In the last part of this series, “Is Red Pill Biblical?”, we discussed the Red Pill concept of the Female Imperative and the Red Pill concept of hypergamy in women. We showed that aspect of the Feminine Imperative which prompts women to seek the best quality man with which to mate and also to have a father for that offspring providing and giving security to a woman and her offspring is by the design of God. However just as man’s nature has been corrupted, so too woman’s nature as originally designed by God has been corrupted. Hypergamy is a corruption of the feminine nature God designed. This corruption causes women to lack true contentment with the men they are with. Hypergamy is always looking for the next best guy.
We talked about men doing careful vetting and looking for women who will recognize their own sinful natures, including their sinful hypergamous natures and are willing to fight it. True faith, both on the part of a man and the woman he marries, gives a couple a better fighting chance of having a truly lifelong marriage together.
As part of our discussion of the Feminine Imperative, I discussed the Alpha Male Mindset. I wanted to come back in this fifth part of this series on Red Pill to zero on this on concept to determine if any part of it is Biblical.
As a reminder of what we spoke about concerning the Alpha Male Mindset I want to restate what Tomassi said in his article “Mental Point of Origin” :
“Personally, I was at my most Alpha when I didn’t realize I was. That’s not Zen, it’s just doing what came natural for me at a point in my life when I had next to nothing materially, only a marginal amount of social proof, but a strong desire to enjoy women for the sake of just enjoying them in spite of it.
I’ve mentioned before, the most memorable sex I’ve had has been when I was flat broke (mostly). It didn’t matter that I lived in a 2 room studio in North Hollywood or had beer and mac & cheese in the fridge – I got laid and I had women come to me for it…
It didn’t take my doing anything for a woman to get laid or hold her interest. All I did was make myself my mental point of origin. It’s when I started putting women as a goal, making them into more than just a source of enjoyment, that I transferred that mental point of origin to her and I became the necessitous one.
A lot of guys will call that being ‘needy’, and I suppose it is, but it’s a neediness that results from putting a woman (or another person) as your first thought – your mental point of origin…
Are you your mental point of origin?
Is your first inclination to consider how something in your relationships will affect you or your girlfriend/wife/family/boss?
When men fall into relationships with authoritarian, feminine-primary women, their first thought about any particulars of their actions is how his woman will respond to it, not his own involvement or his motivations for it. Are you a peacekeeper?
Do you worry that putting yourself as your own first priority will turn a woman off or do you think it will engage her more fully?”
So, did you catch what Tomassi said in the beginning of these statements above? The time in his life when he got the most sex was when he made himself and his own desires his mental point of origin and he did not care what the women around him thought of his life choices. They could come or go and it did not matter to him. And he had women throwing themselves at him when had this mindset.
Is there some truth to this? Are women attracted to men who do not live to please them but rather to please themselves? Yes, many women are attracted to this. Others are not. Will a man probably “get laid” more if he has this mindset of not needing to please women and living only for what pleases him? Most likely yes.
And if the entire point of our male existence was to have sex with as many women as possible, i.e. the Red Pill male imperative, then Tomassi would have a point. But from a Christian and Biblical perspective, getting more sex is not the only reason for our existence as men. God created us for a greater purpose than this which we will discuss shortly.
But before we get to that purpose, we first need to discuss whether a woman should be a man’s mental point of origin or not.
Does the Bible Agree with Red Pill That A Woman Should Not Be A Man’s Mental Point of Origin?
Man’s first sin was in listening to his wife, seeking to please her over pleasing God or in Red Pill vernacular, making his wife his mental point of origin. In the book of Genesis, we read the following:
“And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life”
Genesis 3:17 (KJV)
Job illustrates for us what Adam should have done when instead of listening to his wife’s sinful advice, he rebukes her instead:
“9 Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die. 10 But he said unto her, Thou speakest as one of the foolish women speaketh. What? shall we receive good at the hand of God, and shall we not receive evil? In all this did not Job sin with his lips.”
Job 2:9-10 (KJV)
A man who lives his life to please his wife is by very definition controlled by his wife. And God says the man who pleases him will never allow himself to be controlled by a woman:
“And I find more bitter than death the woman, whose heart is snares and nets, and her hands as bands: whoso pleaseth God shall escape from her; but the sinner shall be taken by her.”
Ecclesiastes 7:26 (KJV)
So yes, the Bible would agree 100% with Red Pill that men should never make women their mental point of origin.
Does the Bible Agree with Red Pill that Men Should Make Themselves Their Mental Point of Origin?
The Bible teaches us in 2 Corinthians 5:15 “that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again”. In other words, as Christians, we should not live for ourselves, but rather we should live for Christ.
Christ, not you, should be your mental point of origin.
The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 10:5 that we should be “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ”.
With every decision we as men make, we should not be asking whether this would please the woman we are with, but rather we should be asking “Would this decision be pleasing to Christ?”
Christ Made His Mission His Mental Point of Origin and So Should We as Men
But it is one thing to say Christ should be our mental point of origin and an entirely different thing to understand what that actually means. Many Christian teachers today teach that living for Christ means living to please others. They teach that Christians should never seek what pleases themselves, but only do what pleases others.
They appeal to Biblical passages like the one below to bolster their position:
“25 But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Ye know that the princes of the Gentiles exercise dominion over them, and they that are great exercise authority upon them. 26 But it shall not be so among you: but whosoever will be great among you, let him be your minister; 27 And whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant”
Matthew 20:25-27 (KJV)
The sad reality is that a great number of Christian teachers have used the statement above from Jesus Christ to cancel out what the rest of the Scriptures say and to create an entire generation of Christian beta men who live to please women and they think by doing so they are pleasing Christ. Such a concept is a complete bastardization of the Biblical concept of servant leadership that Christ was trying to teach us.
The passage below gives us a greater understanding of what Christ was saying in the Gospels:
“3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. 4 Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. 5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:
6 Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: 7 But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: 8 And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.
9 Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name: 10 That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth”
Philippians 2:3-10 (KJV)
Now let’s zoom in on two key statements in the passage above. The first one is found in verse 4:
“Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.”
The statement above gives us the clearest Biblical definition of selfishness in the Bible. Selfishness is not when a man seeks to meet his own needs or desires, but rather it is when a man ONLY seeks to meet his own needs or desires and never considers the needs and desires of those around him.
The next key statement we are going to look at from the passage above is found in verse 8:
“And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.”
The focus of Christ’s life was the mission he came into the world to complete. His mission was to die on the cross for the sins of mankind. In John 3:17 we read “For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved” and in 2 Corinthians 5:19 we read “that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them”.
Christ knew why he was born into this world. His mission was the continuous focal point of his life while he walked this earth. We as Christian men need to follow his example by making our mission the focal point of our lives. In other words, making our mission from God our mental point of origin is making Christ our mental point of origin.
What is Our Mission from God as Men?
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 11:7 “For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man”. Our mission in life as men is to image God and thereby bring him glory. Imaging God means us as men living out his attributes.
Man images God in is daily work by being the best in his business that he can be. In John 5:17 we read “But Jesus answered them, My Father worketh hitherto, and I work” and in Psalm 104:23 the Bible states “Man goeth forth unto his work and to his labour until the evening”.
The Bible encourages men to be diligent in their business and to make it the best it can be in Proverbs 22:29 when it states “Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men”. And in Proverbs 12:24 the Bible states “The hand of the diligent shall bear rule: but the slothful shall be under tribute”.
But a man cannot fully image God and thereby fulfill his purpose for being created without also being a husband and father. In Ephesians 5:23 we read “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body” and in Ephesians 5:25-26 the Bible states “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word”.
Men image God in the lives of their wives by leading them and washing them with the Word of God. They also image God in the lives of their wives by providing for and protecting their wives as they would their own bodies as Ephesians 5:29 states.
Where Does a Man’s Desire for Sex Fit into His Life’s Mission?
As we have previously shown in this series, Red Pill teaches that the male imperative, or man’s mission, is to sow his seed as often as possible with as many women as possible. In other words, have sex as often as possible. So, the question is, does having sex play any part in the mission God has given to us as men? The answer is yes.
While sex certainly is not the entirety of our mission from God, it does play a vital role in that mission. In Genesis 1:28 it is implied that God wanted men to have sex as part of his command to “Be fruitful, and multiply”.
But the sad truth is many church theologians over the last two thousand years have taught a falsehood regarding sexual relations between a man and woman that its primary purpose is for the continuation of the human species. In more recent years Red Pill has essentially taken the same position from a naturalistic and evolutionary perspective.
The Bible however, stands apart from both Red Pill and historic church teachings regarding the primary purpose of sex. The Bible does not say the primary purpose which God made sex was reproduction neither does it tell men only to have sex with their wives to have children.
But rather in Proverbs 5:19 it tells a man to let his wife’s “breasts satisfy” him “at all times” and to be “ravished” or “intoxicated” with her. God has created a sexual thirst in man for woman that is so strong that he compares it to the human need for water in Proverbs 5:15 and he calls a man’s wife his “well” from which he encouraged to liberally drink. In Romans 1:27 sex is called “the natural use of the woman”. And while the Scriptures command men not to deny their wives sexually, the Bible never refers to sex as “the natural use of the man”.
All of this Biblical language encouraging men to satisfy themselves with and use their wife’s body for their sexual pleasure makes sense in light of 1 Corinthians 11:9 which states “Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man”.
According to the Bible, everything about a woman, both psychologically and physiologically, was created for man. That means a woman’s psychological desire for sex, her breasts, her nipples, her vagina, her clitoris, all her erogenous zones and her ability to experience sexual pleasure from all these areas was created for man. Does that mean we are saying God only created woman for man’s sexual pleasure or that he only created sex for sexual pleasure? Of course not. But it was a primary reason and now we will explain why.
Why would God create make sex so extremely pleasurable and make man’s desire for it so strong? The reason is so that man could image God’s desire for the beauty of his people and his desire to take pleasure in his people. In what is widely considered a prophecy of Christ and his Church Psalms 45:11 states “So shall the king greatly desire thy beauty: for he is thy Lord; and worship thou him”. And in Psalm 149:4 we read “For the Lord taketh pleasure in his people: he will beautify the meek with salvation”.
When we remember that man’s primary purpose is to image God and we see that God as a husband to his bride desires her beauty and desires to take pleasure in her we now understand why God designed man designed man to receive sexual pleasure from the beauty and body of a woman. This is why we can rightly say that seeking out sexual relations with a woman is part of God’s mission for man.
Red Pill is absolutely right that a woman should never be a man’s mental point of origin. But Red Pill is absolutely wrong that a man should make himself his mental point of origin. Instead as Christian men we must make Christ our mental point of origin. What would Christ have us do in a given situation? What would Christ have us do with our lives? These are questions we should be asking ourselves on a daily basis.
Making Christ our mental point of origin is synonymous with making the mission God has given us as men our mental point of origin. And the mission of man, the purpose for which he was created, is to image God with his life.
Unless a man has the gift of celibacy so that he “may attend upon the Lord without distraction” (1 Corinthians 7:35) then a man is called to image God in his life not only by working and making his mark on the world but also in being a husband and a father. Man’s strong sexual desire for woman images God’s desire for the beauty of his people and to take pleasure in his people.
When a man applies this truth to both his daily decisions and long-term decisions, he will inevitably at times hurt the feelings of or disappoint those around him whether it be his parents, his church friends, his girlfriend, his work friends, his boss at work and sometimes even his wife and children. Ultimately though a Christian man whose life is centered on his mission from God is only concerned with not disappointing one person and that person is God.
And one final note on selfishness. Earlier we showed that the Bible defines selfishness in Philippians 2:4 when it states “Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others”. A man needs to remember it is NOT selfish of him to look his own needs or even desires, but rather it is selfish of him to look to his own needs and desire and never consider the needs and desires around him.
It is not selfish for a man to devote the majority of his waking life to his career and or ministry. God created men to make their mark on the world in this way. It is also not selfish for a man to desire sexual relations with his wife more often than she desires sexual relations with him and it is not selfish of him to have sexual relations with his wife when she is not in the mood. When a man has sex with his wife when he so desires, he is fulfilling God’s command for him to satisfy himself “at all times” with his wife’s body.
Now if his wife has a legitimate medical condition a man should protect his wife’s body as he would his own and therefore forgo relations during that time. A prime example would be just after a woman has a had a child or after she has had surgery. But whether it be in the arena of his career, when to have sexual relations, financial decisions or discipline of the children if a man centers these decisions around his wife’s feelings, he is failing the mission that God has given him.
Does this mean it is wrong to ever consider a woman’s feelings? Of course not. As long as man is not centering his life on what the reaction his wife might have and always trying to please her a man can find ways to be kind, compassionate and generous with his wife and at the same time not compromise his primary mission to image God with his life.
The next topic we will cover in this series is “Is The Red Pill Concept of Frame Biblical?”