Rosie apologizes for her comments about anal sex

Normally I do not make emails public unless someone specifically tells me it is OK.  But I am going to make an exemption in this case with Rosie since she is banned from commenting here and can only communicate with me via email.

Today she sent me this email apologizing for the accusations she made on the Alan Colmes show that I told women they must submit to their husband’s requests for anal sex:

“Larry, I apologize to you, if I offended you in any way. Maybe I read it wrong or misunderstood something. I do not wish to read your articles anymore or make any more statements. I am a born again Christian as of 2.5 years ago, a former Roman Catholic. My, husband is a non-practicing Catholic.

Through my daily devotionals, worship and praise, and watching and listening to daily ministries, my life made a complete turn-around. I am the spiritual leader in my home. When I started reading your articles, I began to feel negative, oppressed, and I was even beginning to have doubts of who I am in Christ Jesus.

I started to neglect my prayers and worship, thinking that maybe God thought of me as an inferior human being, and maybe I had no right to be a spiritual leader in my house.

Maybe God didn’t love me enough.

As I was reading all of your comments on FB, I realized that many people were rebuking Christianity and Religion. As disciples of Jesus Christ, it is our mission to bring people closer to Lord. You’re not doing that; you’re doing the opposite. A man is not a God, nor does he replace God in a marriage. Women were not born to serve man, but serve God through our Lord Jesus Christ.

I am a daughter of the God most high, I am his beloved, I am the apple of my Father’s eyes. He brought each and every one of us into this world with our own special gifts. We are to open ourselves and receive those gifts, so that we may manifest our gifts as God wants us to. My special gift is that of love and compassion towards others. I feed the hungry and clothes the poor. I take care of people because God works through me to take care of His people. I am his instrument because I offer myself to God as a living sacrifice to use me as his instrument. I will not be led astray from my my faith in God. I have returned to my faith, worship, and praise.

You and I are of different faiths and beliefs. I am a follower and believer of the Grace Gospel. You have a right to believe and practice whatever you desire, and I have a right to continue practicing my faith. I only hope the people who have rebuked Christianity and religion on your FB comments come back to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ – God bless”

Emily – God says this about forgiveness:

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:  But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” – Matthew 6:14-15 (KJV)

Forgiveness is a core tenant of the Christian faith and God wants me to forgive you.

I accept your apology.

God also tells me that I must reprove false teaching.

Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all long suffering and doctrine.  For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears;  And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.” – I Timothy 4:2-4 (KJV)

We should not change the Word of God to make it more palatable to a sinful world or rebellious Christians who do not want to follow all of God’s Word.   This is what you are doing, and what you recommend I do and I cannot do that.

Emily – you live by your feelings, rather than by the Word of God.  God tells us we are to live by his Word:

“But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. ” – Matthew 4:4 (KJV)

I pray that one day you will choose to live by his Word – his Word is life to those of us who believe it.

Here was the original post to which Rosie is apologizing for.

Women are NOT required to perform anal sex with their husbands

My reaction to my interview with Alan Colmes

Well it finally happened and I had my interview on the Alan Colmes radio show on Fox News Radio.

As I stated previously – Alan Colmes is a liberal and I did not expect him to affirm my Biblical beliefs at all.

I was somewhat taken by surprise when he started off our interview accusing me of being anti-sematic (hating Jews) for their having Christ crucified. He was referring to a quote I have on my About Me page:

“The pen name I write under is Larry Solomon. The reason I do not use my real name is the same reason that Christ hid himself from Jews:

“Then took they up stones to cast at him: but Jesus hid himself, and went out of the temple, going through the midst of them, and so passed by.” – John 8:59 (KJV)

It was not Christ’s time to die and it’s not my time to go public. And no – I don’t have a Messiah complex! But the Scriptures tell us:

“Whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked.” – I John 2:6

I am not the Savior, but rather I want to walk as my Savior walked as he grants me the grace to do so. I am not a prophet nor a preacher. I am simply a man saved by the sacrifice of his savior, a sinner saved by grace. A forgiven man with a Bible in his hands teaching his children and whomever wants to listen – the Word of God.”

The “they” in John 8:59 were Jesus’s fellow Jews taking up stones to kill him for claiming to be God.

This is the passage with more context added.

56 Your father Abraham rejoiced to see my day: and he saw it, and was glad.

57 Then said the Jews unto him, Thou art not yet fifty years old, and hast thou seen Abraham?

58 Jesus said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Before Abraham was, I am.

59 Then took they up stones to cast at him: but Jesus hid himself, and went out of the temple, going through the midst of them, and so passed by.” – John 8:56-59 (KJV)

It is crystal clear from this passage that it was his fellow Jews that wanted to stone him.

Also we can see here that the Jews were the ones who asked the Romans to crucify Jesus:

“22 Pilate saith unto them, What shall I do then with Jesus which is called Christ? They all say unto him, Let him be crucified.

23 And the governor said, Why, what evil hath he done? But they cried out the more, saying, Let him be crucified.

24 When Pilate saw that he could prevail nothing, but that rather a tumult was made, he took water, and washed his hands before the multitude, saying, I am innocent of the blood of this just person: see ye to it.

25 Then answered all the people, and said, His blood be on us, and on our children.” – Matthew 27:22-25 (KJV)

He continued to say that my position that the Jews killed Jesus was wrong and offensive to Jews at which point I told him it was offensive to Christians to be told that the New Testament was wrong about who had Jesus crucified. While the Romans did the actual killing, it was the Jews who demanded it.

To say the Jews were not just as guilty for his death as the Romans would be like saying if you hired a hitman to kill someone you are not complicit in their murder. It is absurd to make such a claim.

But just because the Jews had Christ killed does not mean I hate Jews! I love the Jews. God wants to save them and he wants them to accept their Messiah. Some Christians in centuries past and some even today have shown hatred toward the Jews and that is absolutely wrong!

On a more personal note, if I hated the Jews – I would by hating my own ancestors (great great grand parents) who were Jewish Germans that immigrated to America.

When we got to the subject of marriage he asked me if I thought marriage was an equal partnership and I told him “No – the Bible never shows marriage as a partnership, but rather as a patriarchy”.

Alan tried to pull the verse that all Christian feminists use to try and cancel out every other passage of Scripture that shows marriage as a patriarchy and that is Ephesians 5:21.

Alan accused me of “cherry picking” because I said Ephesians 5:21 was speaking about submission of church members in the assembly and it was not speaking of the relationship between husbands and wives.

21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” – Ephesians 5:21-24 (KJV)

But the truth is he and those who take his position that the Bible presents marriage as an equal partnership are wrong. They are the ones who are misapplying the Scriptures. You cannot take Ephesians 5:21 and cancel out what is said in the next verses about how a wife is to submit to her husband in “everything” or every other passage of Scripture that tells women to submit to their husbands. Now who is cherry picking?

My wife when she heard Alan about submission said “This is basic Christianity 101 – if you read your Bible you know women are to submit to their husbands. Now we might not always feel like it and we might not always do it – but we know we are supposed to”.

I so wished he would have given me more time to elaborate on the fact that while wives are to submit to their husbands, husbands are to love their wives sacrificially and provide for them and protect them as they would their own body.

I am going to try and get that out the next time I talk to him.

Oh and for lady that said the NIV translation of the Bible does not show a wife submitting let me show you.

“22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” – Ephesians 5:22-24 (NIV)

Yep  – its there.

Now the NIV does not always get the translation right and they do mess up some other verses where they are not faithful to literal Greek rendering. But this is not one of those cases.

It was brought up by some callers after my interview ended that in Christian marriage husbands are to be servant leaders as Christ himself was a servant leader.

I don’t disagree that Christ was a servant leader or that husbands should be servant leaders.  But the way we are to serve our wives and the way our wives are to serve us according to God’s Word is very different.

Yes Jesus washed his apostles feet and he broke bread for them at the last supper.  But Jesus did not spend the majority of this time washing people’s feet and serving tables. He spend the vast majority of his time doing the work of his ministry – doing his mission as all men should do.

So as husbands yes we ought to serve our wives.  Sometimes that might mean taking care of them when they are sick, or helping out with some things around the house when they are overwhelmed. But the majority of a husband’s service is not in these areas – it is to be in the areas of leading his wife, providing for her, teaching her and protecting her.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:” – Ephesians 5:28-29 (KJV)

On the wife’s side – the way she is to primarily serve her husband is clear in the Scriptures:

“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.” – I Timothy 5:14 (KJV)

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” – Titus 2:4-5 (KJV)

The primary way a wife serves her husband is by bearing and caring for his children and his home.

The husband and wife serve each other by meeting each others sexual needs.

I think overall the interview went well considering I was in hostile territory.

 

Women are NOT required to have Anal Sex with their husbands

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Tonight when I was a guest on the Alan Colmes show a caller named Emily called in(not to be confused with the Emily who comments on here all the time) and she told Alan that I told a woman she had to submit to her husbands desire for anal sex.

The woman she is referring to I believe is Victoria.  Victoria asked me if she had to submit to her husbands desire for anal sex and this was my response to her:

https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2015/05/23/8-steps-to-confront-your-wifes-sexual-refusal/comment-page-3/#comment-5793
September 17, 2015 at 6:49 pm

“Victoria,

The Scriptural requirement for you to give your body to husband to meet his sexual needs does NOT require you submitting to abuse. It is a medical fact that the anus, unlike the mouth or vagina, is a truly an EXIT ONLY orifice. The lining on in the anus is easily torn and bleeds and infections can easily be caused by this.

Biblically speaking when we desire something that God did not intend us to have that is selfishness, that is covetousness and it is sin. God did not design your anus for your husband to penetrate it, so by definition his desire is selfish…”

The comment has not been edited – the time stamp remains September 17, 2015 at 6:49 pm when I made my statement.

So Emily – you spoke something untrue. 

Perhaps you misread my comments elsewhere and if you thought I supported that please feel free to reference those comments where you think I did.  I have never ever supported anal sex or told women they must submit to it.

I found it positively exhilarating that Alan Colmes, a self professed liberal and strong believer in feminism, actually took Rosie to task on her rape accusations. He was just going on what she said so he called me supposedly telling women they should submit to anal sex “creepy” but he said it was not rape.

In fact he went on to tell her that if a wife did not like it she could just leave the marriage.  It is her choice to stay, her choice to submit to anal sex. Again I am not promoting anal sex or that wives should submit to it.  But if a man pressured his wife to have anal sex – not physically, but simply by convincing her it was her duty to submit to it and she does submit to it – that is not rape.  It is a decision she made.

 

 

BiblicalGenderRoles.Com to be featured on Alan Colmes Radio Show

I am happy to announce that I have accepted an invitation to be interviewed by Alan Colmes on his nationally syndicated radio show.  His show runs from 6 PM to 9 PM EST and I will be talking to him around 7 PM tomorrow night(11/4/2015).

For those who don’t know I write under the pen name ‘Larry Solomon’ so that is how he will be addressing me for the phone interview.

I have watched Alan for many years on the Fox News channel going back to his TV show with Sean Hannity that was called “Hannity & Colmes”.  While Hannity now does that show alone, Colmes is still a regular guest on many of the Fox News programs.

Alan Colmes is a liberal and thus a feminist . I hold no illusions about him taking any kind of a positive look at what I have written.  I know it will be an opposition style interview that will compare the values of feminism against the values of the Bible.  But I am hoping that if he is as polite as he is on Fox News that he will at least let me honestly represent my Biblical views even though he disagrees with them.

Here is the link where you can listen to his show live online tomorrow night when I come on around 7 PM tomorrow night(11/4/2015).  Just click the Listen Live link in the upper left corner of the page.

http://radio.foxnews.com/fox-news-talk/alan-colmes/