Many young Christian men and even some older Christian men struggle with knowing what things in life should be important to them. What should your priorities as a Christian man be? Even if you think you know what God says your priorities should be – how do order your priorities as a Christian man?
What is a Priority?
A priority is something that is important to us, something that we care about. If something is important to us, then we will show that by our deeds. For instance, the Bible tells us that if our faith is truly important to us, we will demonstrate that in our works.
“If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food, And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit?
Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone.
Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works.” – James 2:15-18 (KJV)
The Five Biblical Priorities of a Christian Man
Thankfully God has not left us to fend for ourselves as men, but he has given us his Word as a guide for our lives.
Unless a man is called to a life of celibacy in full time service to God, the Scriptures show us that every man has been given five areas of priority by God.
The five priorities that God gives to Christian men are God, Family, Church, Country and Work.
In this article we will discuss what these five priorities look like from a Biblical perspective. In my next article we will discuss Biblical principles that can help Christian men know how to juggle or order these five priorities that God has given them.
Priority # 1 – God
The Scriptures tell us plainly that serving God and his plan and design for our life should be our first priority.
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” – Matthew 6:33 (KJV)
“He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” – Matthew 10:37(KJV)
“Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men.” – Acts 5:29 (KJV)
Serving God comes before every other consideration in our life including ourselves, our family, our church, our employer or our country. But part of what it means to serve God is taking care of the needs our country, our employer, our church, our family and even ourselves.
Priority # 2 – Family
If God has not granted a man the gift of celibacy for full time service to his Kingdom as he did the Apostle Paul and other men and women then a husband’s second priority after God becomes his family.
But what if a man does not want a family?
Many have asked “What if a man is not called to full time Christian service, can’t he just opt to not get married and pursue a single life?”
Well first and foremost let’s define “full time Christian service”. Often we think of full time Christian service as someone being a Pastor, a Missionary or a Christian school teacher. But there are many single people and I know personally from my church and other churches that work in secular jobs during the week but they are constantly working at the Church and volunteering for anything that needs to be done. They dedicate the vast majority of their free time to God’s service since they don’t have families to attend to.
But where I believe that men go against God’s design is when they choose not to marry and have a family in order to purposefully avoid the responsibilities of having a family. They want to live for themselves.
God’s command to man and woman after he created them was to “Be fruitful, and multiply”(Genesis 1:28). God designed us as men for marriage and family. We were not designed to live for ourselves, but rather for his purpose and design.
Shouldn’t our time and resources go to Church first and then family second?
Some Christians have taught what I believe to be a false doctrine that the Church, and specifically the giving of our time and financial resources to our local church must come before we give our time and financial resources to our family.
This false belief comes from the idea that service to God ALWAYS means service to his church. But the truth is that while one of the ways we serve God is by serving his church it certainly is not the only way we serve God. We also serve God by serving the needs of our family. In fact God shows us in his Word that our service to our family comes before our service to our local church.
Christians who believe service to the their local church always comes before the needs of their family point to this incident which is recorded in Matthew and Luke:
“And it came to pass, that, as they went in the way, a certain man said unto him, Lord, I will follow thee whithersoever thou goest. And Jesus said unto him, Foxes have holes, and birds of the air have nests; but the Son of man hath not where to lay his head.
And he said unto another, Follow me. But he said, Lord, suffer me first to go and bury my father. Jesus said unto him, Let the dead bury their dead: but go thou and preach the kingdom of God.” – Luke 9:57-60 (KJV)
While Christ’s words may seem harsh here, it makes more sense when we understand that Jewish burial processes had become overly complex by this time. It is most likely that his father had already been placed in his tomb or burial site, but the mourning process could take up to a year. Some Jews even practiced a “second burial” where a year after their loved one’s body had decomposed they would gather the remains into a box and do a final burial. This could also be what Christ was referring to as something that was not necessary for him to do.
But these same proponents of putting the Church before family miss another incident where Christ spoke on the family and Church priorities:
“Howbeit in vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men. For laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men, as the washing of pots and cups: and many other such like things ye do.
And he said unto them, Full well ye reject the commandment of God, that ye may keep your own tradition. For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death:
But ye say, If a man shall say to his father or mother, It is Corban, that is to say, a gift, by whatsoever thou mightest be profited by me; he shall be free. And ye suffer him no more to do ought for his father or his mother;
Making the word of God of none effect through your tradition, which ye have delivered: and many such like things do ye.” – Mark 7:7-13 (KJV)
A man has the responsibility to care for his parents in their old age and our responsibility to give our time and financial resources to our family comes before our responsibility to give these things to our local churches. But in a broader context Christ was saying that our second priority after God, is our family. The Apostle Paul reiterates this same concept that Christ spoke on:
“But if any widow have children or nephews, let them learn first to shew piety at home, and to requite their parents: for that is good and acceptable before God. Now she that is a widow indeed, and desolate, trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and day.
But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth. And these things give in charge, that they may be blameless.
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” – I Timothy 5:4-8 (KJV)
Paul reiterates what Christ said that we have a solemn obligation to care for our relatives and family, but then he adds to this by telling us the first place we show “piety”(our faith, our religion) is in how we care for the needs of our family.
Paul tells us that if a man does not know how to manage his family, he is in no position to be a Pastor or Deacon in the Church:
“A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
(For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)” – I Timothy 3:2-5 (KJV)
This is clear from the Scriptures – while God is our always our first priority, God himself tells us that family is our second priority before all other considerations – even the Church.
I remember about 20 years ago when I was a young newly married man I had a friend of mine who was in his 30’s who had a wife and children. He was usually at almost every Church service and activity. But at certain times of the year especially around Christmas and some other times I would not see him as much.
I asked him one time about this. He told me that at certain points of the year he had to work a lot more hours for the shipping company he was at and did not have as much time to spend with his family. So his involvement in Church services would lessen so he could spend his limited free time with his family. He told me a very important truth that is supported by the Scriptures. “God created the family, before he created the Church. The needs of my family come before my Church attendance and involvement.” I never forgot what he said there, and later I would discover that what he was saying was a Biblical concept.
But what about when Christ said we should not love family more than him?
Some might say “What about Matthew 10:35 and other passages where Christ tells us if we love our family more than him we are not worthy of him?”
When we take all of Christ’s words into account only then can we understand what he was saying. Christ was not telling us to neglect the needs of our family for service to our local churches. What he was saying is “if your family is asking you not to worship me, to deny me or to deny my Church or go against my laws then you must be willing to deviate from them on this.” Following God always comes first. But following God is not equivalent to doing everything at Church first, and then your family gets the left overs.
So the Scriptures are clear – God first, family second and everything else including service to our local Church comes after those two things.
But who comes first in our family?
As Christian husbands we have our wives, our children, our siblings, our parents and our wives’ parents and siblings. These are all family members for us.
So yes family comes second only to God, but which family members come before whom?
Our wives come second only to God
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24 (KJV)
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:” – Ephesians 5:25 & 28-29 (KJV)
The Bible shows us by the “leave and cleave” concept of marriage that as husbands once we are married our parents now come second to our wife. We as Christian husbands are to feed and care for the physical needs of our wives just as we feed and care for our own bodies.
So when all things are equal, while our wife comes second to God – she is to be our first priority amongst our family members and anyone but God himself. But I want you to notice a key phrase I use here “when all things are equal”. I will come back to what I mean by that in our next article on “What should a Christian Man’s highest priority be?”
Our children come after our wives but before other family members and priorities
Remember the passage from I Timothy 5:4-8 where the Apostle Paul tells us that the first way we put our religion in practice is in our home? The needs of our children come only after our service to God and then the needs of our wife. But the needs our children come before other priorities like our work and our local church. In truth part of what it means to serve God is to serve the needs of our children.
“A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children’s children: and the wealth of the sinner is laid up for the just.” – Proverbs 13:22 (KJV)
“The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.” – Proverbs 20:7 (KJV)
“Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.” – Colossians 3:21 (KJV)
“And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” – Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)
“As ye know how we exhorted and comforted and charged every one of you, as a father doth his children,” – I Thessalonians 2:11 (KJV)
As fathers we have a responsibility to care for the physical and spiritual needs of our children. In the same way that marriage is to be a model of the relationship between God and his people, so too the father/child relationship is yet another model of the relationship between our heavenly father and us as his children. We as fathers are not to discourage our children or needlessly anger them, but rather we are to bless them, exhort them, comfort them, discipline them, teach them in the ways of God and love them as God loves his children.
We should care for the needs of our parents and other extended family
So while the needs of our wife and children are to come before other family obligations that does not mean we don’t still care for the needs of our parents and other extended family. We simply need to seek God’s guidance in where we expend our time and resources – I will get more into that in my next post “What should a Christian Man’s highest priority be?”
Don’t forget YOU are a part of your family
Often times in Christian circles believers are lead to believe that they can never think of their own needs. People over-commit, even to good things like family, work and church to the detriment of their own health. We need to rest. We need to see a doctor when we are sick. We need relaxation and down time for our brains to recharge so that we will be of better service in these other areas in which God calls us to serve.
If you have ever been on a plane they always tell you that in case of an emergency when the oxygen mask comes down put yours on first, then help those around you. The reason is that if you put on the masks of those around you first you may not be able to help them if you pass out before you can do it. This same principle applies to our lives in general. If we can’t breathe, than we are of no use to anyone around us.
Priority # 3 – The Church
So up till now we have established that Biblically speaking God is our first priority and our family is our second priority. While service to God does not always equal service to the Church – sometimes it does.
God calls us to serve our families as we have just discussed. Later we will discuss that God calls us to serve our employers and even the needs of our community and our country. But sometimes we can use these other God given priorities to make excuses for our neglect of the priority of service to God’s Church.
Not all of us can be Pastors, Deacons or Sunday school teachers. But God wants us all to serve his local Church in some capacity. For some their service may be more financial than time based. For others who have little to give financially, they have much more to give in the way of time or talents. But while we all serve God’s Church in different ways, the call to serve God’s Church is for every believer in Christ.
“Now there are diversities of gifts, but the same Spirit. And there are differences of administrations, but the same Lord. And there are diversities of operations, but it is the same God which worketh all in all.…
For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ…
Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular.”
I Corinthians 12:4-6 & 12 &27 (KJV)
“Unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen.” – Ephesians 3:21 (KJV)
“Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching” – Hebrews 10:23-25 (KJV)
The Scriptures are clear that God wants us to make his Church and the local assembling of believers together a priority for ourselves and our families as men of God. For some of us it may be no more than bringing our families faithfully to services each week to worship God and here the preaching and teaching of his Word and the giving of financial contributions to his work.
For others it may go beyond that in making meals for the church or driving a church bus. For others it may be teaching a Sunday school class or leading a youth group. Some are called to be Deacons to support the Pastor and weekly needs of the Church building and membership. Some are called to full time Christian service as Pastors who lead the local churches of God. We all have different callings, different gifts and different amounts of time or money available. But regardless of these differences – we are all called to make the Church of God a priority in our lives.
Having established that our local church should be a priority in our lives, I want to reiterate though that our service to God is not strictly through our local church. Many Christians serve God outside of the official ministries of their local church whether it is working in homeless shelters, Christian colleges and Universities and other evangelistic programs. I consider this blog to be a ministry for God even though it is not done as an official ministry under the direction of my church.
But my point is that I do not believe it would be right for me to only serve God outside his Church while neglecting his Church. It is not an either or proposition, it is both.
“As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.” – Galatians 6:10 (KJV)
Priority # 4 – Country
Despite the beliefs of some Christians, God says there is a time for war.
“A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.” – Ecclesiastes 3:8 (KJV)
“The Lord is a man of war: the Lord is his name.” – Exodus 15:3 (KJV)
“Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war.” – Proverbs 20:18 (KJV)
“And I looked, and rose up, and said unto the nobles, and to the rulers, and to the rest of the people, Be not ye afraid of them: remember the Lord, which is great and terrible, and fight for your brethren, your sons, and your daughters, your wives, and your houses.” – Nehemiah 4:14(KJV)
God has given men in general the ability to wage war and some men he gave a special ability in this area as he did King David:
“Blessed be the Lord my strength which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight:” – Psalm 144:1 (KJV)
This is why some men are simply called to be soldiers like King David was. This “warrior spirit” is something that should never be discouraged in young men. Rather it should be encouraged and channeled in positive ways.
Other men while not being called to be soldiers may still have this “warrior spirit” which calls them into law enforcement positions, again this is something that we should be encouraging when we see this in our young men.
Some men are called to lead their communities, their cities, their states or even their countries. Countries need these types of men in order to maintain peaceful and orderly societies.
But all of us as men even if we don’t have the “warrior spirit” or the drive to serve in public office are should be willing to answer the call of our country. During times of peace our service may be limited to voting – which all Christians should do. In times of crisis it might mean we are called to go to war to defend our nation. If there is a natural disaster that strikes our community, then we as men should be the first to step up and assist in our communities.
Priority #5 – Work
The Bible tells us as men that we were created to be workers. Our minds and bodies as men are specifically built for work. Some of us men are built for physically based labor while others are built for more intellectually based labor. But no matter our talents and abilities – we as men are built for work.
“And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.” – Genesis 3:15 (KJV)
God built and designed man for work and the first thing he did after creating him was assign him to work and keep the Garden of Eden.
The scriptures tell us that as men of God we ought to dedicate ourselves to our work and find joy in our labor.
“Man goeth forth unto his work and to his labour until the evening.” – Psalm 104:23 (KJV)
“Wherefore I perceive that there is nothing better, than that a man should rejoice in his own works; for that is his portion…” Ecclesiastes 3:22 (KJV)
“Go thy way, eat thy bread with joy, and drink thy wine with a merry heart; for God now accepteth thy works. Let thy garments be always white; and let thy head lack no ointment. Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.
Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.” – Ecclesiastes 9:7-10 (KJV)
“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;” – Colossians 3:23 (KJV)
“And let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us: and establish thou the work of our hands upon us; yea, the work of our hands establish thou it.” – Psalm 90:17 (KJV)
Men – the world is literally yours to command
“What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him? For thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honour. Thou madest him to have dominion over the works of thy hands; thou hast put all things under his feet:
All sheep and oxen, yea, and the beasts of the field; The fowl of the air, and the fish of the sea, and whatsoever passeth through the paths of the seas. “- Psalm 8:4-8 (KJV)
When we farm, we fish, we build and when we organize in all our conquests whatever they may be – this what God built us as men to desire, to strive for and to do.
I like what Dr. Emerson Eggerichs said about men and their work:
“The first question a man usually asks another man when they meet for the first time is, “What do you do?” … most men identify themselves by their work. God created men to “do” something in the field. Watch young boys as they pick up sticks and turn them into imaginary guns or tools. Recently a mother told us she had prevented her son from having any toy guns or using sticks as pretend rifles, but when he made his cheese sandwich into the form of a pistol and was shooting a friend, she cried out in exasperation, “I give up”.
Mothers should never give up because this is simply part of a boy’s nature. He is called to be a hunter, a worker, a doer. He wants to make his conquest in the field of life. The academic term for this is the “instrumentality of the male”. From childhood there is something in a male that makes him like adventure and conquest. He wants to go into the field to hunt or to work some way.”
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, Pg. 168 “Love and Respect”
Work is not an option for a man
“Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.” – Ephesians 4:28 (KJV)
“…but we beseech you, brethren, that ye increase more and more; And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you; That ye may walk honestly toward them that are without, and that ye may have lack of nothing.” – I Thessalonians 4:10-12(KJV)
I know that we are all sinners and we each struggle with different sins more than others. Often I talk about how I believe it is the most unnatural thing in the world for a mother to drop her child off with strangers for 9 to 10 hours a day so she can pursue a more “fulfilling life” rather than caring for her child.
But I believe in the same way that it grieves the heart of God every time a mother hands her infant child off to a daycare worker by her own choice (rather than out of economic necessity) it also grieves the heart of God when a healthy able bodied man does not want to work. This goes against the very core of a man’s design when he does not want work.
We have shown here that God has given Christian men the five priorities of God, Family, Church, Country and Work. The first feat is just figuring out what our priorities should be – that we have done here. But for many of us the larger feat is figuring out how to order or really “juggle” these priorities that God has given us as Christian men. In my next article “What should a Christian Man’s highest priority be?” we will talk about this “juggling act” that all of us as Christian men are called to.
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15 thoughts on “The Five Biblical Priorities of a Christian Man”
You had me until “Country.” I understand defending your home and your land, but any ethical Christian could not bring himself to follow the mission of the current military. It doesn’t align with the other priorities.
If “a time for war” equals the 1984 version of perpetual war, there’s something wrong. Too many Christians love sending other people’s kids to the Middle East for nothing but a case of PTSD and a chance to be part of an obscene suicide rate.
I think it is very possible to have consciousness of objections to certain military missions that your country may engage in but that is different than being a good citizen in voting and be willing to defend your country if it is directly attacked. Daniel was a loyal citizen to several different governments he served in, yet when they strayed from God’s will or asked him to do something against his faith he practiced civil disobedience which is the right of every believer.
Also I believe that God calls some Christians to serve in government or in other political endeavors as we can have a positive influence, even if a small influence on the affairs of our nation.
Having said all that – on the issue of America’s middle east wars. I think it is very possible to have legitimate disagreements with the Iraq war but I think the Afghanistan war was completely justified. When your nation is attacked as we were on 9/11 there must be a tough military response.
The big question is should be involved in nation building after we strike a country? I realize that America has had a general policy of after we crush a country militarily we go in and help rebuild(Japan,Germany,Afghanistan,Iraq). I don’t agree with that – I don’t think the military is meant to be a police force and a nation building force.
Not that I disagree with humanitarian aid such as sending food and medical supplies – I just don’t think we should be having our troops doing for other countries what they should be willing to do for themselves(like police actions and keeping their own peace and economy).
I believe in the Biblical concept that “to whom much is given, much is required”, or in the words of Spider man movies – “with great power, comes great responsibility”. That means while I don’t think we should be in the nation building business I do believe that Hitler taught us that we cannot just ignore something because it is happening on the other side of the world. Sometimes something is so evil, that it must be crushed.
We tolerated the the genocide of the Jewish people until we were attacked at Pearl Harbor. Today we tolerate the wholesale slaughter of Christians and even Muslims by ISIS – they wiped out Christian communities that were there for 2000 years and they rape can cut off heads and we do nothing. I am not saying we need to re-rebuild Iraq. Iraq must learn to stand on its own two feet.
But I believe we need to be like the fly swatter. If you commit genocide and atrocities like ISIS is doing we come unleash the full power US military on you and then we get out(no pin point strikes – total annihilation). We drop leaflets on every ISIS city and town letting the people know that the US military is coming in and will crush that area – if you stand wit ISIS you die. Will there still be some colateral damage? Yes – but has always been the price of taking on evil regimes.
On the issue of PTSD – that has ALWAYS been a biproduct of war and it always will be. We have just shined more light on it today than there has ever been. Police officers face this same issue in their job – should we not send police into harms way for fear of PTSD? I think not.
But obviously we should have the best care for police officers and veterans – something that is severely lacking and needs to change. No civilian who has not served their country as veterans and police officers do should be receiving government paid for medical care before our veterans and police officers do – they should have the best.
Hey brother your reference to Matthew 10:35, should be Matthew 10:37
Thank you sir for pointing that out – I have made that correction.
I liked the order you presented these points in. My order would have the last two in each other’s places since working to provide for your family(a biblical requirement) would take priority over serving your country, which sin’t required. Even then, serving would only be done by me if they eliminated the requirement to swear an oath, a strict violation of God’s Word where He said, as His new regulation and rule in the New Testament, not to swear oaths. Great article though! 🙂
Well I am glad you liked it but I definitely stand by my order putting country before work. The reason is because you won’t be able to work and provide for your family if you don’t have a country to work in. When it is every man for himself the people will perish. But when men stand together to defend their nation then we are free to live and work and provide for our families.
I also personally see no problem with making a pledge of allegiance to my country and making a promise to defend the freedom of our people. I believe when Jesus forbid oaths, vows and pledges in Matthew 5:34-27 he was talking about the habit many Jews had of swearing oaths about every little thing. I don’t think Christ was saying for instance that it is wrong to make a vow of faithfulness to our spouse in marriage or to pledge allegiance to our country. If vows were forbidden from that point forward then Paul violated Christ’s words when he took a vow in Acts 18:18.
That doesn’t seem to be the case with the wording of Jesus’ command. He said: Don’t swear oaths AT ALL, not just on insignificant matters. And the fact Paul shaved his head, an act of shame probably, indicates he may have disobey God unknowingly and was shamed of himself, showing it with that action. The Scripture you cited from Acts doesn’t show a God-sanctioned act of taking an oath.
This is an eye opener and i know that when we apply this principles as believers , our homes will be a better place which will reflect in the church as well and the country will be a better place to be. my prayer is , may God open the eyes of hearts to see and know the kingdom principles (*_#The Will of God *_) and do them.
Since you have family before church, I wanted to get your thoughts further on extended family. Of course your wife and children should come first. But what about when parents and extended family start trying to pull you away on weekends to visit them resulting in you missing church. Leading you to feel disconnected from your home church. Of course you should find a balance but the scales always seem to tip one way or another, should they most often land in favor of family or church?
I know for myself with work and other things going on the only time I can visit extended family is on the weekends. Thankfully I don’t have a lot of extended family that live far away. My son is living out of state right now and I will be visiting him the next month. And yes I will be missing church that Sunday to do it.
I think as long as it does not become a pattern it is ok to miss church from time to time for family events. It really depends on what is going on. Now if you committed yourself to some event at church in a particular weekend then you should do your best to keep that commitment.
So I would say the answer to your question depends on how often they want you to visit. If it is every other weekend or more that might be a problem. If it is once every month or two maybe not so much of a problem.
In your example, wouldn’t you also fulfill your obligations to attend church by going with your family members if they have a church that they attend? With your son, it might be a good opportunity for you to see how he’s worshipping now.
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Thank you so much have been helped more.
I humbly disagree on putting the Church and the country before work. A person who is unable to put food on the table is NOT supposed to be joining ministries. And becoming a soldier or a law enforcer is NOT required. Let alone putting that as a priority. It’s not even specified in the scriptures you’ve laid out. What you’ve inserted there is unfortunately unBiblical.
I agree with you that work will take a higher priority than church or country – and even a higher priority that your wife and child many times. The priorities I have here, even though they were numbered, does not mean that is always the order for a man. In my next article that was a companion to this one entitled “What should a Christian Man’s highest priority be?” I address this issue. I talk about the fact that in life men will have juggle all five of these priorities. In one moment your son or daughter’s need may take precedent over all others including your wife. In another moment a true need of your wife that is very important may take precedent over your job or church activities.
But more often than not a man’s job will often take first priority, because if he looses his job the family looses the roof over their head and the ability to get food and survive. But a man must take care that even with his job being such an important priority, that he finds ways to still spend time with his wife and children and make them priorities as well.
There will be some times where the greatest need on a given day is some crisis situation within the church membership – so he may take some time away from his job or family time to deal with that situation.
And yes when it comes to country – there are some times in history where the need of their country trumps all other needs. When war is upon a country, things change. If a country invaded the United States and a man simply stays with his family, then eventually his family will most likely be killed as well. His church may be destroyed so might his place of his employment. The only way a country can be defended – is when men leave their families to defend their families. It is only when men band together in large numbers in armies that they can make an effective defense of their homelands.
King David absolutely believed in going to war for his nation and he said “Blessed be the Lord my strength which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight”. Men joining together in collective defense of their brethren, families and homes is seen in Nehemiah 4:14 where the Bible says “fight for your brethren, your sons, and your daughters, your wives, and your houses”.
The only way civilization is defended and nations are defended is when men collectively band together to defend their towns, their states and their nations.
Now do all men have the gifts of a warrior as King David did? No. And if they don’t they should not become police officers or soldiers. But if God has gifted a man with the warrior spirit and the drive to defend others, then they should go into these careers and have wives who will support them.
So no, it is not required of every man to become a solider or police officer. But thank God that he calls some men to this – because if every man just stayed home and refused to defend his town, his state or his nation we would be living in chaos and there would be no safety for any of us. I am very grateful for the men I know that have served and sacrificed as soldiers or police officers.