“I was recently separated from the military under a GENERAL administrative separation, and the result was the loss of both my GI Bill and Unemployment benefits (due to accusations of sexual harassment). Maybe you can help me through the healing process, and perhaps fighting back on this. – glassadonis”
glassadonis,
I am sorry to hear of your troubles. The unfortunate truth is that when it comes to sexually related crimes our judicial systems, both civilian and military, have basically thrown out the American, English and Biblical concept of “innocent until proven guilty”.
The Bible tells us the following about God’s standard for establishing guilt for committing a crime:
“5 One witness shall not rise up against a man for any iniquity, or for any sin, in any sin that he sinneth: at the mouth of two witnesses, or at the mouth of three witnesses, shall the matter be established.
16 If a false witness rise up against any man to testify against him that which is wrong; 17 Then both the men, between whom the controversy is, shall stand before the Lord, before the priests and the judges, which shall be in those days; 18 And the judges shall make diligent inquisition: and, behold, if the witness be a false witness, and hath testified falsely against his brother;19 Then shall ye do unto him, as he had thought to have done unto his brother: so shalt thou put the evil away from among you.
20 And those which remain shall hear, and fear, and shall henceforth commit no more any such evil among you.”
Deuteronomy 19:15-20 (KJV)
Under God’s standard of justice, there had to be a minimum of two witnesses to a crime for it be established. And if the two witnesses were proven to have lied then the same punishment that would have happened to the accused would happen to them. Imagine if we had that standard today? I don’t think we would have all these false accusations of harassment.
Does this mean that sometimes guilty men will go free? Yes. But God considered it a greater injustice for an innocent man to be convicted than for a guilty man to go free. This used to be the standard of American justice for all crimes.
But today we have given women a free ticket. They can falsely accuse any man they want with no proof and they suffer nothing for it. And when it comes to sexually related crimes – the person accused is considered guilty until proven innocent. If you can’t find multiple witnesses to prove your innocence, then you are guilty.
All you can do is fight back with lawyers the best you can and even then you may not prevail.
When you have done everything you can to fight back and prove your innocence yet still you suffer wrongly for something you did not do, then you must look to Christ’s example of “suffering wrongfully”:
“19 For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully. 20 For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.”
1 Peter 2:19-20 (KJV)
I am very sorry that your military career was destroyed by the false accusations of this woman. But what you don’t want to do is get stuck in a pattern of self-pity and bitterness. That will only hurt you and prolong you getting on with your life. There is an old saying about bitterness that is very true. “Being bitter at someone is like taking poison hoping for the that person to die”.
Give this injustice to God.
Biblical Gender Roles 
Glassadonis,
Sounds like a tough break.
I’m curious, were you entitled to a separation board, and if so, did you exercise that right? Did a Trial Defense Service judge advocate help you mount a defense? If you waived a board, we’re you advised of the impact of your characterization of service on your GI Bill and unemployment entitlements before you separated?
I’m not disputing that you were railroaded – I don’t know the facts. Maybe you were. But there should have been some due process built into this before you found yourself sitting off post with discharge papers.
At this point, basically your only remedy is an upgrade to your characterization of service through the ABCMR. Google that. If you truly were denied due process in the ways I alluded to above, you might win. But it will take 2-3 years for them to hear your case. There’s an enormous backlog.
Whether you do that or not, I agree with BGR – make your peace with whatever the outcome is, and get laser focused on building a kick-ass civilian life. There’s a lot of ways to make better money, with better benefits and much better quality of life outside the military. Pursue those opportunities zealously. And keep in mind, there are prohibitions out there on employers asking about your characterization of discharge. They shouldn’t ask, and even if they do, just ignore the question and give them your branch of service and years. If they push, say casually, yeah, I didn’t answer that because I heard somewhere that’s not a legal question anymore. They’ll probably back off. And after your first one or two post military gigs, nobody is going to care about you military time. So yeah, go forth and git r done young man.
One of many reasons women should not be in the military. Just creates lots of opportunities for this kind of stuff.
In the name of “equality” men have become second class citizens.
In the name of “social justice”, justice is overturned.
In the name of female opportunity, national defense is compromised.
In the name of defense of women, government must increase.
In the name of “personal independence” the family falters.
In the name of female empowerment, males are emasculated.
In the name of “boundaries” marriage beds grow cold.
In the name of “servant-leader” husbands become eunuchs to their wives.
In the name of being “winsome” the church not only doesn’t protest, but cheers and leads the decline.
In the name of “unity” the church will not reform her ways and repent.
In the name of Christ may we stand on His Word unashamed and unflinching.