4 Steps To Confronting Your Husband’s Sexual Refusal

Usually when we think of sexual refusal we think of women refusing sex to their husbands. But while it is true that most sexual refusal involves the wife refusing the husband, there are some cases where it is the husband refusing the wife. And this is just as much a sin before God as a wife refusing her husband sexually.

Women are also wired by God to make themselves desirable for and to feel desired by men. That is why the vast majority of beauty products are marketed to and bought by women. For a woman to admit her husband no longer wants sex with her is the same in her mind as admitting she is no longer desirable.

It is for these two reasons, the rarity of husbands refusing sex from their wives and women not wanting to admit they are not desired by their husbands that women can sometimes go years without admitting the issue.

In this podcast I first discuss several reasons a husband may not be desiring sex and also talk about women sometimes in a marriage needing to step up and initiate more.

But then I do address the issue many women have written me about over the years that they try to initiate all the time, even though they would prefer he does, yet he still turns them down even when they initiate sex.

I talk about how a woman, because of her subordinate position, must address this in a somewhat different manner than a husband would with his wife as her authority and give steps to address the situation.

Click on the link below to listen to this podcast.

8 Steps To Confronting Your Wife’s Sexual Refusal

Does your wife deny sex to you for several weeks or months at a time? Maybe it has been years. Have your been told by Pastors and counselors that this behavior on the part of your wife is your fault and that it is not a sin for her to deny you sex if she feels unattracted to you and does not desire sex with you?

In “The Seduction of Pornography and the Integrity of Christian Marriage, Part Two“, Dr. Albert Mohler, the President of the Southern Baptist convention, stated the following about sex in marriage:

a woman has every right to expect that her husband will earn access to the marriage bed…I believe that God means for a man to be civilized, directed, and stimulated toward marital faithfulness by the fact that his wife will freely give herself to him sexually only when he presents himself as worthy of her attention and desire.”

The statement above is very appealing to our modern post-feminist world. Secularists, feminists and many Christians applauded Dr. Mohler’s statement that men must earn access to sex with their wives. And this philosophy that men must earn sex with their wives is seen in Pastor’s offices and counseling offices across America.

By this commonly held belief, if your wife is denying you sex the sin is not on her part, but rather on yours for not making yourself “worthy of her attention and desire”.

The problem is that the Bible does not teach that sex in marriage is a privilege, but instead the Bible teaches that sex in marriage is a right and duty.

The Bible says the following in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (KJV):

3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”

The Bible does not teach that a husband and wife must mutually desire sex in order to have sex, but rather it teaches that if either one desires sex, the other must render their body to their spouse for sex. The only thing “mutual” about sex in the Bible is the mutual desire to abstain from sex for a short time of prayer and fasting.

So what is a man to do with what seems like the whole world against him in this matter of his wife denying him sex?

You can find the answers in my 2-part, 2 hour podcast series below.

Also read my original article that inspired the podcasts above here – “8 Steps to Confronting Your Wife’s Sexual Refusal“.

Three Biblical Approaches to Sex in Marriage

Is the romantic approach to sex the only Biblical approach to sex in marriage?

The vast majority of church pastors and Christian teachers today would have Christians believe that a romantic and feminine centric approach to sex is the only approach to sex which God approves of. 

Teachings like “Let’s get rid of duty of sex” and “Intercourse is not automatically intimacy” and “Real intimacy requires selflessness” are common teachings on some Christian Masculinity and Femininity Instagram pages.   

The common thread in many of these teachings is if men seek sex with their wives in way that is more pleasing for themselves and not as pleasing to their wives that they are being “selfish” and “childish”.  

And then we have other Christian Masculinity teachers making the following statements and encouraging their male followers to believe and emulate these statements:

“I don’t need sex from my wife, I don’t care about it, I don’t do anything for it…except be the most attractive version of me, and so therefore she is all over me like white on rice, because this is the standard.”

“You don’t NEED to have sex with your wife, you don’t NEED her to do anything for you…”

I am not arguing that the romantic approach to sex is bad or wrong.  In fact, I see in the Scriptures that the romantic approach to sex is actually commanded of husbands.

However, the romantic approach to sex is not the only approach to sex that God commands of husbands toward their wives or of wives toward their husbands.  And this is the truth that engaged couples as well as married couples need to understand and accept.

The truth is that the Bible teaches that there are two other approaches to sex in marriage besides the romantic approach and one of these other approaches to sex is actually commanded just like the romantic approach to sex is commanded. 

A marriage which only incorporates the romantic feminine centric approach to sex is not honoring God because it does not fulfill all his commands and purposes for sex in marriage.

In my new two-part podcast series entitled “Three Biblical Approaches to Sex In Marriage” I answer these questions and more using Biblical principles, commands and sexual euphemisms:

What are the differences between the masculine and feminine sexual natures?

Do men and women need or just desire sex?

Is there a difference between intercourse and intimacy?

How is sexual selfishness defined?

Is it wrong for a man to see his wife as a sex object?

Is it wrong for a man to grope his wife?

Does a man always have to make sure his wife is in the mood before they have sex?

Is it wrong for a man to ask his wife do sexual things she is not comfortable with?

Is it wrong for a man to have dominant or rough sex with his wife in marriage?

How can husbands determine a proper balance between the three approaches as they seek to lead their wives sexually in marriage?

You click on the link below to go to my podcast site, BGRLearning.com and listen to this two part podcast and hundreds of other podcasts about sex, gender roles and marriage all from a Biblical perspective.

Give Your Husband the Gift He Actually Wants for Christmas

The vast majority of wives get things like ties, shirts, pants and other such things for their husbands for Christmas.  But if men are honest with themselves this is not what they really want from their wives for Christmas.  The gift they want from their wives would not cost their wives any money. 

But what it would require is for their wives to sacrifice their pride and face their fears to truly seek to please their husbands. 

Many traditional wives would respond at this point “Hey I already willing give my body to my husband anytime he desires it! What more am I supposed to do?”

And that ladies, is the million-dollar question that I answer in this three-part podcast series from BGRLearning.com.  (And no, it won’t cost you a million bucks to find out the answers).

In Proverbs 5:19, God commands that husbands are to be ravished (literally intoxicated) by their wives.  And the wording of the passage does not mean “men – be content with whatever your wife is willing to offer in the bedroom”.  If you look in the slide show above, I show how the Hebrew words in the passage actually call for men to “drink their fill” of their wife’s body, to use her to satisfy all his desires and she is to be ravishing toward him.

But how does a wife go about ravishing (intoxicating) her husband? Does this mean she must initiate all the time? Of course not.  While it is certainly good and healthy for a wife to initiate with her husband at times, God has designed men to be the primary initiators in the marriage bed.

Being a ravishing wife is not about initiating all the time.   It’s about an attitude toward your husband and his God given masculine desires. 

Thankfully God did not just tell women to be ravishing toward their husbands in Proverbs 5:19. He also gave us an entire book of the Bible, The Song of Solomon, which shows women how to be ravishing wives.   In this three-part podcast series, I explore many metaphors in the book of Ecclesiastes to help women learn how to be ravishing wives.

Click here to to go to BGRLearning.com and listen to this series.

Chivalrous Patriarchy Is NOT Biblical Patriarchy

In recent years we have seen studies and articles like “After Decades of Decline, A Rise in Stay-at-Home Mothers” from Pew Research. And “More Millennial Women Are Becoming Stay-At-Home Moms — Here’s Why” from Forbes as well as the recent “The Real Tradwives of 2022: Why More Young Moms Are Becoming Traditional Housewives” from Katie Couric Media.  

All of these articles and studies have secular humanists, feminists and egalitarians quaking in their boots.   Why? Because they show younger woman seeing the flaws of feminism and egalitarianism as exhibited in their parents lives and marriages.  They saw the strain their mother’s career put on her trying to balance spending time with them and keeping up with work.  They may even have seen how their mother’s career directly led to their parent’s divorce. 

Not only are these “trad wife” women rejecting careerism for women, but many of them are also embracing patriarchy and specifically the idea of women submitting to their husbands. 

In “The Real Tradwives of 2022: Why More Young Moms Are Becoming Traditional Housewives”, Jo Piazza laments that “A woman submitted to her husband and letting him take agency over her entire life is a dangerous throwback”.

As Bible believing Christians though, we praise God for raising up a faithful remnant of young men and women in this wicked and perverse generation who want to return to his design of Biblical gender roles.

But as young Christian men and women seek to return to a patriarchal life, we must come alongside them and warn them of the fact that not all systems of patriarchy are biblical.

In America, there are two competing systems of patriarchy and those are Chivalrous Patriarchy and Biblical Patriarchy.  Chivalrous Patriarchy goes by a new name given to it in late 1980s by John Piper and the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood.  That new name is Complementarianism.

Differences Between Chivalrous Patriarchy and Biblical Patriarchy

Biblical Patriarchy is a Christian belief system which embraces everything that both the Old and New Testaments teach about gender roles and marriage. 

Biblical Patriarchy fully accepts the Bible’s teaching that men are to have full dominion over women in all areas of society including the civil arena, the church and especially the home. (Genesis 3:16, 1 Corinthians 11:3, 1 Corinthians 14:35,1 Timothy 2:12, 1 Timothy 3:2)

Biblical Patriarchy sees the husband and father as the God ordained patriarch of the home and the most powerful human authority God established. In the view of Biblical Patriarchy, the husband and father have far greater responsibility and authority over the lives of their wives and children than do civil or church authorities whose powers are more limited in scope. (Exodus 22:16-17, Numbers 30, Ephesians 5:22-24, 1 Peter 3:1-4)

Biblical Patriarchy accepts the Biblical commands that women are to be in full subjection to their male head (father, husband or other male) and that women are never to act autonomously outside of some form of male headship in their lives.   Biblical Patriarchy fully embraces that a husband is not just his wife’s male head, but that he is her earthly master appointed by God (Numbers 30, Ephesians 5:22-24,1 Peter 3:5-6).

Biblical Patriarchists accept that it is a shame for women to rule over men. Because women are command to be in full subjection to their male heads, Biblical Patriarchists reject rights give to women since the mid-19th century including child custody and financial support in divorce, the ability of women to own property and women having the right to vote. (Isaiah 3:12 ,1 Corinthians 11:3-10)

Biblical Patriarchists accept that the Bible calls husbands to actively discipline their wives.  Biblical Patriarchists also accepts the fact that Biblical chastening can be both non-physical as well as physical as long as it follows proper Biblical guidelines and safe guards. (Exodus 21:26-27, Deuteronomy 25:3, Proverbs 26:3, Hebrews 12:11, Revelation 3:19)

Biblical Patriarchy also accepts polygamy as fully allowed by God.  It sees man’s polygynous nature not as a corruption of sin, but as the design of God. It also sees the Biblical truth that woman was made for man and therefore sex was made for man.  Biblical Patriarchy embraces the truth that women are commanded to sexually ravish their husbands and they do not condemn forced sex by a husband of his wife in marriage. (Genesis 30:18, Exodus 21:10-11, Deuteronomy 21:14, 2 Samuel 12:8, Proverbs 5:18-19)

Biblical Patriarchy categorically rejects careerism for women and embraces the biblical call for women to be keepers at home with men being providers for the home. (1 Timothy 5:14, Titus 2:4-5)

Chivalrous Patriarchy is set apart from Biblical patriarchy in several ways.

First and foremost, Chivalrous Patriarchy is more dismissive of the Old Testament as being an equal source of divine truth on gender roles.

Chivalrous Patriarchy teaches a much more limited form of male headship than the Bible does.  Chivalrous Patriarchy ignores the Biblical teaching that husbands are not just male heads over their wives, but they are in fact their wives’ masters.   Chivalrous Patriarchy teaches that husbands are merely figure head leaders for their wives and that husbands have no authority or power to compel their wives’ submission.  Submission of wives to their husbands in Chivalrous Patriarchy is completely voluntary.

Chivalrous Patriarchy unequivocally condemns polygamy and fully embraces the romantic view of marriage.  They see man’s polygynous nature as a corruption of sin. Also, Chivalrous Patriarchy does not see sex as primarily created for man, but they sex as equally created for men and women.  Chivalrous Patriarchy teaches men that the goal of sex is to please their wives sexually.  This is why Chivalrous Patriarchy teaches that men should never force or pressure their wives to have sex, but instead wait for their wives to be in the mood for sex since the goal of sex is to please their wives.

Chivalrous Patriarchy categorically denies the Biblical teaching that a husband has the right and responsibility to discipline his wife and especially that he has the option of physically discipling his wife.

Chivalrous Patriarchy teaches that it is a sin for a man to cause his wife pain in any fashion even if it is done without malicious intent and is a result of discipline or as a result of forced sex. Chivalrous Patriarchy condemns forced sex in marriage as “marital rape”.

Complementarianism is a softer form of Chivalrous Patriarchy. It was invented by John Piper and the Council on Biblical Manhood and Woman in 1988. They went further to the left of even Chivalrous Patriarchists in that they no longer saw women as under the strict authority of their fathers in marriage or other major life decisions.

Also Complementarianism denies that women are called to be keepers at home and has no problem with careerism among women.

Origins of Chivalrous Patriarchy (Now known as Complementarianism)

The assault on Biblical patriarchy began with early church fathers like Justin Martyr (100-165 A.D.), Irenaeus (120 A.D. to 200 A.D.) and Tertullian (155 A.D. to 220 A.D) who sought to correct what they saw as an oversight by the Apostles.  They specifically condemned polygamy as incompatible with Christianity.

Then in 285 A.D., Rome began to impose the Roman version of patriarchy on all its provinces.  The constitution of Diocletian and Maximian prohibited polygamy throughout the Roman empire.  The term “Romantic” meant “like the Romans who have only one wife”.

The Jews were among some of the fiercest opponents of the new Roman edict against polygamy claiming their Holy Scriptures allowed this right to all men.  This Jewish resistance eventually led to a new Roman law in 393 A.D., targeted specifically at the Jews, commanding them to give up their ethnic custom of polygamy.

At the same time that Roman laws were seeking to wipe out the last remaining vestiges of polygamy, Church fathers like John Chrysostom (347-407) began to assault the ancient practice of wife discipline.  Chrysostom argued against all forms of physical discipline of wives and instead argued that husbands should always seek to gently correct their wives and then leave them to God. On the other hand, Augustine (354 A.D. to 430 A.D.) argued that if a woman was beaten by her husband in most cases, she needed it.  

Around 700 A.D. new laws started springing up throughout Christian Europe requiring rings for both men and women when entering into marriage.   In previous societies wedding rings for men would have made no sense because men could have more than one wife.  But now with monogamy being strictly enforced – a ring binding a man to only one woman made sense.

Chivalry was a code of conduct that originated around 1100 A.D. amongst medieval Christian knights in Europe.  Besides codes of conduct for war and loyalty to the church and one’s nation it also had specific codes of conduct related to how knights would treat women of noble birth.

Eventually these codes of conduct were not just for knights and women of noble birth.  The common people also took these customs on so they could feel more like nobility.  Chivalry eventually became the “cool” way for men to behave toward women.

The chivalry codes built further on the Roman (Romantic) customs and laws regarding men having only one wife. Now instead of just giving a woman a ring, the man would kneel down before the woman in deference to her.  Also new chivalry codes made the common practice of husbands disciplining their wives to become unfashionable in many circles although it was still common until it was outlawed in the 19th and 20th centuries.

The system of Chivalrous Patriarchy was the direct result of centuries of early church fathers, Roman and later Medieval codes all eroding the rights of husbands in marriage and elevating women to a place God never meant them to be.  The Chivalrous Patriarchal system with its disapproval of wife discipline allowed 19th century feminism to form nearly unchecked and the Chivalrous Patriarchal system was the direct precursor to late 20th century Complementarianism.

Conclusion

In a way, you could call Biblical Patriarchy “hard patriarchy” and Chivalrous Patriarchy “soft patriarchy”.  Biblical Patriarchy is hardcore adherence to Biblical gender roles.  The demands of Biblical patriarchy are harder because they demand more from both the husband and the wife.

Chivalrous Patriarchy makes patriarchy more palatable to women giving them all the goodies of Patriarchy (a man providing for them and protecting them) and also him making suggestions for her life that she may or may not take. Ultimately the wife gets to choose what kind of wife she will be and the man simply has to live with it.

But make no mistake – I have met many Christian men over the years of doing this blog that absolutely love Chivalrous Patriarchy.  They love it because it is not as demanding on them as Biblical Patriarchy is.  They don’t have to worry about disciplining their wife or trying to mold her into the wife God wants her to be. The kind of wife she will be is totally between her and God.  They just provide for her and generally try to make her happy while making a suggestion here and there to her about the direction of her life or their family.  And these men truly enjoy having to earn sex from their wives and they really believe sex is all about doing whatever pleases their wives.

This is why I sometimes chuckle at how worked up humanists and feminists get over Complementarianism (a lighter verson of Chivalrous Patriarchy) because it really is still so soft on women.  Women still choose to submit to what they want to and don’t have to submit to what they don’t want.  In other words, women still have a great deal of autonomy in a Chivalrous Patriarchal and Complementarian marriage.

On the other hand, I can totally understand why humanists lose their minds when hearing the teachings of Biblical Patriarchy because the values of Biblical Patriarchy are all in complete and utter opposition to the values of humanism.

I also want to acknowledge the fact that I have a lot of Christian friends, including bloggers and Instagram folks, who find themselves somewhere in the middle of these two schools of thought. 

For instance, I have many friends who embrace everything about Biblical patriarchy and even husbands being called to discipline their wives, but they just can’t wrap their heads around physical discipline even though the Bible allows it.  And I have other friends who can accept everything about Biblical Patriarchy except the biblical allowance for polygamy or the fact that God designed man with a capacity for polygyny which explains a lot of natural male behaviors.

And to those people I say – “I used to be you”.  I struggled with some of these same issues years ago.  And then I just let go of my 21st century American cultural conditioning and let the Bible guide my feelings on these various moral issues. God can change your heart if you just recognize and let go of your cultural conditioning.

We as Biblical patriarchists need to be looking for these young people in our churches, extended families or online who are hungry to learn about Biblical patriarchy. And we need to catch them as early as possible before they get caught up in Chivalrous Patriarchy which we have shown here is not the genuine article.  And even if they have already been caught up in Chivalrous Patriarchy – it is never too late to bring them to the real deal.

Articles on Stay at Home Moms

“After Decades of Decline, A Rise in Stay-at-Home Mothers”

“More Millennial Women Are Becoming Stay-At-Home Moms — Here’s Why” https://www.forbes.com/sites/sarahlandrum/2018/02/09/more-millennial-women-are-becoming-stay-at-home-moms-heres-why/?sh=33ad7c336a2b  

“The Real Tradwives of 2022: Why More Young Moms Are Becoming Traditional Housewives” https://katiecouric.com/culture/what-is-a-tradwife/

Abortion Is Only the Tip of the Feminist Iceberg

With the news we heard this week that there is a strong chance that Roe vs Wade may be overturned we as conservative Christians cannot miss the bigger picture.

Abortion is simply the tip of the iceberg of feminism. In this podcast, I will discuss what societal changes laid the ground work for abortion and how feminism in America has dismantled God’s order of patriarchy piece by piece for almost 170 years. I will also discuss how we as Bible believing Christians can return our society to God’s design.

I would invite all my readers to please go to rumble.com and listen to this latest podcast for free. Rumble.com is the free speech alternative to YouTube. And if you would take a few moments to join rumble – it’s free and easy. Then subscribe to my channel there. By doing that you will help to move my videos up on rumble, increasing their visibility and helping to get the message of Biblical gender roles out to a larger audience.

The Candace Cameron Bure Boob Incident

Last week when celebrating their 24th wedding anniversary, Candace Cameron Bure, with her husband’s approval, posted what was meant to be a fun and light hearted picture of her husband cupping her fully clothed breast.  And right after she posted it, the Christian modesty mob came for her.  The sight of a married man cupping his wife’s clothed breast was just too much for them to bear.

If you have read her writings for women and compared them with mine you will know that I am definitely to the right of Candace in many areas including her views of submission and careerism among women.

But I will give credit where credit is due. Candace may not be where she needs to be on these subjects, but she is FAR closer to the target than most of the Christian female authors and bloggers today.

And I love the statement she made in response to those who criticized her posting the picture of her husband cupping her breast:

“He can touch me anytime he wants, and I hope he does. This is what a healthy, good marriage and relationship is all about”.

You can read my full take on this “Candace Cameron Bure Boob Incident” as well as an interesting Scriptural parallel I show on my new blog BiblicalSexology.com.

BiblicistReport.com is up!

We cannot separate politics from morality anymore than we can separate sex from morality. The vast majority of political decisions are in fact moral decisions. The only question is, what will our political decisions, which are moral decisions, be based on? Humanists want us to to base our politician decisions on their religion of humanism and we are expected to leave our Christian faith in the closet at home.

But as Christians if we believe the Bible, we cannot do this.

In Luke 4:4 the Scriptures tell us “And Jesus answered him, saying, It is written, That man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God”. And in 2 Timothy 3:16 we read “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness”.

Whether some people realize it or not, we are and have been for sometime engaged in the second American civil war. But except for a few bouts of violence here and there, it has been a cold war. A war fought in our schools, our colleges, our courts and our elections. And in recent years it is being fought in our communications platforms.

And this was the driving force in another project I have been working on for a couple of months and I am happy to say I have launched today.

On my new site, BiblicistReport.com, I will be listing articles from across the spectrum on the right and offering commentary from a Biblicist Christian perspective. I also encourage you to also read the articles on the top menu which give a Biblical perspective of how nations should be organized.

I Would Want to Kill Myself Rather Than Be A Woman

“Why do you guys feel the need to be superior then woman in literally EVERYTHING. It’s like woman can’t catch a break! I’m not trying to be rude as I’m only twelve. Why is this discussion important? Shouldn’t we be talking about God instead of another disadvantage of getting the trash gender? I’d hate to be born female. I would’ve cut of my genitals if I had to. Just so I would get the gender that gets have a relationship with God. Please, Larry just explain to me. Why? Why do woman have to be inferior? Why do they need to be second class. Imagine this, being born with something that you couldn’t control and you having to be nothing more then an object. I’d rather kill myself having to have that gender.”

This was a comment I recently received from a young man who called himself Daniel.

Neither I, nor most of the commenters on this site feel the need to be superior to women in “literally EVERYTHING”.  What we do feel the need to do is proclaim God’s Word to a generation that has abandoned the doctrines concerning gender roles as found in the Bible.

Women actually do have advantages or superior abilities over men when it comes to caregiving and nurturing.  God has given women this advantage as part of his design for them to be caretakers of children as we read in the passage below:

“4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

Titus 2:4-5 (KJV)

And speaking of children.  In God’s design women get to experience the joy of carrying another human being inside them and then molding and shaping that little person’s life for their first few years of their life.  What an awesome privilege this is!

Why is this discussion important?  Why can’t we just talk about God?

It is important to have this discussion because you cannot fully talk about God without discussing his design and intention for our lives.

The Apostle Paul said in Acts 20:27 “For I have not shunned to declare unto you all the counsel of God”.  Paul was saying he was not afraid to declare all the law of God and all his intended purposes for our lives.  Today most Christian pastors and teachers and have actually cowered in fear of our culture and they are horrified of being labeled as misogynists for teaching that the Bible says God made woman for man and to be in subjection and service to man.  Unfortunately, this is the culture you and your fellow teens have grown up in.

Why does woman have to be inferior to man in many ways?

1 Corinthians 11:7 give us the answer when it states “For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man”.  It is because God created man, the male human being, with his masculine human nature to live out the attributes of God with his life.  He created woman as “the weaker vessel” (1 Peter 3:7) for man to help him fully live out the attributes of God by needing his leadership, provision and protection.

This is why God made men with more muscle mass, more logical and systemizing natures as well as being more aggressive and competitive.  All of these attributes represent the image of God in man.   Woman was given her shared human attributes with man not to represent God with her life, but rather to make her a suitable companion for man.  This was meant to picture how all of mankind is weaker than God and needs his strength, his provision and his leadership.

The Bible Teaches Us To Honor Woman as The Weaker Vessel

The Bible teaches us that a woman’s weakness in comparison to man should not be shamed, but rather it should be honored as part of God’s plan to paint a beautiful picture of the relationship between himself and his people.  In the 5th commandment in Exodus 20:12, God commands that women are to honored as mothers and in 1 Peter 3:7 husbands are commanded to give “honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel”.

This is why as Christians we should never refer to women as “the trash gender”. And it is not treating women as trash to say that they should know their role in God’s creation and act accordingly anymore than it is treating men as trash to say they owe unconditional love, leadership, provision and protection to the women God has placed under their authority.

A Person’s Value Does Not Come From Equality

Lastly, regarding your feeling that you would want to kill yourself if you were a woman if this is God’s design for woman.  This is a message I receive all the time.  Probably about once a week at least.  The reason for your feelings is because you have been raised in a humanist culture where equality, rather than duty is it is highest value.  If a person does not have equal rights and privileges with another person than they are being said to be treated as less than human and their life does not have value.

This is why many today, reason that is better to abort a child that will have some physical disability or be born to an impoverished family.  Because after all, if they will not be equal in their physical abilities and equal in their lifestyle to others, what is the point of the life?

The Bible however, give us a very different perspective of what should give meaning and value to our lives:

I will say to the north, Give up; and to the south, Keep not back: bring my sons from far, and my daughters from the ends of the earth; Even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him.

Isaiah 43:6-8 (KJV)

Teens, the Bible teaches us that that the value of our lives comes not from our equal rights, privileges, health or economic status with other human beings but rather it comes from being created by God as part of his design to bring him glory.  And wherever he chooses to place us in his design, whether as male or female, strong or weak or rich or poor we should always give God the praise and glory for the life he has given us.

Biblical Gender Roles is Back on Facebook

As many of my regular readers know due to that latest doxing attempt against me, I took down the Biblical Gender Roles Facebook page since it had my personal information attached to it because I purchased ads for it.

About two weeks ago, I was contacted by one of my followers on this blog and he really felt led of the Lord to revive the Facebook page for this blog.  I told him as I have told others that I have no problem if someone wanted to revive the Facebook page on their own.  He asked for permission to copy texts from my blog for various descriptions and to link the page to send to my biblicalgenderroles@gmail.com email and I told him I was fine with that.

He also told me he wanted to help with paying for advertising for it.  He has committed to at least $200 or more per month to pay for Facebook ads.

He put the page back up in the last week – you can find it here https://www.facebook.com/biblicalgenderroles/ . He already started buying ads for my recent articles “A Christian Young Man’s Guide to Life and Finding A Wife in a Post-Feminist World” and “A Christian Young Woman’s Guide to Life and Finding A Husband in a Post-Feminist World”.  He is specifically targeting young people ages 13 to 18 with these articles and I have already seen a great deal of feedback from his advertisements.   As of today, he has reached more than 10,000 teens on Facebook with these two articles.

He gave me a way to electronically send him more money to help with Facebook ads which I will be doing as well.  If you want to help with this ministry and getting this message out you can go to my donations page and click on the Donate button to send donations which I can forward to him.

Pray that God will use this to reach many hearts and minds with the teachings of his Word in a generation which has turned against God and his Word.