Merriam Webster’s dictionary defines a “teacher’s pet” as “a pupil who has won the teacher’s special favor”. And this is what every wife should strive for, to be her husband’s pet, his student who has won his special favor.
The Bible teaches that a woman is not only to regard her husband as her head (Eph 5:23) and her master (1 Peter 3:6) but also as her teacher.
The Bible says this of wives in 1 Corinthians 14:35:
“And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.”
And 1 Peter 3:1-2 teaches wives to win their husbands with their subjection, their reverence and overall good behavior.
The husband is to be his wife’s teacher. Her worldview should be shaped by his teachings. And the wife is to be the teacher’s pet.
This requires a woman to humble herself and rid herself of the pride that this modern post feminist world fills women with.
Biblical Gender Roles 
Thank you BGR. My wife believes I have no place to instruct her and that I am not her teacher. I have asked her to show me in the Bible where it says otherwise but she refuses to do so. She supports her secular worldview with reinforcement from leaders in our Christian Community who have said it is not my job to “punish” her. Of course she always couches it in inflammatory and provocative language such as the word punish instead of correction or training or teaching and baits them into saying, “Of course he’s not supposed to punish you.” I know that’s not on the topic of the teaching that a husband provides but the same attitude of the heart transfers over for her. And yes she claims to be a believer.
Sorry to hear, but unfortunately testimonies like yours all too common.
Most Christian wives today live by their feelings and not by the Word of God.
The truth of the Scriptures is that a woman is to learn from her husband (thus he is to be her teacher) but also he is to be the one who corrects and yes even disciplines her. The Scriptures say in Ephesians 5:25 that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves his church and in Revelation 3:19 Christ said to his churches “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten…”. To chasten someone is to PUNISH them for wrong doing. So it is your job to punish her. Yes that is “inflammatory” language, but it is the truth of God’s Word.
This can be handled rather ham-handedly such as treating her like an employee or child. I dated a non-Christian, but she was interested in listening to me read to her the bible during my half hour personal biblestudy. Whereby we discussed it back & forth. She became more interested and became a Christian. There is much much more regarding the practical aspects of leading a relationship, but I am never gonna tell her, “but the bible says you should act so & so”
Hi Larry,
I’m regards to the statement, her worldview should be shaped by her husband.. what if she believes some of his views are wrong? Does this statement mean she accepts his views or does it mean she actually needs to seek to change her own to match his?
Thanks!
Nicole,
It really depends on the kind of view we are talking about. If it is crucial central doctrine of Christianity, like the Trinity, or that Gospel that we are saved by the death burial and resurrection of Christ than no you cannot agree with him he alters course on those issues. If he believes we are little gods and remake our lives as we see fit just through the power of our minds as some cults teach, then of course you cannot follow him.
But what if he decides you will no longer celebrate the holidays like Christmas and Thanksgiving? (I know some men who came to that change). Is celebrating Christmas mandated in the Scriptures? No. Will it be hard not to celebrate when you have your whole life? Yes. But you follow your husband and you do your best to see his perspective and try to change to it. Maybe you never can fully come to accept his reasoning, but it should be to the point he can’t tell. That you keep your thoughts and feelings on the matter buried so deep that he never knows.