“Why do you guys feel the need to be superior then woman in literally EVERYTHING. It’s like woman can’t catch a break! I’m not trying to be rude as I’m only twelve. Why is this discussion important? Shouldn’t we be talking about God instead of another disadvantage of getting the trash gender? I’d hate to be born female. I would’ve cut of my genitals if I had to. Just so I would get the gender that gets have a relationship with God. Please, Larry just explain to me. Why? Why do woman have to be inferior? Why do they need to be second class. Imagine this, being born with something that you couldn’t control and you having to be nothing more then an object. I’d rather kill myself having to have that gender.”
This was a comment I recently received from a young man who called himself Daniel.
Neither I, nor most of the commenters on this site feel the need to be superior to women in “literally EVERYTHING”. What we do feel the need to do is proclaim God’s Word to a generation that has abandoned the doctrines concerning gender roles as found in the Bible.
Women actually do have advantages or superior abilities over men when it comes to caregiving and nurturing. God has given women this advantage as part of his design for them to be caretakers of children as we read in the passage below:
“4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
Titus 2:4-5 (KJV)
And speaking of children. In God’s design women get to experience the joy of carrying another human being inside them and then molding and shaping that little person’s life for their first few years of their life. What an awesome privilege this is!
Why is this discussion important? Why can’t we just talk about God?
It is important to have this discussion because you cannot fully talk about God without discussing his design and intention for our lives.
The Apostle Paul said in Acts 20:27 “For I have not shunned to declare unto you all the counsel of God”. Paul was saying he was not afraid to declare all the law of God and all his intended purposes for our lives. Today most Christian pastors and teachers and have actually cowered in fear of our culture and they are horrified of being labeled as misogynists for teaching that the Bible says God made woman for man and to be in subjection and service to man. Unfortunately, this is the culture you and your fellow teens have grown up in.
Why does woman have to be inferior to man in many ways?
1 Corinthians 11:7 give us the answer when it states “For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man”. It is because God created man, the male human being, with his masculine human nature to live out the attributes of God with his life. He created woman as “the weaker vessel” (1 Peter 3:7) for man to help him fully live out the attributes of God by needing his leadership, provision and protection.
This is why God made men with more muscle mass, more logical and systemizing natures as well as being more aggressive and competitive. All of these attributes represent the image of God in man. Woman was given her shared human attributes with man not to represent God with her life, but rather to make her a suitable companion for man. This was meant to picture how all of mankind is weaker than God and needs his strength, his provision and his leadership.
The Bible Teaches Us To Honor Woman as The Weaker Vessel
The Bible teaches us that a woman’s weakness in comparison to man should not be shamed, but rather it should be honored as part of God’s plan to paint a beautiful picture of the relationship between himself and his people. In the 5th commandment in Exodus 20:12, God commands that women are to honored as mothers and in 1 Peter 3:7 husbands are commanded to give “honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel”.
This is why as Christians we should never refer to women as “the trash gender”. And it is not treating women as trash to say that they should know their role in God’s creation and act accordingly anymore than it is treating men as trash to say they owe unconditional love, leadership, provision and protection to the women God has placed under their authority.
A Person’s Value Does Not Come From Equality
Lastly, regarding your feeling that you would want to kill yourself if you were a woman if this is God’s design for woman. This is a message I receive all the time. Probably about once a week at least. The reason for your feelings is because you have been raised in a humanist culture where equality, rather than duty is it is highest value. If a person does not have equal rights and privileges with another person than they are being said to be treated as less than human and their life does not have value.
This is why many today, reason that is better to abort a child that will have some physical disability or be born to an impoverished family. Because after all, if they will not be equal in their physical abilities and equal in their lifestyle to others, what is the point of the life?
The Bible however, give us a very different perspective of what should give meaning and value to our lives:
“6 I will say to the north, Give up; and to the south, Keep not back: bring my sons from far, and my daughters from the ends of the earth; 7 Even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him.
Isaiah 43:6-8 (KJV)
Teens, the Bible teaches us that that the value of our lives comes not from our equal rights, privileges, health or economic status with other human beings but rather it comes from being created by God as part of his design to bring him glory. And wherever he chooses to place us in his design, whether as male or female, strong or weak or rich or poor we should always give God the praise and glory for the life he has given us.
5 thoughts on “I Would Want to Kill Myself Rather Than Be A Woman”
A well written expose on a sticky topic. Unequal does not mean inferior.
Equality: the God that failed.
Also: never mentioned within the criticism of the “unequal” subjection of women is the “unequal” burden placed on men to care for them, from the minute we’re able until the minute we die. Men aren’t having their cake and eating it too. Feminism has given women agency over their lives and they hate it, because it’s not where they belong.
Love without conditions is not really loving at all. I don’t like the usage of the non-Christian term “unconditional love”. here are a couple articles warning against that phrase:
Otherwise I liked the post.
A few thoughts:
There is a type of man who uses God’s word as a weapon against his wife while not applying the same measuring stick to himself.
Even a Godly woman could feel like she would rather die than be female if her husband is drastically failing to meet Gods standard on his end.
A virtous woman, who forsook higher edication to fulfill her female purposes in marriage is at the complete mercy of her husband, she is powerless in her own life and his actions or inactions can cause great suffering of herself and her children.
I would surmise that a man failing to examplify the image and glory of God, esp in the basics, could lead his wife astray and cause her to feel hatred at herself, her gender and even God.
I read those posts and I agree with some parts and disagree with others. While we as human beings are certainly not capable of loving exactly the way God does(for can know the depths of his love) we are capable of doing acts of love toward people who have done nothing to earn such love. And we are capable, through God’s strength, of showing love even for those who spitefully use us. When I think of unconditional love, I am thinking of Agape love which is a love based in choice, or a duty based love, it is not the result of things done toward us by the object of such love. It is not even based in instinct. Where phileo love is completely based on what the other person does on a day to day basis. Then you have Storge love which is instinctual family love that of a parent for a child or a child for a parent. They cannot help but continue to feel an attachment to that person. And finally we have eros love which is based on sexual attraction. But whether it is love based upon someone’s actions, instinct or sexual desire the other loves are not based in a choice of the will and this what separates Agape love from the rest and makes it the strongest form of love.
A perfect example of Agape love is when a husband continues to financially support his wife, care for her medical needs and provide her with protection despite her disrespectfulness, contentiousness and overall unpleasantness. This is love based in choice and a duty he has toward her. In fact such a husband may have little to no phileo (affectionate) love for his wife because her actions do not earn such love (and phileo love must be earned).
So yes his love is technically based on a condition, and that condition is that he made a commitment to this woman for better or for worse, in sickness and health and while she rarely if ever brings him joy or happiness, that was not the condition set forth for his love.
But I agree with you that it is not unconditional love in the purest sense, but it is love based in a choice and sense of duty which the other three kinds of love lack.
Now I have argued on this site many times that I believe that just as God divorced his wife for marital unfaithfulness, so too a Christian husband can divorce his wife for this as well. So again there is another condition there. If the woman remains sexually faithful to her husband(and that means in both ways giving herself to him and not giving herself to other men) then he will remain in the marriage no matter how she fails him in other ways.