3 thoughts on “10 WOMEN CHRISTIAN MEN SHOULD NOT MARRY”

1. And I apologize, I used the word exploit, when I meant to use the word objectify. The women are seen as objects, pieces of art to stare at. The men who stare at them forget that they are Someone’s daughter, and God’s daughter. They also do not realize that many have daddy issues and problems at home and often don’t know their worth. Just very sad to me.

2. Lindsey,

   Your Statement:

   “And I apologize, I used the word exploit, when I meant to use the word objectify. The women are seen as objects, pieces of art to stare at. The men who stare at them forget that they are Someone’s daughter, and God’s daughter. They also do not realize that many have daddy issues and problems at home and often don’t know their worth. Just very sad to me.”

   There are really two types of objectification.
   One is a type that we do every day in lots of ways.
   If we appreciate someone for their function, not their person we are objectifying that person.

   But people do this every day. When you go through a drive through to get your food, you don’t care about what the background personal information is of that person making your order. You just care that they make it right and know what they are doing.
   When a manager hires a worker for his assembly line – he looks at him as cog in his machine to do the work. The person could be the nicest person in the world but if they cannot do the work they do not get the job. At the same time another person could be a horrible person in their personal life – but if they do their function at work well and keep their personal life out of work their manager does not care. Why? because he is objectifying that person for his function as a worker.

   We do this with musicians, actors and athletes. We can appreciate their function without knowing or appreciating their person. In fact their are some actors that I love on screen in movies whose politics and personal lives I cannot stand.

   It is the same with women – I am can completely appreciate a woman’s function(her beauty) without knowing anything about her person. Women have a hard time doing this so this is why they condemn men so easily for doing it.

   And what does the fact that they are someone’s daughter or God’s daughter have to do with anything? Did God not make them beautiful? Did God not actually design man’s brain to take pleasure in female beauty? I would argue both are truth. For a man to appreciate female beauty or even be aroused by it is no more sinful than a woman seeing a hamburger and getting hungry. Both of these natural responses are a gift of God and by the design of God. If men did not get aroused by female beauty the human civilization would have died out long ago.

   Also as to your “piece of art” comment. While I agree men should not make women feel uncomfortable by staring at them – taking passive glances is not sinful. And do you know that the Bible actually does say that woman is a piece of art that God made?

   “How beautiful are your feet in sandals, O prince’s daughter! The curves of your hips are like jewels, The work of the hands of an artist.”
   Song of Solomon 7:1 (NASB)

   The shape of a woman’s body is the work of the hands of the greatest artist of all – God himself. And God meant for man to enjoy the beauty of his artwork in woman.

3. Lindsey,

   Sorry I forgot to mention the second type of objectification which is the bad type.

   In my previous post on locker-room talk I said this:

   “The fact is it does NOT dehumanize a person to see them for their function – whether it be their potential athletic ability, singing ability, fighting ability (as in military members) or women for their sexual appeal and potential ability to bring sexual pleasure to a man.

   Yes men naturally see women as objects to be enjoyed for their sexual pleasure. However it is precisely because the vast majority of men ALSO see women as persons that they do not just grab women and try to have sex with them. Rapists ONLY see women as objects of sexual pleasure and not also as persons and this is the huge difference.”

   https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2016/12/20/why-christian-men-should-not-be-ashamed-locker-room-talk/

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