This is another great post by Nina Roesner, Author of The Respect Dare. I was sent the other post “101 ways to respect your husband”, and I thought the site was all toward women – it turns out is about 95% toward women(which is fine), but it does have some nuggets for us hubby’s as well.
Here are few of them I really liked:
“Hug her for no reason and with no motive every day. If you only touch her when you want sex, she will feel used and insignificant to you. When she feels like your treasure, your precious gem, she will be delighted more often, and work harder on her end of the relationship and her responsibilities. She will also trust you more, which means she will be less inhibited in the bedroom.”
I try to hug my wife every day, but sometimes I miss and this is a good reminder. My wife is actually not a touchy feeling person most of the time, but there are some days she really appreciates it. Touching your wife with no sexual motivations behind it something every woman wants from her husband.
Make dinner once a week (or more if you love doing that).
I love cooking and it takes some stress off my wife. I like to make pastas and stir fries, but I understand for some guys the kitchen might be a frightful place to go. If so just order take out – it still takes the stress off your wife.
Stroke or brush her hair.
This is one my wife REALLY likes. Especially when we are sitting in bed at night watching TV -thankfully my wife likes to fall asleep to the TV so I can stay up watching TV in bed . She reminds me the next day if I forgot to play with her hair while we were in bed.
Say I’m sorry when you hurt her without explaining why you did it or why it is her fault.
This one is a toughy for me, but its really hard to not add “but”s in with apologies, but she is right about that.
Send a text message during the day – something like any of the following:
This is another toughy for me – I am good at talking in person, not so good at sending random text messages, I have to really think about it to remember to to it.
There are a lot of other great tid bits for us guys so that we can grow closer to our wives. These won’t solve all your problems in marriage, but they will certainly solve a lot!
The full post from Nina Roesner can be found here.