Fathers can save our families from feminism

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The relationship between Feminism and Socialism

It is no coincidence that the rise of Feminism and Socialism in America came about at the same time. Socialists knew that they could tug on the heart strings of women more than men who were guided by logic more than emotion. After women pressured their husbands to vote for women’s suffrage a never ending flood of socialist policies were passed because of women’s votes. Instead of following sound economic, military and moral polices, we are now a nation led by the motto – “If it feels good, we should do it”.

I know many Christians, both conservative and liberal, who don’t believe Christians need to be involved in politics. They think we should just reserve all our energy and ability for our churches and communities and leave politics to others. Others take the position that our vote does not matter anymore since our own supposedly conservative politicians have let us down so many times. I reject both of these positions.

The Bible says:

“Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.”

James 4:17

Fighting for what is morally right, from a Biblical perspective, is not an option for a Christian. It is his sacred duty. Even if sometimes we feel that we are in the minority, we must always fight for what is right, not necessarily what is popular.

I teach my children to be very active in politics and we regularly watch the news together and we discuss politics in light of the Bible as well as our founding father’s original intentions. But as important as it is to be involved as Christian in politics, at the end of the day we must realize that our ultimate salvation is not in the Republican Party, or even in the Tea Party, but it is in God.

We need strong Christian men to take a stand against Feminism

The remedy to this is strong Christian men. Men need to take back our society from feminism. As Christian men, we need to look for Proverbs 31 women, whose value is more than rubies. As believers the Bible tells us that we need to marry believers.

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?”

I Corinthians 6:14-15(NIV)

But the sad reality is that many Christian women today have bought into the lies of feminism. Christian men need to look for women who want to put their husbands, children and home first and work outside the home comes second to these things.   They need to RUN from women who want to give the majority of their time, talent and energy to a career and who want to leave their mothering and home care duties to others.

I realize in America that this is a tall order as the majority of women here are either moderately feminist, or extremely feminist. I don’t think men need to give up on American Christian women, but they need to search hard as there still are many gems out there. There are some good Christian dating sites that allow Christian men to find women who share their Christian values. Eventually though some men will have to look to other, less westernized nations where Christian women still embrace their God given role in the home.

Fathers can make the most impact on our nation

I know of many great Godly mothers who raise their daughters to follow God’s design for their life, to find a husband, get married and have lots of kids.

“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”

I Timothy 5:14(KJV)

They teach their daughters to respect their husbands, they teach their sons to love their wives, and they help to build the strong Christian families we need.

But sadly in many homes in this country, even in Christian homes, both conservative and liberal, women are not following God’s design for their lives. They put their careers before their husbands and they look at children as burden rather than a blessing. If they do want kids, they have one or two, under the guise of “being able to give them a better life”. When the child is a couple months old they drop the infant off in daycare with strangers and leave their God given duty of mothering to others. They give the majority of their time and talents to strangers, rather than their husbands, their children and their homes.

The reason I brought up men looking for good Christian wives who embrace their Biblical helpmeet role is that it will make their job as a husband and father much easier. When you are married to a woman who embraces God’s design for man and woman, you are both teaching your kids the same things and you have a much better chance of your children following those things as you and your wife model them for them.

But whether a man is married to a woman who is surrendered to God’s design for her life, or if he is married to a feminist who rejects God’s gender roles – his task is still to lead his home. He may not ever be able to change his feminist wife’s attitude, but he is to exercise his leadership whether she follows him or not.

The women that a man is called by God to have the most influence on, especially in teaching and molding to follow God’s design for their lives, is his wife and his daughters.

But while I do believe husbands are called to teach and help mold their wives, the reality is, if their wife is a feminist believer it will be very difficult to change that entrenched mindset.

I do not think we as Christian men should purposefully marry feminist women in order to attempt to change them. However the fact is many Christian men find themselves married to feminist Christian women due to a lapse in judgement on their part.  Lets face it, we as men can be blinded by our sexual attraction to a woman in the same way that a good Christian woman can be blinded by the flattering words of a man.

In this case if you wake up one day and realize “I married a Christian feminist!” there are still some things you can do.  In fact God expects you to do everything in your power to help your wife escape the sinful ways of feminism.

Some Christians falsely claim that all a Christian husband can do is pray for his wife and don’t get me wrong I believe in the power of prayer.  But would we say the same thing about a rebellious child? No.  We would say that a parent should do everything in their power to drive that rebellion from the child and only after they have exhausted everything in their power then they leave that child in the hands of God.

It is no different with a wife – for more on dealing with a rebellious wife see my post 7 ways to discipline your wife.

But in the end a wife can still reject the prodding of both her husband and the Holy Spirit of God and often women do because of years of cultural conditioning that has convinced them of their feminist views.

So this leaves daughters. Even more than men’s wives, most men can have a powerful influence on their daughters. Fathers can influence and teach their daughters, not only in word but in example. Even if their mother is a feminist, a father can fight against this influence by disciplining and loving  their mother and still exercising leadership. If a man is trying to lead his family in a loving way, and mom is constantly bucking at him trying to lead, a daughter will see this.

It is all in how the man reacts. If he reacts to his wife in an unchristian matter, than the daughter will learn nothing. But if he reacts in a weak manner, or yields control to her mother, his daughter may eventually come to see her mother’s feminism as a positive thing. But if he reacts in a firm, yet respectful way toward her mother, his daughter will learn and admire the strength a man is supposed to have.

Men not only need to demonstrate the strength and leadership God has called them to, but they also need to show their daughters the love and affection they need. They need to constantly find ways of teaching them about the world, and how God wants them to live their lives. They need to show their daughters the value of being a wife and mom, and help them to understand that only by accepting God’s design for their lives, will they find true happiness and contentment.

I have four sons and one daughter. My daughter is now a teenager. From the moment she was born, I realized I was raising another man’s wife and the future mother of his children. God has given me a temporary stewardship over her, and one day I will give her hand to another man.

I believe if more men had the courage to teach their daughters the wrongs of feminism, both from the Bible and from examples in the world we could turn this nation and the world around.

When men and women accept the roles for which God has designed them, we will have a stronger and more moral society. We will have stronger marriages, and as result we will have stronger families. With stronger families we will have stronger churches, schools, communities and ultimately a stronger nation.

Is it important how we raise our sons as well? Of course it is! See my post “16 Ways to Instill Biblical Masculinity in your Sons” for Scriptural leading in this very important area.

But I firmly believe we would have a lot less dead beat dads, and men who were unwilling to marry and take on the role of husband and father if there were more women who embraced their Biblical and biological design. If men knew they could find a wife who would respect them, follow them, love them more than herself, and embrace her place in the home then many more men would head to the marriage altar.

20 thoughts on “Fathers can save our families from feminism

  1. I’m a feminist and want to be a stay at home Mother. They are not mutually exclusive. If it’s at all financially possible we’re going to try. The cost of living is so high now that a lot of women can’t stay home for economics, not because they don’t want to.

    Also I’m engaged now but I’m 30. I was living in my own apartment supporting myself before I met my fiance. What would my options have been? Living with my parents? My brother? Pass.

  2. linddykal,

    I agree being a feminist and being a stay at home mother are not mutually exclusive. I have run into many feminist women online who are stay at home mothers. However they still represent the minority in feminism from my experience. If you read other articles on my site I do talk about the fact that many women have to work because of financial situations like not being married, being divorced, being a single parent, being married to a disabled man or the husband simply does not make enough for them to survive.

    But very often people get themselves into debt and into a lifestyle where they can’t afford to live on one income and the mom is back off to work dropping her infant off with strangers because of poor life decisions. Other women knowingly plan to work as soon as their baby is 6 weeks old because their career comes before their husband and their children. These are the people are I am speaking the most too.

  3. Fair Enough.

    Not that it’s any of my business but say you are a Father and seem to care about your family. That is the first step in your daughter not getting into an abusive relationship so it is good that you are protecting her in that way.

    I was raised in the Church and I think you should be aware of the pressure that keeping pure is put on young girls. It is biblical to be a virgin before marriage but that is stressed more than almost any other sin to young girls. The outcome can be that they are taught that is there main function in life, to be a sexual object. This is especially damaging if they are abused and raped because they feel “unpure” through no fault of their own.

    I had a happy safe life but this is not the case of so many of my family and friends. When I was 20 my friend was raped and didn’t tell the police or her family because she thought she wouldn’t be able to find a husband because she wasn’t a virgin anymore. In college another friend was raped and didn’t tell her family because she was drinking which is a sin and didn’t want to be blamed. Another friend was being abused by her husband and stayed for over four years because she was told to submit to her husband and divorce is a sin. She didn’t leave until he almost killed her by strangling her. I didn’t find out about any of this until years later, they kept it to themselves.

    I’m not telling you all this to scare you about your daughter but it’s why I’m a feminist. Following all the rules and marrying a Christian man doesn’t guarantee a woman a happy or safe life. I could care less about women in the workplace, I care very much about violence against women. It got to the point that in my personal circle I knew 6 women who had been raped and 3 that were being abused by their husbands. It got to the point that I had to become a feminist because my heart couldn’t take it anymore. Even if I was stereotyped as an angry, bitter man hater (not true) I had to stand up against the violence.

    I’m sorry I wrote a novel but it’s something I’m obviously passionate about. Good luck with your family.

  4. lindydykal,

    I appreciate you explaining why you have embraced feminism, and don’t worry about writing novels – I am the king of writing novels. No woman should ever feel she has to hide the fact that she was raped and I know many cultures have taught that to women throughout history.

    I will be teaching my daughter than whether she is dating or when she gets married, if a man ever abuses her she is to let me know or others know. Biblically I come to this position from the fact that the Bible taught that if someone caused serious damage to their slave they had to free them, or if they denied their wife her rights of food, clothing and sex they had to let her go. If a slave had to freed for abuse, I would expect no difference for a wife to be freed since she had more rights than a slave.

    So no as a Christian, and Biblical Patriarchy advocate I don’t believe a woman has to stay in an abusive relationship. Now I think we need to be careful of how we define abuse, but where everyone can agree serious abuse has occurred action needs to be taken.

    On the other hand, I do believe the virginity of both men and women are important as the Bible(as you admitted in your comment) places a great importance on it. However that does not mean a woman ceases to have value simply because they had sex with other men before marriage, but still is Biblically wrong.

    A woman is more than sex object, but not less than a sex object. What that means is yes God gave us the gift of sex, and men do appreciate the site of women in the same way we appreciate the site or smell of our favorite food. But that does not mean we are animals that can just go around raping and groping or sexually harassing women anymore than we can go into a restaurant and grab people’s food off their plates and start eating it.

    A woman is both a person(with feelings, desires, hopes and dreams) and an object of sexual beauty and pleasure. To deny either, is to deny the truth.

  5. You say that eventually men will have to turn to “less westernized” nations to find godly women who are submissive and not feminists. What nations are you referring to?

  6. Eastern European nations tend to have more traditional women to choose from:

    Belarus
    Estonia
    Finland
    Latvia
    Lithuania
    Moldova
    Poland
    Russia
    Slovakia
    Ukraine

    it would be easier to find Christian women in these countries, than say some Asian countries like Japan(who also still have a decent amount of submissive women). India still has many traditional women, and there is a segment of the population that is Christian(I used work with a Christian man from India so I learned a lot about Christian Indians from him).

  7. I want to respectfully disagree and say that I don’t think feminism means what you think it means. The movement has been hijacked by woman who no longer understand it’s about equality for all, men included. As a woman the stories of men being divorced and their children and money taken from them greatly saddens me and is why true feminism, or equalism, needs to be furthered.

    Second, the traditional family is the ideal (dad works, mom stays home with kids) and is something I would have loved, but it’s not in my life’s cards. I’m the breadwinner in my marraige and make more than twice the amount if my husband. Because of my job as a CPA my husband has turned over and wants me to be the one that deals with the finances and taxes. My point is, this has become reality for millions in this country. My husband is a great man, he loves me and protects me and I submit to him fully when I walk into the door after work, but should I not have married him when I knew he wouldn’t be able to provide for me financially? That seems extremely shallow and I conisder myself better then that. Nor do I conisder him any less of a man because of it. The real sin and disrespect would be to hold that over him, which I would never do as we are partners, not rivals. Your daughter very likely might find herself in this type of marraige, and I implore you to teach her how to respect and love regardless.

  8. Laurie,

    Thank you for your respectful comments. I understand that for some such as yourself that feminism simply represents equality. There are many men that have their wives paying the bills and even doing the taxes and a husband has the authority to delegate tasks like that. However I believe that what a husband cannot delegate is his leadership in the financial arena. Priorities such as savings, income to debt ratio, how much is given to the church and the general financial direction of the family fall on him – because God has made him the head of the home.

    I realize that the views here I have presented from the Scriptures conflict with the lifestyle and marriage you have made for yourself. Even if you did come to the conviction that you made some wrong choices(which I do not sense you feel in the least bit wrong) it would not be easy to reverse since you family is so dependent on your income. But if a Christian woman were to come to me, in a similar scenario to you and truly under the conviction of the Scriptures that she wanted to work less, and be at home more I would recommend that she do it slowly and in consultation with her family(like going to part time accounting work as opposed to full time) so she could spend more time at home and have more time for her family and husband.

    I hope and pray my daughter will not find herself in this position. I have a very close relationship with my daughter and we talk often about what it means to be a man of God, and what it means to be a woman of God. So unless my daughter snubs everything I have taught her from the Bible since she was young – she will make it her life’s goal to be a wife and mother, and if she does work she will do it only out of necessity(because her husband is disabled), or she might work from home, or work part time after her kids go to school.

  9. As I have stated before, every Western Christian woman is a feminist at this point. Even if they don’t outright say it, they have been raised in a society that has trained them to have a feminist filter, and all things, including scripture, must first go through this filter before being mentally approved. That’s why you have so many Christian women out there who claim they love God and would gladly follow His will, even if it means leaving house and home and crawling through the jungles of Africa, but they struggle with submitting to their husbands. Once filtered, submission does not follow the feminist female empowerment model, and thus it does not compute. It takes a very strong woman to overcome this filter, and there are always exceptions, of course, but I see this in all manner of church women, and it’s reflected in the behavior of their husbands, who have no idea how to handle it, since the church doesn’t really address it. They cower in fear at the mere mention of opposing their wives in anything, and it’s both frightening and sickening. I cannot say that this doesn’t affect my own home at times, but at least I have been able to find resources such as BGR to keep the blinders off of my eyes. If I were to show this page to any of the men at the men’s group I attend I would likely be kicked out.

    Though we have hope in our daughters, we, unfortunately, are unable to keep and train them at home, as they often go to public school and, once school is done, move onto college or a job, which complicates matters more. The amount of time a man can spend talking to and training his daughter is much less than what it would have been in the past, and with external forces (the world) as well as internal forces (the church) telling them they shouldn’t waste their ‘good years’ on a husband a kids, it feels much like a lost battle, but we must fight on, if not for society to change, but at least for the future of our own lines. What I wouldn’t give for a strong church who would direct men and women properly, rather than cowering out and teaching the wishy-washy ‘everyone is equal’ garbage we see everywhere.

  10. SnapperTrx,

    I know what you are saying about the Church. I was at a Church men’s camping trip and we were sitting around the campfire talking about how we could be better husbands and fathers and what is stopping Christian men from leading in the church and in their homes as they should.

    They were talking about everything else BUT the elephant in the room – feminism. Many of these men if they would admit it cower each and every night before their wives. In fact I find it hilarious even in good conservative Bible teaching churches how many women have fooled themselves and their husbands into thinking they are submissive wives.

    You know you have a problem when the wife says “I am a submissive wife – tell them honey that I am a submissive wife” – it makes me want to roll when I hear that.

    But as much as I rail against feminism we must be honest and admit that Christian men abandoned their leadership positions a long time ago. The fault lies just as much at our feet as men for not leading as it does at the feet of women for not submitting.

    I realize your apprehension about daughters being poisoned by feminism in their schools. My daughter is 14 and in junior high school now. I worry about her all the time. But so far she has stood for her faith at the public school she attends, despite the ridicule she sometimes gets for standing up for her belief that God has called women to be wives and mothers first and every other consideration comes second to that.

    In fact the other night I went out shopping and just took her with me and we had some great conversations and she gave me the best compliment a Christian father could ever get. She asked “Dad how can I find a man that knows the Bible and loves God like you? All the boys around me right now do not.” I responded – “Patience. Wait on the Lord, and keep your eyes and your heart open to the man God has for you.” I also explained to her that right now she is not yet ready for a variety of reasons and that she should wait on dating until she is ready for marriage. I also told her she can read my Biblical dating guide and as soon as she graduates from high school she can begin her search online and elsewhere following those principles.

    I am praying that she will stay on the right path – but ultimately it will be her decision.

  11. I don’t understand how any Christian woman can call herself Christian and feminist. It doesn’t compute to me. I mean, the Nazi party didn’t start out as some horrible machine of genocide and murder, could I then call myself a Christian and a Nazi – but not a Nazi like those OTHER Nazi’s, I’m talking about the ORIGINAL Nazi’s who just wanted to build up their country for the sake of good!

    Sorry, but your going to be recognized for the latest installment of your label. If you say you are a Christian and a feminist you are attaching yourself to a label for women who hate men, hate God, hate freedom and hate themselves. Calling yourself a Christian should be all you need to show your support for equality, justice, love and freedom, as Christ showed his love for all of these things. And I don’t mean the mutated social justice versions of these things, but the true versions of these things. Jesus embraced equality in that, in the eyes of God there is no male nor female nor race, but He acknowledges authorities created by God. He acknowledged justice in that all injustice will be met with justice from the Father on the day of judgement. He acknowledges love by commanding us to love our neighbor as ourselves, even to love those who hate us. He acknowledges freedom by giving us the key to removing the chains of sin from our lives through His redemptive blood!

    That being said, what does adding ‘feminist’ to the end of the word Christian gain you besides approval from man? A head nod and an eye wink from the world? What will it gain you when standing before the Creator on the day of judgement?

  12. SnapperTrx,

    I agree that calling one’s self a “Christian feminist” is an oxymoron. However as you pointed out and I would agree most women even in Bible teaching churches have some degree of feminism in their thinking. In Churches like mine that are conservative – 99% of the women in our church would run from the label “feminist” and see it as bad thing. Yet these same women whether consciously or unconsciously practice many of the principles of feminism.

    That is why we need to shine the light of God’s Word on these feminist thinking patterns so that even women who think they reject feminism can see these things in themselves and root them out with the help of the Holy Spirit of God.

  13. BGR,

    I hear what your saying, but I have little hope for our country at this point. As soon as you bring up feminism or authority in a group of Christian men their eyes glaze over or, worse, they widen like deer in headlights. The church where I attend men’s group recently had a women’s dessert night, in which the men served all the ladies of the church dessert. An innocuous thing, really, I mean, its nice to be able to treat the women to a little something now and then, but when I asked if the men would be getting similar treatment the person I was talking too looked down to the floor and told me, “don’t even go there, man, just change the subject, don’t even go there…”. Suffice to say I was taken aback, but also angered. Now I am left with the choice of trying to breech the subject of authority slowly, so as not to scare anyone, or leaving altogether, so as not to be caught up in the rising tide of estrogen washing over everything. Women have been given the rod of leadership in our society, and they are gone mad by the power it yields. The power to take a mans livelihood. To take his children. To take his home, all at the flick of a wrist and the shedding of a tear. If I were a modern man looking for a bride I would be terrified. I AM terrified for my sons, who have to wade through all the muck and mire this world has to offer, in hopes, HOPES, that a suitable woman will remain suitable throughout their married lifetime.

    Sorry, I ramble on…..

  14. SnapperTrx,

    I hear you and I totally understand your fears for your sons(as I have them as well) and your sadness and anger at the current state of affairs not only in our culture, but in our churches as well.

    Others have faced these odds in the past when all hope seemed lost.

    ” And he said, I have been very jealous for the Lord God of hosts: because the children of Israel have forsaken thy covenant, thrown down thine altars, and slain thy prophets with the sword; and I, even I only, am left; and they seek my life, to take it away…

    Yet I have left me seven thousand in Israel, all the knees which have not bowed unto Baal, and every mouth which hath not kissed him.” – I Kings 19:14 & 18 (KJV)

    SnapperTrx – I believe God can raise up a faithful remnant who have not bowed to the altar of feminism and we can take back our families and our churches for Christ. It will require a willingness to stand and fight. That is why I think just as we are called as Christians to be an influence in an ungodly world, we are also called to be an influence for what is right even within out own churches.

    We ought not to abandon our churches but seek to reform them from within when possible. Take a stand and say “thus saith the Lord” and let the chips fall where they may. If they kick you out for standing for saying what is right – consider it an honor to stand for God.

    So that means when someone tells you as they did “don’t even go there”, you need to “go there”.

  15. “As Christian men, we need to look for Proverbs 31 women, whose value is more than rubies. As believers the Bible tells us that we need to marry believers.

    “ ‘Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?’ — I Corinthians 6:14-15(NIV)”

    That’s 2 Co. 6:14, 15. Marriage is not mentioned here or in the entire epistle. While the principle of not marrying an unbeliever is consistent with elsewhere in the Bible, if this passage was applied directly, it would require a spouse who was converted after marriage to a fellow unbeliever, or a Christian who came to realize that Christians are not to marry unbelievers, to divorce the unbeliever. To do so would be contrary to 1 Co. 7:12, 13.
    The sin of a Christian marrying an unbeliever is in the entering into the marriage, not in staying married once the deed is done. 1 Co. 7:16.

  16. lindykkal:
    “I was raised in the Church and I think you should be aware of the pressure that keeping pure is put on young girls. It is biblical to be a virgin before marriage but that is stressed more than almost any other sin to young girls. The outcome can be that they are taught that is there main function in life, to be a sexual object. This is especially damaging if they are abused and raped because they feel “unpure” through no fault of their own.

    I had a happy safe life but this is not the case of so many of my family and friends. When I was 20 my friend was raped and didn’t tell the police or her family because she thought she wouldn’t be able to find a husband because she wasn’t a virgin anymore. In college another friend was raped and didn’t tell her family because she was drinking which is a sin and didn’t want to be blamed….

    “I’m not telling you all this to scare you about your daughter but it’s why I’m a feminist. Following all the rules and marrying a Christian man doesn’t guarantee a woman a happy or safe life. I could care less about women in the workplace, I care very much about violence against women. It got to the point that in my personal circle I knew 6 women who had been raped…”

    The reason that virginity in never-married women is so important is that virginity cannot be restored. Once it’s gone, it’s gone forever.
    Though unknown in former ages, it is now known scientifically that elements of sperm and seminal fluid are absorbed by the woman and lodge permanently in her body. The organ of greatest importance in this is her brain. So “one flesh” has a physiological dimension in addition to the spiritual aspect. While the writer (Paul) may not have known these facts, the Holy Spirit Who was inspiring him knows.
    There is no corresponding transfer of cells and substances from the woman to the man. As is written in Romans 7:2, 3, 1 Co. 7:39 the woman is bound to her husband, not the husband to his wife. Though the relationship is permanent for life, the binding is unidirectional.
    A divorced woman remains bound to her “ex-” husband for as long as he lives. Ro. 7:3, 1 Co. 7:10, 11, 39.
    A widow, though she retains the “flesh” of her deceased husband, has no binding to a living man, so she is free to marry again.
    A non-virgin, whether a fornicatress or a raped woman, who fails to reveal her lack of virginity to her suitor, leaves him with the option of annulling his marriage to her when he learns that she has committed this fraud upon him. However, he must act timely. He cannot learn of this and then use it as an excuse months or years later to annul the marriage.

  17. My wife and I married as equals. We were not Christians in a true sense, but had cultural ties to Christianity. I believed in feminism when I married. After we had our first child something changed. Looking into my new daughters eyes awakened something in me. I knew at that point that there absolutely was a Creator God and there was NO WAY this child was a random event. I began searching in earnest for God and He found me and saved me on May 1st 2005. Any Christian reading this will understand when I say that my journey with Christ has been wonderful, challenging, exciting, and unexpected! Unfortunately my wife, who I adore, had not joined me yet😔. Also I have come to understand the perils of feminism and the benefits of a biblical family structure. When I have tried to lead I’ve been shut down entirely. She has threatened divorce thrice and hired a lawyer once. I believe she is serious about not only not being submissive but about calling the shots as she has also rejected her own ideals of equality. My lawyer told me she would get the kids and everything. So I’ve submitted to protect my family. I can accept the insinuations on this website that I am weak or pathetic or groveling or whatever. These are just unkind words. But I’m convicted by the thought that I’m disobedient to God in my stance. I’m truly confused now. I accept that feminism is a lie, that the bible is truth, and I’m ready and willing to act in that way and lead my wife. I wish to do so sacrificially and gently by putting her first. Her adamant refusal and willingness to blow up the family gives me pause. Our children will be hurt and taken from me, their father, if this happens. From the frying pan into the fire! Help!…

  18. I’m very confused I’m 15 and I have literally no idea what feminism has to do with Christ can’t women want equal rights and still love God ?

  19. Nia,

    The Bible says:

    “For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.” – I John 5:3 (KJV)

    If we truly want to love God, then we will have a desire to keep his commandments. We will never keep them perfectly in this life because we are still in sinful bodies until one day God gives us new bodies. But we must at least recognize where God’s standards are and we fall short.

    God commands that women are to be in subjection to men:

    “3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God…
    7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.
    8 For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.
    9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” – I Corinthians 11:3 & 7-9 (KJV)

    “22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
    23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
    24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” – Ephesians 5:22-24 (KJV)

    “1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives…
    5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
    6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.” – I Peter 3:1 & 5-6 (KJV)

    So Nia – if you or other Christian women desire to be socially equal with men and have equal rights to men then you are desiring something that is in direct contradiction to God’s creation order and his commands. God created woman for man and man was to be the head of woman in society, the church and the home. To make a woman equal to or put her in position where she can have authority over a man in any of these areas would be to contradict God’s commands.

    So no you cannot love God and hate his commands or want to eliminate some of his commands.

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