In Hebrew and Greek, the original languages of the Bible, there is no word for husband. Instead, the Bible uses two words to refer to husbands and these words can refer to men that are not husbands as well.
In the Hebrew of the Old Testament husbands are often referred to as “ish” which means “a male human being” and the New Testament also uses the Greek equivalent word for male which is “aner” to refer to husbands. In other words, one of the ways to refer to a woman’s husband in ancient times was simply to refer to him as “her man”.
The second word which the Bible uses to refer to a woman’s husband is very offensive to modern ears. The Hebrew word “baal” is used 15 times in the Old Testament to refer to a woman’s husband. The Hebrew word “baal” means “master/owner”. There is also an adverb use of “baal” which means “owned”. The word is used to refer to masters, home owners, a pagan deity and to husbands.
The following passage from the book of Exodus illustrates the use of baal where it is not a referring to a woman’s husband.
“7 If a man shall deliver unto his neighbour money or stuff to keep, and it be stolen out of the man’s house; if the thief be found, let him pay double. 8 If the thief be not found, then the master [BAAL] of the house shall be brought unto the judges, to see whether he have put his hand unto his neighbour’s goods.
9 For all manner of trespass, whether it be for ox, for ass, for sheep, for raiment, or for any manner of lost thing which another challengeth to be his, the cause of both parties shall come before the judges; and whom the judges shall condemn, he shall pay double unto his neighbour.
10 If a man deliver unto his neighbour an ass, or an ox, or a sheep, or any beast, to keep; and it die, or be hurt, or driven away, no man seeing it: 11 Then shall an oath of the Lord be between them both, that he hath not put his hand unto his neighbour’s goods; and the owner [BAAL] of it shall accept thereof, and he shall not make it good.
12 And if it be stolen from him, he shall make restitution unto the owner [BAAL] thereof.”
Exodus 22:7-12 (KJV)
Notice in the passage above that baal is translated as “master” in verse 8, then as “owner” in verses 11 and 12. The reason for this that baal in the context of a house meant the head of household or literally the master of the house. But in the context of goods being held or exchanged, baal referred to the owner of the goods.
Now let’s look at the following passage refers to a husband’s mastery and ownership over his wife:
“If a man be found lying with a woman married [BAAL used as verb] to an husband [BAAL used as noun], then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.
Deuteronomy 22:22 (KJV)
The phrase “a woman married to an husband” is most literally translated from the Hebrew as “a woman owned by an owner”.
In the Proverbs 31 regarding the virtuous wife, the Bible refers to her husband not as her “ish” (her man), but rather as her “baal” (her master):
“10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband [BAAL – master] doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil…
23 Her husband [BAAL – master] is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land…
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband [BAAL – master] also, and he praiseth her.“
Some Christians, unwilling to accept the Biblical teaching that a husband is the master and owner of his wife, have tried to claim that since “ish”(meaning man) is used more often than “baal” to refer to a woman’s husband that this is how God wants a wife to see her husband, as her man and not as her master. These Christian’s see a husband’s mastery over his wife as a result of sin and something God only temporarily allowed.
Some have even tried to point to the following Old Testament passage to say God’s preference is for women to see their husbands as their “man” and not “master”:
“And it shall be at that day, saith the Lord, that thou shalt call me Ishi; and shalt call me no more Baali.”
Hosea 2:16 (KJV)
In the passage above God was not giving up his mastery over his wife, Israel. But rather he saying he wanted her to see him as BOTH her man and her master. Ishi was the tender and affectionate way that women sometimes referred to their husbands. In essence, God wanted his wife Israel to say to him “You are not just my master, but you are my man”.
The passage below from the New Testament, settles once and for all whether or not a husband’s mastery over his wife was a result of sin or his design from the beginning of creation:
“For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord [Greek KURIOS – “master”]: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”
1 Peter 3:5-6 (KJV)
The fact that the Apostle Peter commands women, Christian women, to follow the examples of Old Testament women like Sarah who called their husband’s “lord” (master) confirms for us that a husband’s mastery over his wife was God’s design from the very beginning of creation.
How Masters of Wives Became Husbands
Many centuries after the New Testament was finished, English, like other languages came up with a new word to refer specifically to the master and owner of a wife. Originally husband meant “master of the house”. So the early English translations of the Bible translated “baal” as “husband” instead of master as they believed it helped refer to a specific kind of master, the master of a wife.
In no way was the translation of a master of a wife as “husband” meant to weaken a man’s authority over his wife. English common law, following Biblical law, recognized a husband’s full ownership over his wife and children. When it came to his wife, a man could override any of his wife’s decisions and had complete control over her life, again in keeping with Biblical law (see Numbers 30, Ephesians 5:22-24:).
American Society Rejects the Mastery of Husband Over His Wife
The term “master” in our American society is seen as a very negative term and evokes images of slave masters acting cruelly toward their slaves. But in the Bible, the term master was not automatically associated with slavery or cruelty. It recognizes that there were just slave masters and cruel slave masters.
The Bible also recognizes a concept that we as 21st century Americans cannot understand. That to be owned and master by someone does not automatically make you a slave. In other words, while a husband is his wife’s master, meaning that he does own her and control her life, that does not make her his slave.
The Bible shows that husbands as masters of their wives have far greater responsibilities toward their wives than masters of slaves. In Ephesians 5:25-29, the Bible commands that husbands are to be willing to give their lives to protect their wives, they are to lead, teach, provide for and care for their wives as Christ does his church.
Conclusion
The Bible is clear that God wants Christian women to recognize their husband’s as more than their “life partners” or “friends” and even more than their leaders. God wants wives to recognize their husband’s as their earthly masters who have full control over their lives.
Full acceptance of the Biblical teaching of a husband’s mastery over his wife requires both a Christian husband and a Christian wife to reject the belief in the full autonomy of women. This modern belief that women have the same rights and freedom as men is enshrined in our American laws. But these laws giving women the same rights and freedom as men are null and void in the eyes of God and we as Christian husbands and wives must consider these laws null and void as well if we are to have marriages that are faithful to God’s design.
It will require great courage for Christian men to reclaim their birthright and responsibility of mastery over their wives in this post feminist era. And it will require great humility on the part of Christian women to fully embrace their husband’s mastery over them.
Let us pray for a courageous generation of Christian men and a humble generation of Christian women to return our society back to God’s design for marriage.
Biblical Gender Roles 
Hello, I hope all is well with you! I’ve been reading your blog for awhile now, as there’s been a strong urge to seek answers about God and His will, and almost everything you write about makes a lot of sense to me. It does hurt realizing that there really isn’t a lot of value in being a woman, as there is in being a man, but I honestly try to look at it as though everything is for God, so regardless, we are made to ultimately please Him and our feelings on the matter are irrelevant. However, I do have one question, and please forgive me as I’m really trying to understand all of this, but how is a wife not her husband’s slave if by its very definition, a slave is one who is the property of another and who is commanded to obey their owner? For some reason, that’s holding me up. It almost seems like by NOT coming out and admitting wives are their husband’s slaves, that we are “sugarcoating” it. Please correct me if I’m wrong. I’d love to better understand. Thank you!
Megan,
The reason you feel you do not have as much value as man to God, and thus have your feelings hurt, is because you have been conditioned by our culture to believe that way. American and by extension Western culture, teaches women that their value comes from their equality with men and and their education. So the the more equality and education you have or allowed to have, the more valuable you are. That is a LIE. And you must come to realize that or you will never fully understand God’s Word for you or his plan for your life.
You and by extension all women, have great value to God and you have equal value to God as a man does. You were simply made to play a different part in his creation than a man. You get to carry and raise the next generation of human beings. That is an awesome privilege and something that is much needed. Much of the reason that our society is crumbling is because of mothers not being in the home and not dedicating their lives to serving their husbands, their children and their homes. Again this is of great value and it is crucial to the health of any civilization.
As to your question about the difference between wives and slaves. You have correctly pointed out that from a Biblical perspective both slaves and wives are owned and commanded commanded by their owners. But you need to realize that our modern definition of a slave is not how the Bible defines a slave. And as Christians when it comes to moral issues (e.g., marriage, parenting, sex, gender, church…etc) we must let the Bible define all these things for us and in many cases that means rejecting the modern definitions for these things.
In the Scriptures the primary distinction between a wife and slave was in the different responsibilities that a master had toward his slave verses the responsibilities he had toward his wife which were far greater. See my article https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2019/08/22/8-biblical-differences-between-wives-and-slaves/
So I wonder if, reading the verse in Hosea, those same people would acknowledge then that God relinquished his authority over Israel? Or even over mankind? If they insist the passage infers that God remove the authority of “master” from husbands then that must also mean that God is no longer our master, which destroys christianity as a whole. Modern day christians seem more and more dumb to me by the day.
Snapper,
Yes – they are so desperate to “take down the patriarchy” that in the process they remove authority from God as well. I actually had a woman message me this morning that she believes in gender roles and man’s headship, but that I have “taken it too far”. She rejects the idea of a man’s control over his wife’s body, that he can have sex with her when he pleases and also control what how she dresses. This is why a husband’s authority is rejected, because it is indeed a very personal authority. But it is the teaching of God’s Word.
What’s sad is that so many christian women don’t even realize that they are espousing and living the feminism they claim they dislike. Feminism lite is still feminism. Sure they won’t stand out on the corner and burn their bras or shout “Down with the patriarchy”, but they’ll stand up in church and tell the men that they don’t need a boss or an authority over them. They are ADULTS, as though that meant anything! Plenty of adults, in fact almost ALL adults, have someone in their lives who is an authority over them in one regard or another, and that’s one of the things that makes christian women so ridiculous. They will claim they need no authority over their lives to their husbands yet readily bow down to the authority of a boss, or a teacher or even a pastor! I would venture to say that, if asked, a majority of christian women would say their pastor has more spiritual authority over them than their own husbands do! I tell you the West is on a collision course with a Titanic sized iceberg of disobedience and ignorance. I want off the ship before it goes down!
Another Greek New Testament word is “δεσπότης” (despotis) meaning “lord” or “master,” and it is how the Greek Orthodox Church refers to bishops and how deacons address priests, to reflect each man’s place in the clerical hierarchy. Greek Orthodox prayers also address Christ as “δεσπότης” (despotis) and as “κύριος” (kyrios), another word for “lord.” Yet another way that the relationship between husband and wife, owner and owned, reflects that of Christ and His Church.