD with a woman that has serious mental illness?”, “Is it ok to begin implementing CDD on my honeymoon or should I wait?” and “Is it ok to use bondage as part of CDD?” These were some of several great follow up questions that husbands emailed me after listening to my new podcast “A Husband’s Guide to Implementing Christian Domestic Discipline”.
In this follow-up podcast I answer these listener questions and several others that were sent to me. You definitely need to listen to the first 3-part guide on CDD before you listen to this podcast as this is really an add on to that.
Sadomasochism is a word used to represent two corruptions of the human nature by sin, sadism and masochism. In this article I wrote for Biblicalsexology.com, I show how sadism and masochism are actually a perversion of the God given desires of man to dominate his wife and the woman to be dominated by her husband.
The sad truth is that there are many Christian marriages, marriages built on the principles of Biblical patriarchy as well as the Biblical principles of Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD), that have fallen prey to this perversion of sadomasochism.
I have read articles elsewhere online about sadomasochism from a Christian perspective, but none of them compare and contrast the biblical practices of CDD and dominant sex with sadomasochism. In my article I clearly articulate the two styles of sex which God allows in marriage which are affectionate sex (i.e. making love) as well as dominant sex with the sinful practice of sadomasochistic sex.
Why should a Christian wife be receptive to Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) and rough sex from her husband? Where does the Bible support Christian Domestic Discipline? Where does the Bible allow men to have rough sex with their wives? What should a wife expect when her husband first implements CDD? What should she expect when he first has rough sex with her? Is there an intersection between CDD and rough sex? What are the Biblical limits for CDD and rough sex? How is CDD different from BDSM?
In this podcast, “A Wife’s Guide to Receiving Domestic Discipline and Rough Sex”, I answer all those questions that Christian wives may have about CDD and rough sex in marriage.
In this new article I wrote for BiblicalSexology.com, I tackle the common but false interpretation of 1 Corinthians 7:2 which states “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband”. For decades, to appease our post-feminist culture, this passage has been used to teach the false doctrine of the sexual equality of husbands and wives in marriage.
In this article I prove from the original Greek language of 1 Corinthians 7:2 as well as other Scripture passages on the relationship of the husband toward his wife, that the husband and wife do NOT exclusively own one another sexually. The husband has exclusive sexual ownership over his wife, the wife does not have this over her husband. I show that this passage does not prohibit polygamy, but rather it allows it.
And I also show why the common false interpretation of 1 Corinthians 7:2 is part of a larger effort to elevate a woman’s power over her husband, something God never gave her.
At the height of the second wave feminist movement of the 1970s, the phrase “Well-behaved women seldom make history“ was coined by Harvard professor Laurel Thatcher Ulrich. She wrote the phrase while writing a little article in 1976 about funeral services and lamenting that the good that women do in society often goes unnoticed. In that article, she was not meaning to encourage women to misbehave in order to get attention.
But then her newly coined phrase “Well-behaved women seldom make history“ took on a life of its own. Feminists worldwide seized on the phrase and it went viral. It then became a rallying cry for women to rise up against “the patriarchy”.
It is true that well-behaved women seldom make it into the history books, but sometimes they do. There is a woman in the Bible whose good behavior, reverence and submission toward her husband earned her the place of being an example for all woman. And this woman’s name was Sarah.
“For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.” 1 Peter 3:5-6
Ladies – even if your name is never recorded in a history book, you can make history in the lives of your children, your grandchildren and your great grandchildren. Your example of submission, service and reverence to your husband and your service to your children can make history in their lives and have a greater impact that you may ever know.
Merriam Webster’s dictionary defines a “teacher’s pet” as “a pupil who has won the teacher’s special favor”. And this is what every wife should strive for, to be her husband’s pet, his student who has won his special favor.
The Bible teaches that a woman is not only to regard her husband as her head (Eph 5:23) and her master (1 Peter 3:6) but also as her teacher.
The Bible says this of wives in 1 Corinthians 14:35:
“And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.”
And 1 Peter 3:1-2 teaches wives to win their husbands with their subjection, their reverence and overall good behavior.
The husband is to be his wife’s teacher. Her worldview should be shaped by his teachings. And the wife is to be the teacher’s pet.
This requires a woman to humble herself and rid herself of the pride that this modern post feminist world fills women with.
A 24-year-old Christian Indian woman seeks a godly Christian husband who ascribes to traditional gender roles and believes in Biblical Patriarchy. She is looking for a man who will lead her, provide for her and protect her as she seeks to serve him by fully giving herself to him and giving him her respect, her obedience and bearing his children and keeping his home.
She is fluid in English and even tutors’ others in English as well. She is fine with men from other nationalities and is willing to relocate for the right godly man. She loves children and ministers to children. She is also bold in her faith is a faithful witness of the Gospel to those around her.
Physically speaking, she has lovely dark skin, long dark hair and has a slim and fit figure.
She does not mind if her future husband is a little younger than her as long as he fully equipped to lead her, provide for her and protect her.
Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or leave a comment here with your information as a man if you are interested in speaking to this young Christian woman.
I just released a brand new podcast to my podcast site BGRLearning.com. “His Image Our Purpose” is a completely new version of the first podcast series I did for my podcast site. This time instead of it being 12 parts, it is one – one hour condensed podcast. I talk about the two most important doctrines in the Bible in this podcast – the doctrine of the Gospel first, and then the doctrine of Biblical gender roles.
I have made this part of the free area of my podcast site – you don’t have to subscribe to listen. You can listen for free to this podcast here.
While it is not a sin for a man to help his wife out around the house from time to time, it absolutely goes against God’s design for a man’s life ambition to be a househusband while he has a wife that goes out and financially supports him.
God created the man, the male, to image him and thereby bring him glory (1 Cor 11:7). In Ephesians 5:29 the Bible says men are called to provide for and protect their wives as Christ provides for and protects his church.
He created the woman for the man to be a suitable companion (Gen 2:18), the bearer and caregiver for his children (1 Tim 5:14) and the keeper of his home (Titus 2:5). He created marriage to be between a man and woman ONLY with the man leading, providing for and protecting the woman (Eph 5:22-33) while the woman submits to the husband serving him as her earthly lord (1 Peter 3:5-6).
Why do certain men desire to be homemakers and care for the children while desiring their wives to be the primary breadwinners? Because of the corruption of sin within them. Some men may even look masculine on the outside while having very feminine natures on the inside. The same goes for women looking feminine on the outside but being very masculine on the inside. But God calls us as men and women to find this corruption of sin. If we are born into a male body, then we have a certain role to play and we are born into a female body then we have another role to play.
It is one thing if a man’s wife becomes disabled and he has to step into her role in the home or the husband becomes disabled and the wife has to step in his role as the breadwinner. That is not what we are talking about here. What we are talking about is when a man and woman plan and choose a life where he will be a househusband and she will be the breadwinner they are planning to break model of Christ and the church which they were both created to model in the institution of marriage which God created.
For a man to seek out the role that God specifically gave to woman is a sin against his creator.