3000 years ago, the Bible declared in Proverbs 31:10 “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” In other words, long before feminism infested and poisoned every part of our modern society it was hard for a man to find a woman who thought and acted as God wants wives to.
So why was it hard even 3000 years ago for a man to find a virtuous woman? The answer is one word – sin. Sin corrupts the perfect masculine and feminine human natures that God created in Eden.
Sin corrupts us both mentally and physically. It also corrupts us differently as men and women. Sin is why we get sick and why we age and it is why we will eventually die. It is why people have mental illnesses including issues with depression and anxiety.
Women tend to suffer from some common corruptions of their feminine natures by sin. Women typically are affected by depression and anxiety issues at a much higher rate then men are.
God created women as feelings-based beings, rather than duty-based beings as men are. And sin corrupts the emotions of women causing them to fail in their duties as wives, mothers and keepers of their homes.
This is why the vast majority of women need their husband to love them as Christ loves his church by washing their spots and wrinkles, teaching them, rebuking them and chastening them in order for them to become the glorious wives God wants them to be.
Single Christian men – the Scriptures declare that it is nearly impossible to find a woman who will come to you prepackaged as a good wife. If you are looking for a woman that has everything in her life together, is disciplined and has her emotions completely in control you may find yourself one day being a 40-year-old virgin.
Are there single women who are not yet everything a good wife should be? Women who love God, believe they must live by his Word, believe in male headship, believe in women being keepers at home and aspire to become good wives one day with their help of their husbands and God? Yes. And those are the women Christian men should be looking for.
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.”
Ephesians 5:25-27 (KJV)
Virtuous women are rarely found that way. It is only after years of washing, teaching, rebuking and chastening by their husbands that that most women achieve this noble status.
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Can’t the years of teaching required to make an excellent wife come from her parents? The husband shouldn’t have to fix what the parents failed to do. If parents properly prepare their children for marriage, they should be great spouses from the start.
Jrm,
I am not saying that Christian parents can’t help lay the foundation for a woman becoming a good wife. And if parents do this with their daughters, then yes the husband will have less spots and wrinkles to wash(Eph 5:25-27) than he might otherwise have. But men have been having to wash their wives spots and wrinkles since the beginning of creation. It is part of the task God has given us husbands and it represents Christ washing his church.
And really when we think about it – none of us are the best husbands or wives we can be when we first get married. God teaches us men through the wise counsel of other elder men in the Lord who have been married men years. And God uses husbands to make their wives into the glorious wives they need to be just as Christ does with his church.
We are all constantly improving. As Christians, we should be able to say each year, that we are a better husband or wife this year than we were in previous years. It really goes along with progressive sanctification as a whole.
I understand your point now and agree. Thank you!
To further understand, you’re saying that a woman doesn’t have to be the “virtuous woman”, but there are standards that she has to meet before she’s considered as someone to pursue.
Yes that is exactly what I am saying.
Good and insightful.