This article has been updated and merged into a larger article on the topic of sexual arousal and sexual fantasy on my new blog dedicated exclusively to the topic of sex from a Biblical perspective. You can find this new article here.
TC is right that the Bible records a lot of wrong activity along with right activity. But the Bible does condemn things like “adultery, idol worship, unbelief, lies, and murder”, either in the actual passages where these things occur, or in other passages.
The Bible NEVER EVER condemns Patriarchy, it actually prescribes it. The Law of Moses forbids women from owning property, and it actually regulates how polygyny may occur.
In Genesis 1:27 we see that God created “man”, not woman in his own image. Some try to argue that the phrase “male and female created he them” implies both and woman were created in God’s image. That phrase is simply saying that man and woman were both made by God, not that woman was also made in God’s image.
The Apostle Paul confirms that this is the correct interpretation of Genesis 1 when he writes in I Corinthians 11:7 “For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.”
TC asks how woman could be created in man’s image because that would mean man would have to have both feminine and masculine qualities. This would not necessarily have to be the case. When God created man in his image he started out with himself as the template. He gave man many of his qualities (but not all) and he gave man some qualities he does not have. For instance God does not have a sex drive, but God gave man a sex drive because it was part of his design for creation.
When God created woman, as opposed to starting out with himself as the template, he started with man as the template. But he did not give woman all the qualities of man, just as he did not give man all the qualities of himself. He made woman physically weaker than man, he made her more emotional and thus prone to depression easier (women have less serotonin than men). Instead of designing woman to lead as he did man, he designed woman to follow. He modified her design from the template of man to make her able to bear his children and be his helpmeet. He made her softer and gentler than man. But make no mistake, all the differences that God added in woman was to make her compliment man, to make her a perfect helper for man.
TC gets bogged down in the order of creation while ignoring clear passages of Scripture that clearly teach patriarchy. TC briefly alludes to I Corinthians 11 about man coming woman and woman from man – but TC misses one of the clearest statements in the Bible in the beginning of that passage that supports God’s design of patriarchy:
But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
I Corinthians 11:3(KJV)
This is certainly not the only passage in the Bible where God orders patriarchy, but it is the best summary of the order established in God’s world.
So TC, we can see that not only from Genesis, but all throughout the Bible and culminating in the final writings of the New Testament that the egalitarian position actually looks pretty unbiblical.
Mankind has witnessed almost every type of wicked and sinful behavior imaginable since the beginning of history. But one evil had never before been witnessed in the history of the world until just the last 150 years, and that is the scourge of feminism.
In 1848, the first woman’s rights convention was held at Seneca Falls, New York. One of the most famous statements decreed at this convention was:
“He [the legislative and judicial patriarchy] has so framed the laws of divorce as to what shall be the proper causes, and in the case of separation, to whom the guardianship of the children shall be given as to be wholly regardless of the happiness of women–the law in all cases going upon the false supposition of the supremacy of man, and giving all power into his hands.”
In these early years of feminism some women and men thought they were fighting for simple fairness and justice. Many legitimate questions were raised:
Why should women not have the same rights as men?
Why should women not have a fair distribution of property and joint custody when being divorced?
In later years these questions would also be raised:
Why should women not have the right to vote?
Why should women not be paid the same as men for the same job?
Why should women not be able to lead companies?
What should women not be able to be politicians?
Why should women not be able to be soldiers in the army?
Why should women not have the right to do with their bodies as they will (abortion)?
How we answered the first question is how the scourge of feminism was born
Women should never have been granted the same rights as men, because women have a different role to play in society than men. Men are biologically designed to lead, conquer, provide and protect. Women are built to be soft and gentle, both physically and psychologically, to bring love and comfort to men, to bear their children and raise and care for their children.
The Bible tells us why men are designed bigger and stronger and aggressive, and why they are designed with a natural desire to lead, provide for and protect women. It is because God designed man in his image, in his likeness. Man’s leadership, protection and provision for woman is symbolic of God’s leadership, provision and protection of his people.
Woman on the other hand was designed as a symbol of God’s people. God meant for woman to submit to and serve man in the same way that all of mankind is meant to submit to and serve God. Her physical beauty is given her as a symbol of the beauty of God’s holy people, his church.
When the people of the Seneca Falls Convention questioned “the supremacy of man” over woman in society they were in essence questioning the supremacy of God over man, because the relationship between God and man is symbolized in the relationship between man and woman. Yes there have been female queens and prophets and other leaders earlier in history, but never had the supremacy of man over woman ever been questioned in the way the Seneca Falls Convention questioned it.
The effects of Seneca Falls Convention
Before the Seneca Falls Convention, divorce was almost non-existent in the United States. If a man and woman did divorce, the father would retain full custody of the children and all property, and his wife was lucky to leave with the clothes on her back.
After the Seneca Falls convention, for the first time in the history of mankind, a man’s wife and his children were no longer seen as his property. Over the coming decades women were granted property rights and women started be able to divorce their husbands and also retain custody of their children. While divorce of the 19th century was not as easy as the modern no fault divorce we have now, it was still encouraged by granting women new rights in divorce.
After women were given new rights to children and property in divorce, the divorce rate tripled in the United States, although still being low by today’s divorce rate of about 50%.
After 1848 women began gaining more and more rights until they finally gained the right to vote with the passage of the 19th Amendment in 1920. This was perhaps the most pivotal moment in the history of Feminism in the United States. Now women would be able to influence public policy and there would be no end to the rights and privileges they could grant themselves by electing politicians who would favor their causes.
The Second-wave feminism of the 1960s
The “second-wave” feminism of the 1960s began an all-out assault the traditional family. Women burned their bras and declared their independence from men. The patriarchal systems that had ruled mankind since the beginning of time needed to be torn down in their view.
They sued to have the right to abortion and the right to do as they would regardless of their husband’s wishes. No fault divorce began to spread throughout the country making divorce rates rise again. By the 1980s divorce rates in the United States rose to their peak of just over 50 percent and women had gained the right to murder their own children and their husbands had not a word to say about it.
The lasting consequences of the scourge of Feminism
For the first time in the history of the world these things are now happening as a direct result of the scourge of Feminism:
Marriage is no longer the sacred institution it once was. Women end marriages based on their feelings, and not based on God’s law. Women are the ones who file for divorce in almost 70% of all cases.
A man’s wife can have an affair on him and then she can decide to leave him for another man, file for divorce and take full custody of his children and half or more of everything he owns.
A man’s wife can murder his unborn child without his knowledge.
Women can accuse men of sexual harassment with little or no proof, and men can lose their jobs and livelihoods as a result.
Women can sue companies for supposed “gender discrimination” when they don’t get promotions or treatment that they feel is “fair and equal”.
Those who hold to Feminist ideals have taken over government positions, institutions of higher learning, churches and communities and have engaged in an all-out assault on masculinity.
While divorce rates have tapered off, cohabitation rates have grown. If the separation of couples who have lived together in long term relationships were counted as divorce, the divorce rate would be far past 50 percent in the United States.
Because of the rebellion of modern women many men run from the idea of marriage. Why would a man want to marry a woman, knowing at any time she could take his children and half of everything he owns if he does anything to make her unhappy?
As a result we have an ever growing number of single mothers or divorced mothers raising children. Crimes rates are up, poverty rates are up, all because of the disintegration of the family unit which is a direct result of Feminism.
Not only has the family unit suffered, but the church and our communities have suffered as well. We have become soft toward crime and criminals, we have softened our approach to our enemies abroad. Feminism like a disease has spread to almost every corner of our society.
What can we do against these seemingly overwhelming odds?
For those of us who embrace God’s design of man, woman and the family there is still hope even in the midst of all the carnage that Feminism has created.
We need to encourage men to be men. To lovingly, but firmly lead and provide for their families. Fathers need to teach their boys to not be ashamed of their masculinity, but to embrace it. They need to be gentlemen, and leaders. Women need to be taught their place in God’s creation, both by the churches as well as their husbands. Women need to be taught to embrace the fact that God created them to be a gift to man, and their greatest honor is to bear and raise the children of mankind.
This will take a great deal of courage on the part of men and church leaders. I believe we also have to use tact in how we approach women with these subjects. We need to treat women with love and respect, but we also need to lead.
Bible passages like these need to be preached from the pulpits of churches all across America and husbands and fathers need to teach these truths to the wives and daughters:
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God…Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.”
I Corinthians 11:3 & 9(KJV)
“3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”
I Timothy 5:14(KJV)
This new approach to directly confronting feminism in our homes and churches will not come without a cost. Pastors need to realize that some members will leave their churches when they stand on the Word of God and God’s design for man, woman and the family.
When men grow spines in their homes with their wives, their wives may threaten divorce or actually divorce them and they must be ready for this. There is no sin in a man standing for what is right, and if his wife leaves him for this the sin lies with her.
Single men when seeking wives need to be honest about their God given convictions. This might make finding a wife in America or other westernized countries more difficult and Godly Christian men may sometimes need to seek wives from countries abroad that have not been as poisoned by Feminism. I wrote another article where I talked about how Godly men can have the greatest influence through their relationships with their daughters.
We can begin to take back our society, one marriage, one family and one church at a time, if we will only have the courage to follow God’s ways and do what is right, no matter the cost.
Surveys and articles like this one from Time are pathetic in my view. Of course being at home can be more stressful than being at work. There are more responsibilities and especially when a mother is raising young children I would totally agree it can be harder and more stressful to be a stay at home mom than a working mom.
I understand the article is trying to address stress issues in both genders, but anyone reading it can see they are trying to say it is better to be a working mom than a stay at home mom.
Doing the right thing is often the harder thing. Taking the easier way out is often the wrong way. Yes ladies you can give yourself an 8 to 10 hour break every day from your children, and have less stress by letting some daycare workers take care of your kids while you have “adult time” at the office. But is this what is best for your child? Is this what God intended? The answer is most assuredly no.
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”
I Timothy 5:14
“…Teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
God did not say “hey ladies I know being at home can be stressful, especially with young kids, so go drop your daughters off with other women and go have a less stressful time at your career”.
Is pregnancy stress free? Is giving birth stress free? No these things take great tolls on a woman’s body but it is all worth it when a mom holds that young infant child in her arms for the first time.
What studies and articles like this don’t tell women is what they will lose by “relieving their stress”. You lose those special moments with your child. Instead of you being the first person to see your child walk, some day care worker gets to experience that special moment. Instead of hearing your child’s first words, a day care worker gets to hear them.
When you see your child grow up to be a stable and loving adult and you watch them graduate from high school, and maybe college and then get married – all that “stress” you went through at home will have been worth it.
Don’t take easy way out, do the hard work and you will reap the rewards God has in store for you when you follow his design.
This is a great article by Kathy Duane on the history of higher education. I agree with 90% percent of this article. College used be seen as privilege for the best and brightest of our society, not as a right. I agree that many colleges have so dumbed down their curriculum and standards that they have become little more than extensions of high school.
I also agree that the liberal philosophy that is taught in our universities and colleges today is very destructive to our youth. This is why I am highly encouraging my children to attend Christian colleges that I know have very high academic and moral standards for their students.
Not all kids are meant for college though, and we as parents need to help guide our children in this area. I have 5 children. My oldest son will be a junior in high school next year and I am definitely pushing college hard with him as he is made for it, he is very bright academically, but a little lazy.
My second oldest son has always struggled academically, but he is very mechanically inclined, he loves guns and is great athletically. Guess what I have encouraged him to do? Join the military. As his father I believe he is built perfectly for that.
With my daughter – it is different. I am encouraging her to go Christian college, but not for a career. I am encouraging her to go so she can meet a good Christian man and so she can maybe homeschool her children. It would not make me upset in the least bit if my daughter were a freshmen in college and met a wonder Christian man who was a senior and she quit college to marry him and be a wife and mother. This would be wonderful in my view.
There was a time when a college education was held in high regard. It was considered a privilege that only the truly deserving were permitted to experience. And, unlike today, America’s first colleges were educational institutions whose sole purpose was the training of young men for the ministry.
America began its path to higher education with the establishment of Harvard and Princeton in the
1600’s. Both colleges were religious education institutions and this was to be their sole mandate for the next 100 years.
Harvard began as an extension of the Puritan Church and Princeton was established by the leaders of the Presbyterian Church. The professors were highly respected ministers themselves, many of whom hailed from England. They held fast to their religious beliefs in both their public lives and their private lives and insisted that their students do the same. Their life-long vocations were to prepare young men to preach God’s word to the widely dispersed population of rural America. Once ordained, the young ministers were dispatched throughout the country, to establish new congregations or…
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This question would seem to evoke laughter in the majority of American and Western households today. Why ask such a silly question when we all know the obvious answer is YES!
This is a serious question though, for those in America and across the world who hold the Bible to be the perfect Word of God. There are still millions across the globe who treasure every word of the Bible, and do not believe it teachings are “outdated” or “antiquated”.
But even among those who believe the Bible is the Word of God there is still some debate on this question. The reality is that women have worked outside the home since the beginning of mankind. In ancient times women helped tend the fields, or care for the livestock.
I believe the real question is not really one of a woman working, but of a woman being a “full time career woman” and thus a “part time mom”. I think Barbara Rainey really summarized this issue well in the book “Starting your marriage right” that she coauthored with her husband Dennis:
“I am not opposed to women working outside the home. But I want to discuss the issue of mothers-especially those with young children-devoting time and energy to another full-time occupation.
A majority of mothers now work outside the home either part-time or full-time. Reasons include survival needs, lifestyle needs, and personal fulfillment needs. Some women work because they fear a possible divorce would leave them unable to provide for themselves. Let’s look at what is really taking place in our culture.
Working mothers are not a new phenomenon. What is new is the shift in career focus: from full-time mother with a job on the side to a full-time career while attempting to mother in whatever time is left over.
I don’t believe Scripture supports this notion. A familiar passage in the New Testament summarizes what young wives and mothers are to do: “To love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be dishonored.”(Titus 2:4-5).
Notice the priority of commitments given women in this passage: husband first and children second. Based upon this instruction, I think every women needs to ask herself, “Is a job the best use of my time? Will I have more influence for the future through my employment or through my children?””
Starting your marriage Right, pg 126
All I have to say to this sister in Christ is – AMEN, AMEN and AMEN.
No two Christians are going to agree on everything, and I am sure that Dennis and his wife Barbara would not agree with everything I write on my blog, nor would I agree with everything they write in their books or say on their radio shows. But having said that, I consider them to be kindred spirits in the Lord who are fighting the good fight for the family and the Biblical view of marriage.
I think it is wonderful that not only did Mrs. Rainey give her opinion as elder woman in the Lord, but she backed it up with Scripture. She is even doing what the passage says to do – in this same passage she quotes, guess who are the ones to teach women these things?
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.”
It’s the older women who should be teaching the younger women these wonderful Biblical truths. But unfortunately, not just in the non-Christian community, but also in the Christian community, feminism is running so rampant in Churches today these truths are all but silenced, instead of being proudly taught from the Scriptures as they once were.
But what about….
So as Mrs. Rainey stated, this is not really about women working outside the home, but about priorities. It is one thing for a mom to work outside the home part time because she has to. Perhaps her husband already works sixty hours a week and he can’t really do more and the bills demand she works, then she must.
But I believe Christian families really have to look at their financial priorities. If a woman is working just to help put food on the table and a roof over her family’s head the Bible does condemn her actions. The Bible never condemns a woman working outside the home for just this reason, God knew sometimes it demanded by the circumstances of the sin-cursed world we live in that woman sometimes have are called on to provide in addition to, or in the absence of a husband.
But the Bible does not release a woman from her duties to the home either. Her husband, her children and her home are always her first priority. That is why I believe it is unfair for a man to have his wife work unless it is absolutely necessary.
Yesterday I heard a Christian’s woman’s heartbreaking story of why she has to work fulltime. Two years after she married her husband some ten years ago he was diagnosed with a brain tumor, he has suffered memory loss and other cognitive abilities ever since and this stops him from being able to work. Her mother helps watch her kids and when she has to travel often her mother will come with the kids and watch them for her while she is working. This woman is a perfect example of why a woman might have to take on the role of providing for her family that normally the husband should be doing.
But the reality is, if we are truthful this is not the case in most instances of women working today. Many women today consciously plan a career and full time work long before they are married. Then when they get married and eventually have children, a few months after the baby is born mom drops her baby off at day care and back to her career she goes. She does this for the next child as well and the probably stops having children(statistics show most full time career women don’t have more than two children).
I know of a man whose wife runs an in-home day care center and he explained how sad this is. He said many of these career moms drop their infants and small children off with his wife at 6 AM each day and most don’t return till at least 6 PM or sometimes 7 PM each night during the week. That means someone else is caring for their infants or small children for twelve to thirteen hours a day!
These are exactly the kind of moms Barbara Rainey is taking about – “Full time career women” and “part time moms”. Yet our society praises this! Women are told this is a fulfilling life!
Just like abortion, I believe many career women block out what they are doing to their infants and small children. They tell themselves “it is for the best, I am setting a good example for my kids, especially my daughters on how successful a woman can be. I am providing a better life for them than if we just had their father’s income. In fact if we had only his income, we would not be able to afford the new cars and the big house and nice family trips, those things are more important than me looking after them right now, I have left them in good hands.” This is what millions of woman across America tell themselves everyday as they go to achieve “great things” in their careers. But does God see this as a “great”? Or is he saddened by this instead? Is this what he meant them for, to leave their mothering and nurturing duties to someone else?
A mother is not just someone who reads a bed time story to her kid each night. Especially in the first few years of life a mother is everything to a young child. So every time that child falls, or is scared, or needs comfort for those 12 hours a day she spends “fulfilling her dreams” – who is the one who comforts them? I can tell you this, it is not the person that God designed for this privilege. A mom is the one is makes the young child their favorite lunch, who reads them stories during the day, who holds them when they are sick or scared. She bathes them, she teaches them about God and the world. A mom is there when her child takes their first step, who hears their first word, in fact moms usually get to see most of their kids “firsts” and they get to deliver the happy messages to Dad.
Instead today many women sacrifice all these beautiful moments for a career, for paycheck. How sad. Instead mom gets to hear second hand from someone else, someone who got to experience the special moments that God meant for her.
So women can’t use their talents?
The next question I am often asked is, do I believe then that women just have to sit home knitting, cooking and cleaning for the entirety of their lives?
No way. Even the Bible shows a woman using her talents in Proverbs:
An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. 13 She looks for wool and flax And works with her hands in delight. 14 She is like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar. 15 She rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens. 16 She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17 She girds herself with strength And makes her arms strong. 18 She senses that her gain is good; Her lamp does not go out at night. 19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hands grasp the spindle. 20 She extends her hand to the poor, And she stretches out her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household, For all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22 She makes coverings for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies belts to the tradesmen. 25 Strength and dignity are her clothing, And she smiles at the future. 26 She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 27 She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying: 29 “Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all.” 30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. 31 Give her the product of her hands, And let her works praise her in the gates.
Some have mistakenly tried to point to Proverbs 31 as showing a full time career woman and this passage shows nothing of the kind. The woman in this passage is intelligent – “she opens her mouth in wisdom”. She is resourceful when she “She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard” and when she “makes linen garments and sells them”.
So I would agree with my Christian feminist and Egalitarian friends that this woman is not always at home, however the passage shows the focus of her life is in fact her home. Every one of these things she does is focused on her home. In fact the vast majority of things she does here would allow her to work from home. A few times she may go out to buy things, or plant a vineyard, but in now ways does this show a woman that is gone from her home 40 to 50 hours a week pursing some career and leaving her house undone or duties to her husband, children and home to others.
Just as back then women could run a business out of their home (such as selling fine clothes), so to today women can run businesses out of their home. They can have in-home daycare, do telemarketing and host of other things. They can write books, they can run blog sites.
My daughter who is in the fifth grade (at the time of writing this post) is a very talented writer. Her teachers tell me how she excels in English and creative writing and I am very proud of her accomplishments. I am teaching her though that she needs to channel her gifts and use them in a way that would honor God and his commands.
I encourage my daughter to go to college and expand her writing abilities, but I also tell her that a career outside the home and without a family is not what God teaches in his Word is right for her.
I Timothy 5:14
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”
I teach my daughter than unless she is called to full time Christian ministry, and also called to be celibate in life(as few are called too) she needs to marry and have children. When we combine the teaching of Titus 2:3-5 with this passage from I Timothy 5, as well as the example of women throughout the Bible going back to the Garden of Eden we see God’s Word is clear on his priorities and design for woman.
Woman are to marry, love their husbands, bear children, love their children, be workers at home, manage the home and be respectful to their husband’s guidance. A husband is not commanded to be a keeper of the home, or to raise children at home, but instead he is to go out and provide for his family. He is called to be the head of his home, and to protect his home.
So no I do not believe every case of a woman working outside the home is wrong. Many are necessary and for good reason. Some women are able to work part-time and not neglect their husbands, their children or their home and in this case a woman working outside the home would be fine. Some women are forced to work, because their husband is either unable, or unwilling to work to provide, or they are a single parent. God understands all these situations.
But a woman who works outside the home, simply to get more material things and because being a house wife and mom are just “dull and boring to her”, should examine God’s Word. A woman who is unwilling to sacrifice her career to care for her children – needs to examine her priorities in light of the Scriptures. She should open her heart to God’s design for her life, only then can she find the true joy that only he can offer. But it will require a surrender to her creator’s will. I pray if you are that woman reading this, you will let God speak to your heart today.
It is no coincidence that socialists in American have been and continue to assault the institution of marriage. It should not surprise us that most people who support government take overs of business and health care also support gay marriage and oppose traditional marriage, including traditional gender roles.
The destruction of traditional marriage is a very old tenant in the Socialist handbook, just as organized religion is. Socialists want people to have their ultimate allegiance to the state. Loyalty to family, or to God threatens ultimate loyalty to the State. That is why Socialist states find every way they can to marginalize religion, and they encourage “free love” because they know free love ultimately builds dependency upon the state.
Socialists are succeeding in America with their goals. Both church attendance and marriage rates are down. Cohabitation rates are way up.
President Obama has led the Socialist charge since he became President in 2009. He or his justice department have tried to interfere in church hiring practices and he has tried to force Christian businesses and church organizations to pay for abortion coverage.
President Obama’s minions at every level of Government are trying to force gay marriage down the throats of Bible believing Christians. Christians are in fear of losing their businesses or being dragged into court if they refuse to participate in a gay wedding.
Our Socialist President loves creating more and more dependency, he gives out “free” cell phones and has massively expanded food stamp programs which discourage people from finding work.
But it all goes back to an assault on the family, and on traditional marriage, if we continue to lose our fight for traditional marriage and the traditional family unit, our nation will soon crumble.
I pray that all my Christian friends, and even those non-Christians who understand the importance of the traditional family unit, will stand together against this Socialist assault. We need to find candidates that will not be afraid of the word SOCIALIST – that is what President Obama is, that is what Harry Reid is. That is what many democrats are. We need to call it what it is!
We also need Christians and churches to get out of bed with the Socialists! So many Christians think that socialism is a good think because it supposedly helps the poor so they get in bed with the very people who are assaulting the family, God and religious freedom. Christians wake up!!!
This concisely written article written by Kathy Duane, is a scathing rebuke of working mothers and at the same time an encouragement to young stay at home moms that they are doing the right thing – despite what feminism tries to teach women today.
Working moms not only miss their blessed child’s first step but they may miss their precious child’s first word
or even their first chuckle. They may miss watching them as they learn to blow bubbles or how to rock a rocking horse or walk on a rock wall. They many miss the astonishment in their eyes as they watch butterflies flying, wind blowing or squirrels climbing trees. They may miss wandering in the garden picking, and eating, tomatoes, looking for bugs or joyously chasing birds. Yes, working mothers miss a lot.
Working moms miss dress-up time, learning to hug a baby doll and experiencing for the first time, their little ones own reflection in a mirror. They miss nap time, lunchtime and playtime. After work, if there are older children in the family too, there’s homework, sports, dinner, baths and bed. There isn’t any…
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You can’t make this stuff up! Normally I am very careful about not attacking the messenger and only attacking the message. But this is one of those rare instances where a person is revealing their own nature, their own motives and their own inner self.
Let me first say that I do not believe women have a monopoly on selfishness. Many men have put their careers before their families and all but ignored their wife and children and they ought to be ashamed for such behavior. There are men who think the entire world revolves around their needs, wants, desires and ambitions.
But this woman demonstrates, that there are also very selfish women who also put their needs, wants, desires and ambitions before everyone, and everything else.
This woman’s article could be summarized in the following statement:
“Ladies look out for your own wants and needs before the wants and needs of your husband or children.”
She would say working moms are looking out for the needs of their children by having careers so they could provide for their children if they get divorced.
Women should get married planning for an eventual divorce? If you plan for failure, you will eventually make it happen.
Snarky Brunette – thank you for your candor and your honesty, if more women were honest with men and upfront with the views you have we could avoid more divorces by not marrying women like you.
The relationship between Feminism and Socialism
It is no coincidence that the rise of Feminism and Socialism in America came about at the same time. Socialists knew that they could tug on the heart strings of women more than men who were guided by logic more than emotion. After women pressured their husbands to vote for women’s suffrage a never ending flood of socialist policies were passed because of women’s votes. Instead of following sound economic, military and moral polices, we are now a nation led by the motto – “If it feels good, we should do it”.
I know many Christians, both conservative and liberal, who don’t believe Christians need to be involved in politics. They think we should just reserve all our energy and ability for our churches and communities and leave politics to others. Others take the position that our vote does not matter anymore since our own supposedly conservative politicians have let us down so many times. I reject both of these positions.
The Bible says:
“Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.”
Fighting for what is morally right, from a Biblical perspective, is not an option for a Christian. It is his sacred duty. Even if sometimes we feel that we are in the minority, we must always fight for what is right, not necessarily what is popular.
I teach my children to be very active in politics and we regularly watch the news together and we discuss politics in light of the Bible as well as our founding father’s original intentions. But as important as it is to be involved as Christian in politics, at the end of the day we must realize that our ultimate salvation is not in the Republican Party, or even in the Tea Party, but it is in God.
We need strong Christian men to take a stand against Feminism
The remedy to this is strong Christian men. Men need to take back our society from feminism. As Christian men, we need to look for Proverbs 31 women, whose value is more than rubies. As believers the Bible tells us that we need to marry believers.
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?”
I Corinthians 6:14-15(NIV)
But the sad reality is that many Christian women today have bought into the lies of feminism. Christian men need to look for women who want to put their husbands, children and home first and work outside the home comes second to these things. They need to RUN from women who want to give the majority of their time, talent and energy to a career and who want to leave their mothering and home care duties to others.
I realize in America that this is a tall order as the majority of women here are either moderately feminist, or extremely feminist. I don’t think men need to give up on American Christian women, but they need to search hard as there still are many gems out there. There are some good Christian dating sites that allow Christian men to find women who share their Christian values. Eventually though some men will have to look to other, less westernized nations where Christian women still embrace their God given role in the home.
Fathers can make the most impact on our nation
I know of many great Godly mothers who raise their daughters to follow God’s design for their life, to find a husband, get married and have lots of kids.
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”
I Timothy 5:14(KJV)
They teach their daughters to respect their husbands, they teach their sons to love their wives, and they help to build the strong Christian families we need.
But sadly in many homes in this country, even in Christian homes, both conservative and liberal, women are not following God’s design for their lives. They put their careers before their husbands and they look at children as burden rather than a blessing. If they do want kids, they have one or two, under the guise of “being able to give them a better life”. When the child is a couple months old they drop the infant off in daycare with strangers and leave their God given duty of mothering to others. They give the majority of their time and talents to strangers, rather than their husbands, their children and their homes.
The reason I brought up men looking for good Christian wives who embrace their Biblical helpmeet role is that it will make their job as a husband and father much easier. When you are married to a woman who embraces God’s design for man and woman, you are both teaching your kids the same things and you have a much better chance of your children following those things as you and your wife model them for them.
But whether a man is married to a woman who is surrendered to God’s design for her life, or if he is married to a feminist who rejects God’s gender roles – his task is still to lead his home. He may not ever be able to change his feminist wife’s attitude, but he is to exercise his leadership whether she follows him or not.
The women that a man is called by God to have the most influence on, especially in teaching and molding to follow God’s design for their lives, is his wife and his daughters.
But while I do believe husbands are called to teach and help mold their wives, the reality is, if their wife is a feminist believer it will be very difficult to change that entrenched mindset.
I do not think we as Christian men should purposefully marry feminist women in order to attempt to change them. However the fact is many Christian men find themselves married to feminist Christian women due to a lapse in judgement on their part. Lets face it, we as men can be blinded by our sexual attraction to a woman in the same way that a good Christian woman can be blinded by the flattering words of a man.
In this case if you wake up one day and realize “I married a Christian feminist!” there are still some things you can do. In fact God expects you to do everything in your power to help your wife escape the sinful ways of feminism.
Some Christians falsely claim that all a Christian husband can do is pray for his wife and don’t get me wrong I believe in the power of prayer. But would we say the same thing about a rebellious child? No. We would say that a parent should do everything in their power to drive that rebellion from the child and only after they have exhausted everything in their power then they leave that child in the hands of God.
It is no different with a wife – for more on dealing with a rebellious wife see my post 7 ways to discipline your wife.
But in the end a wife can still reject the prodding of both her husband and the Holy Spirit of God and often women do because of years of cultural conditioning that has convinced them of their feminist views.
So this leaves daughters. Even more than men’s wives, most men can have a powerful influence on their daughters. Fathers can influence and teach their daughters, not only in word but in example. Even if their mother is a feminist, a father can fight against this influence by disciplining and loving their mother and still exercising leadership. If a man is trying to lead his family in a loving way, and mom is constantly bucking at him trying to lead, a daughter will see this.
It is all in how the man reacts. If he reacts to his wife in an unchristian matter, than the daughter will learn nothing. But if he reacts in a weak manner, or yields control to her mother, his daughter may eventually come to see her mother’s feminism as a positive thing. But if he reacts in a firm, yet respectful way toward her mother, his daughter will learn and admire the strength a man is supposed to have.
Men not only need to demonstrate the strength and leadership God has called them to, but they also need to show their daughters the love and affection they need. They need to constantly find ways of teaching them about the world, and how God wants them to live their lives. They need to show their daughters the value of being a wife and mom, and help them to understand that only by accepting God’s design for their lives, will they find true happiness and contentment.
I have four sons and one daughter. My daughter is now a teenager. From the moment she was born, I realized I was raising another man’s wife and the future mother of his children. God has given me a temporary stewardship over her, and one day I will give her hand to another man.
I believe if more men had the courage to teach their daughters the wrongs of feminism, both from the Bible and from examples in the world we could turn this nation and the world around.
When men and women accept the roles for which God has designed them, we will have a stronger and more moral society. We will have stronger marriages, and as result we will have stronger families. With stronger families we will have stronger churches, schools, communities and ultimately a stronger nation.
Is it important how we raise our sons as well? Of course it is! See my post “16 Ways to Instill Biblical Masculinity in your Sons” for Scriptural leading in this very important area.
But I firmly believe we would have a lot less dead beat dads, and men who were unwilling to marry and take on the role of husband and father if there were more women who embraced their Biblical and biological design. If men knew they could find a wife who would respect them, follow them, love them more than herself, and embrace her place in the home then many more men would head to the marriage altar.