“Is it wrong for me to motivate my wife into having good sex with me using money?  Am I treating my wife like a prostitute by doing this?”  This was part of an email I received from a Christian husband going by the name of Luke.

But before I answer this question from a Biblical perspective, I want to show more of his email to add more context to this story.

“Dear BGR,

I was hoping you could tell me if I am properly applying the principles, you teach based on the Bible on how to handle sexual refusal from your wife.  My wife told me I was treating her like a prostitute because I decided to start crediting her spending account based on how often she has sex with me and I also give her bonuses for doing extra things like giving me oral sex and wearing lingerie.

Let me give you a little background to my story before I started rewarding my wife for good sex.   My wife and I have been married for over 25 years and we have three wonderful children who as of this last year have all left the nest.   We have attended the same Baptist church for over 30 years (that is where my wife and I met).   I work in a high paying profession and this allowed my wife to care for our children and our home for all these years which I still thank the Lord for each day…”

To hear the rest of Luke’s story and see my answer to his question from a Biblical perspective click here to go to full article over on my blog dedicated exclusively to discussing the Biblical view of sex – BiblicalSexology.com.