Every time a woman argues with her husband she sins against God. Period.
1 Peter 3:1-2 (NASB) shows us that it is sinful for a woman to argue with her husband:
“In the same way, you wives, be subject to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won over without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your pure and respectful behavior.”
But women, like men, are sinful creatures. The question is, how should a husband handle it when his wife engages in the sin of arguing with him?
Biblical Ways To Deal With Your Wife’s Argumentativeness
In the Bible, God demonstrated how he dealt with his rebellious wife Israel and how Christ dealt with sin in his churches. He also gives advice to men in the book of Proverbs for how to deal with a contentious wife.
In Proverbs 21:9 (KJV) the Bible says “It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house”.
Sometimes a husband may choose to take a drive or go to his mancave when his wife is being contentious with him.
In Isaiah 59:2 (KJV) God said to his wife, Israel, “But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear”.
Sometimes a husband may choose to emulate God’s treatment of his rebellious wife Israel and give his wife the silent treatment when she has been argumentative with him.
In Revelation 3:19 (KJV), Christ said to his churches after rebuking them “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent”.
Sometimes rather than walking away from his argumentative wife, a man may choose too emulate Christ’s rebuke and chastisement of his churches and choose to rebuke and chastise his wife.
God says in Ephesians 5:28-29 (KJV) that men must provide for the needs of their wives.
But that doesn’t mean she is entitled to eat at her favorite restaurants or buy the latest fashions in clothing or an have open credit line. These things can be removed as an act of chastisement.
How can a husband know which action to take in the face of his wife’s argumentativeness?
The answer comes down to how she receives discipline from her husband. Does she accept his right to rebuke and chastise her? Or does she resist and deny his rights as husband?
If a wife is submissive to her husband’s rebuke and chastisement, whether it be CDD or other non-physical means of discipline, then he should use those means as he sees fit.
However, if a man has a wife who completely rejects his right to rebuke and chastise her and if she will not cease her contentions with him, then the best course of action is for him to follow the advice of Proverbs 21:9 and remove himself from her presence.
To find out more about non-physical and physical discipline from a Biblical perspective listen to my podcast series below on these subjects.
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