“…all things were created by him, and for him” Colossians 1:16(KJV). All of us, both men and women were made for the glory of God. As a woman, you were also made for another “him”, for your current or future husband, unless you are one of the few women God has called to life of celibacy in his service.
Just as mankind was made for the glory of God, so to you as a woman were made for the glory of man.
“For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.”
I Corinthians 11:7(KJV)
“Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.”
I Corinthians 11:9(KJV)
The fact that you were made for you husband answers all these “why” questions:
Why do I have to submit to him? Because you were made for him.
“Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”
Why do I need to follow him if his job moves him to a new city? Because you were made for him.
Why do I have to follow his rules for discipline with our kids, whether they are stricter or more lenient than I would like them to be? Because you were made for him.
Why do I not get an equal say in all decisions of the family? Because you were made for him.
Why do I have to have sex with him even when I don’t feel in the mood? Because you were made for him.
Why do I have to wear the clothes he likes me to wear, or keep my hair the way he likes it? Because you were made for him.
Why do I have to stay home and care for our children? Because you were made for him.
Why do I have to obey him? Because you were made for him.
Why do I have to respect him? Because you were made for him.
Whether you are engaged, a newly wed, or have been married for many years, this principle, that you were made for your husband can and will change the way you approach your marriage. You won’t find yourself fighting for control, or your fair share in the decision making processes of your home, you will instead find peace.
Please don’t misunderstand me, this is not to say a wife should never tell her husband what she thinks, because she should. Proverbs 31:26 tells us the virtuous wife “openeth her mouth with wisdom“, and a husband should be able to listen to his wife’s wisdom. But on the other hand, we all know that there are many instances in the Bible where husband should NOT have listened to his wife. A Godly man will judge his wife’s advice by God’s Word, and by his own judgement and exercise proper leadership.
Happiness is found when we live the way God designed us to. If you go throughout your marriage and you follow the principle that you were made for the glory of God, and God made specifically made you for your husband, I can promise you that you will have a wonderful marriage. This comes straight from our owner’s manual – the Bible.