Are You a “What about him?” Woman?

In the Gospel of John there is an incident where John is leaning on Christ’s chest as Jesus tells his disciples about the future.  In John 21:21-22, we read “Peter seeing him saith to Jesus, Lord, and what shall this man do?  Jesus saith unto him, If I will that he tarry till I come, what is that to thee? follow thou me.

What was Jesus saying to Peter? He was saying “Don’t be concerned about what I have for him to do in his life, only be concerned about what I have for you to do in your life”.

Is your knee jerk reaction as a Christian woman, when you hear tough Biblical teaching toward women, “What about him?” Or more specifically “What about the men?” This mindset comes not from God, but rather the feminist and humanist culture you have been brought up in.  And more often than not, this response is a cover for your own conviction of sin as a woman. You feel that conviction and want to deflect as quickly as possible to the men.

If this is your reaction as a woman, you have a major spiritual defect in your thinking.    The Bible commands us as Christians And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God in Romans 12:2.

Don’t worry about the men.  Leave the men to other men and to God.  Only be concerned about what God has for you to do in this life as a woman.

God has given men and women different roles to play in this life and thus different races to run.  And one of the critical differences between the roles of men and women is that God has given men spiritual oversight and responsibility for the women in their lives.  So, men must be concerned not only with how they fulfill the role God has given them as men, but they must also be concerned with the instruction and discipline of women under their spiritual authority as well.

This same thing cannot be said for women.  Women should only be concerned with the role God has given them as women and leave the men to other men and ultimately to God.   Heed Christ’s words to Peter “what is that to thee? follow thou me.

9 thoughts on “Are You a “What about him?” Woman?

  1. Funny I was just thinking something along these lines the other night. I fear, however, that the feminist agenda has become so normal to Christian women that they don’t know how to concern themselves with only themselves. They are told to police their husbands and husbands are told their wives are “spiritual indicators” for their walk with Christ. The Bible says otherwise, but for Christian’s to know that they have to actually read the Bible and not “interpret” it’s meaning with various books and guides that do nothing more than confuse the reader.

  2. And this calls for due diligence on the part of us as Christian husbands. Whenever we shine the spotlight on our wife’s sinful behavior in various ways their natural and sinful response will be to change the narrative and point back to us. And we must continually redirect the discussion back toward them and not allow them to deflect. Every Christian husband must learn this skill with his wife.

  3. Can you do a study/analysis/debunking article of the “blackpill”. They have the saddest outlook on marriage because they say that women are so choosy they will only ever be satisfied with “Chads” (the top 10-20% of men with over 8/10 looks and height). They say women who settle for less do so for financial security (betabux) but they are not really sexually attracted to their husbands which explains the many sexless marriages. The problem is they use a lot of studies such as an OkCupid and Tinder study showing that while men rate women’s attractiveness on a bell curve, women rate 80% of men as below average in looks. And also studies showing that over 90% of women (short women too) only want tall men which statistically heavily reduces choices for many many men. I tried looking at the blackpill for fun at first, but the more I look at the studies the more depressed I become.

  4. Erik,

    I have already written extensively on the Red Pill and the Black Pill is simply an extreme version of it. If you read the article below, as well as the entire series I wrote you will get a better understanding as I compare and contrast Red Pill teachings with the Bible. After you read that series – please post any followup questions you have on those articles.

  5. Today my wife told me she will be redoing / painting the bathroom. I asked to not as our house is in shambles mostly as a result of her stuff laying around the house. We do have 3 kids, but over 50% of the stuff / disorder is the direct result her stuff not the kids. I also asked her to stop using the word “we” when describing the work in the bathroom, and use “I” (meaning her) as I do not approve of this project. For many years, she quite often used a royal “We” to describe the projects/initiative she desires to do (and many times are for pleasure/comfort/face-place pride purposes of herself, not for the betterment of the family). In parallel, she has been fully stay at home wife since 2010. I believe this behavior is the result of her self-focused Cultural Christian God / Gospel tells her this is acceptable. Please pray that I can reach her with the true Gospel of Jesus Christ and that healing can come in my family. Recently, I have getting stronger in my faith which has Philippians 4:13 strengthened me to confront her behavior.

  6. I have also started to point out to my wife she violates the Ninth Commandment when she uses the Royal “We” to declare decision/directions/actions our family will be taking. Not only does this completely disrespect me (which I feel we are light years away from ever getting that behavior changed), she also ‘bears false witness’ when she tells others “We” have decided something or “We” will do ‘X’ without ever counseling me or asking for my input (let alone my approval). Stay trying men! Day is coming when Christian women will respect men again!

  7. I have also started to point out to my wife she violates the Ninth Commandment when she uses the Royal “We” to declare decision/directions/actions our family will be taking. Not only does this completely disrespect me (which I feel we are light years away from ever getting that behavior changed), she also ‘bears false witness’ when she tells others “We” have decided something or “We” will do ‘X’ without ever counseling me or asking for my input (let alone my approval). Stay strong men! I feel the the day is coming when Christian women will respect men again! We are just going though a season in culture where men are under perfections. God’s Word is infallible and we can rest on It’s truth!

  8. I have also started to point out to my wife she violates the Ninth Commandment when she uses the Royal “We” to declare decision/directions/actions our family will be taking. Not only does this completely disrespect me (which I feel we are light years away from ever getting that behavior changed), she also ‘bears false witness’ when she tells others “We” have decided something or “We” will do ‘X’ without ever counseling me or asking for my input (let alone my approval). Stay strong men! I feel the the day is coming when Christian women will respect men again! We are just going though a season in culture where men are under persecution. God’s Word is infallible and we can rest on It’s truth!

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