Within the span of just a few days we have had a congressional representative ask “is it okay to still have children?“ and yesterday we saw Democratic senators blocking a vote to protect infants that survive abortion attempts. As Christians and as pro-life advocates we speak out against such evil ideologies as we should. But many Christians and pro-life advocates fail to even recognize, let alone address the root cause of America’s Antinatalism.
Yes, Having Children is a “moral question”
Fox News reported the following about Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s “legitimate question” that she asked just a few days ago:
“Freshman Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez said young people have to ask a “legitimate question” in the wake of climate change and mounting student loan debt: “Is it okay to still have children?”
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“Our planet is going to face disaster if we don’t turn this ship around,” she said, as she chopped sweet potatoes. “And so it’s basically like, there is a scientific consensus that the lives of children are going to be very difficult and it does lead, I think young people, to have a legitimate question. Ya know, should—is it okay to still have children?”
She continued: “Not just financially because people are graduating with 20, 30, 100 thousand dollars of student loan debt so they can’t even afford to have kids in the house, but there’s also just this basic moral question, like, what do we do?””
I actually agree with Miss Ocasio-Cortez that the decision to have children is a “basic moral question”. And I am glad she framed it that way as a moral question and not a just a “personal decision” as we so often hear. So, here is the answer to Miss Ocasio-Cortez’s question – It is not only “okay to still have children” but it is actually commanded by God:
“And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”
Genesis 1:28 (KJV)
God’s very first command to mankind was to “Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth” and until he rescinds that command, we are obliged to obey it.
For young men that means working toward a career that can support a wife and children and as soon as they can support a family seeking out a wife for marriage.
For young women they should be working with their fathers to find godly husbands who can support them and then getting married not long after high school or even dropping out of high school for marriage if their father finds a man earlier and that he approves of.
But whenever we talk about God’s first command and its continuing relevance for our lives today, we must also talk about his exception to that command which is celibacy.
“7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.”
I Corinthians 7:7-9 (KJV)
God gives some people the gift of celibacy for undivided service to him. Celibacy is not meant as a “get out of marriage free card” as some like to use it. It is not meant to allow one to live a selfish life free of the responsibilities of marriage and children. It is meant for undivided service to God and is the ONLY exception to God’s command to be fruitful and multiply which means – get married, have sex and have children.
Abortion on Demand is a Natural Consequence of Giving Woman Equal Rights with Men
What I said previously about young women seeking marriage right after high school or even dropping out of high school for marriage may be offensive even to some pro-life people reading this. But you must understand that God did not command that women have college educations and careers but rather he commanded that they marry and have children:
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.”
1 Timothy 5:14 (KJV)
Our society’s push for women’s equality with men and independence from men, whether it be in education, careers or voting has directly led to some very tragic realities that are all but buried by our media and sadly even our churches today.
Before the woman’s rights movement began in the mid 1800’s, divorce rates were 3 percent.
By the time of the passage of Woman’s Suffrage in 1920 the divorce rates had jumped to 13 percent.
In the mid 1980’s divorce rates had peaked at 53 percent. The only reason they eventually fell to the mid 40 percent range since the 1980’s is because of the wide scale abandonment of marriage.
Today, 60 percent of people ages 18 to 34 are not married. And the majority of this critical age group is not even cohabitating.
Based on all the statistics we know about increased divorce rates and falling marriage rates since the beginning of the woman’s rights movements in the mid-19th century, we must admit the following truth:
Male/female relationships and most importantly the institution of marriage itself has been decimated by the woman’s rights movement in America.
Over 60 million divorces have occurred since the women’s rights movement began pushing for women’s legal and financial independence from men. And if you are pro-life you probably know that over 60 million abortions have taken place since the 1973 Supreme Court decision in Roe vs. Wade.
Please hear me as a fellow pro-life advocate, you cannot separate abortion from the woman’s rights movement. Abortion rights were simply the logical consequence of making women equal with men and making women financially and legally independent of men. God never meant for women to be social equals with men anymore than he meant for children to be social equals with their parents.
The Bible tells us God’s social order in the following Scripture passages:
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.”
I Corinthians 11:3 (KJV)
“But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.”
1 Timothy 2:12 (KJV)
But we in America and Western civilization thought we knew better. We over turned God’s social order and we have reaped what we have sown.
Abortion leads to Infanticide
Yesterday, we had Democrats blocking the “Born-Alive Abortion Survivors Protection Act” as reported by Fox News:
“Senate Democrats on Monday blocked a Republican bill that would have threatened prison time for doctors who don’t try saving the life of infants born alive during failed abortions, leading conservatives to wonder openly whether Democrats were embracing “infanticide” to appeal to left-wing voters.
All prominent Democratic 2020 presidential hopefuls in the Senate voted down the measure, including Bernie Sanders of Vermont, Kamala Harris of California, Cory Booker of New Jersey, Kirsten Gillibrand of New York, Amy Klobuchar of Minnesota and Elizabeth Warren of Massachusetts. The final vote was 53-44 to end Democratic delaying tactics — seven votes short of the 60 needed…
The Born-Alive Abortion Survivors Protection Act would have required that “any health care practitioner present” at the time of a birth “exercise the same degree of professional skill, care, and diligence to preserve the life and health of the child as a reasonably diligent and conscientious health care practitioner would render to any other child born alive at the same gestational age.””
As a society we have placed women’s rights on such a high pedestal that we are now literally willing to sacrifice the life of not just unborn children, but even those who have been born. When will we open our eyes to this evil?
Conclusion
We cannot continue to avoid this question. How did we as a society come to a point where on February 25th, 2019 the United State’s Senate actually blocked a bill protecting infants that are born alive from being allowed to simply die on a table with no help?
The root of this issue started on July 19th, 1848 in Seneca Falls, New York with the first women’s rights convention. After this conference new rights were given to women in divorce making divorce easier and less painful for women which lead to a spike in divorces even before the passage of Woman’s Suffrage in 1920.
Women from 1848 and forward began to rebel against the authority of their fathers and their husbands. This led to the rejection of courtship and the embrace of the new practice of dating. Dating led to rampant sex outside of marriage and a jump in out of wedlock births which eventually peaked at what we have today which is a 40 percent out-wedlock birth rate.
This change to woman-centric marriages and relationships also lead to a 53 percent divorce rate at its peak in the 1980’s. After divorce rates peaked at 53 percent the next generation began rejecting marriage and even dating became dysfunctional to the point that in our current culture 60 percent of people ages 18-34 are not married.
So, we can see the natural progression.
Giving women more rights and control over their lives, bodies and who they married led to more divorce, more sex outside of marriage, more children born out of wedlock, abortion and finally now in 2019 legalized infanticide.
When will we admit the root of all this evil? When will we admit that overturning God’s design and his social order of men ruling over women was a colossal mistake? How far must we go as a society before we will come to our senses? Will our civilization have to collapse before we will undo all the rights we have given to women since the Seneca Falls convention in 1848?
Biblical Gender Roles 
Equal dignity does not mean equality in talents, skills and abilities, or functionality.
For America the question is: When will women – en masse – reject abortion? Because it will not end until women reject it. The pro-life movement has largely abandoned attempts at reducing demand for abortions and takes a supply side approach (by attempting to defund Planned Parenthood). PP does incredible amounts of evil, but their demise would not stop abortion in the US.
Larryzb,
The Bible says:
There are only two ways that will women will reject abortion:
1. Accept Jesus Christ as their savior an allow him to renew their hearts and minds.
2. The government must outlaw abortion.
The fact is that we live in a sin cursed world and the reality is many will not accept Christ or surrender to his will. If we are allowed to sin by our government, then we will engage in sin.
Think of it this way – if prostitution was made a right, like abortion is and it was freely available, subsidized by the government and they even helped you hide it from your spouse or parents would men not run in droves to prostitutes?
When the government makes sin easily accessible and acceptable people will run to it.
New York, famous for their recent abortion law, is now working on making prostitution legal.
Maybe we ought to make premarital sex illegal.
livinblurredlines,
Premarital sex was illegal in the United States under bans on men and women cohabiting who were not married.
Some states still have these old laws on the books but they simply do not enforce them. In the past they literally would arrest a man and woman living together as a couple who were not married.
And yes I believe we should bring those laws back and enforce them.
Okay, we agree on this. Then what are your thoughts on the many “Christian churches” that routinely tell their congregations that abortion and homosexuality are permissible? “Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil” – or words to that effect from Isaias.
The moral crisis in America is also a crisis in Christianity in America. There are too many counterfeit Christians sowing error and confusion.
BTW, there is now a growing movement to normalize pedophilia. These attacks on children cry out to Heaven for justice.
Larryzb,
Christians individually, as well as collectively in the form of the Church were meant to stand apart from the world. To be light in a dark world. But the church has compromised because individual Christians compromised.
Several decades ago American Pastors were faced with a choice – confront the feminists, socialists and other professing Christians who pushed for anti-biblical ideology and drive them from their churches or give in and embrace them to keep their numbers or maybe even grow their numbers. Unfortunately they chose the latter and now much of Christianity, even what is so-called “conservative Bible” Christianity, has compromised.
It is now about paychecks for pastors and staff and keeping church doors open, it is no longer about standing for purity and preaching against sin.
Larryzb,
I just wanted to add this to what I just said about churches.
So the question becomes how do we fix these issues in our churches and in nation? The answer is to go back to the foundation. The Bible says:
Christ must become the foundation for our lives as individuals.
Then Christ must become the foundation for our marriages.
Then Christ must become the foundation for our families.
Then Christ must become the foundation for our churches.
Then Christ must become the foundation for our cities and states
Then Christ must become the foundation for our nation.
This is the only way things will be rebuilt. It starts with us as individual men and women deciding to live for Christ and then building our families around Christ, then our churches, then our culture.
Sometimes I wonder if we are going to have to emigrate or become a closed community like the Amish….a relic of times past.
I formerly attended a church whose pastor said from the pulpit that abortion was a necessary evil. Really?! Since when is evil necessary? Lucky for him that he was already born considering what’s going on in NY state recently concerning the murder of babies both in or out of the womb now. I would like to see the unborn have Constitutional rights. Also, as a former teacher of sexually abused boys, I would like to see the death penalty because pedophiles do murder. They murder the innocence of a child forever. A male teacher in the borough of Queens was president of Man/Love/Boy and during an interview said men having sex with boys was a beautiful thing! Evil and disgusting!
Larryzb, Yes, and thank-you for your comment,” These acts against children cry out to Heaven for justice.” Amen! I’m still learning scripture, but is it Luke who wrote a comment from Jesus about anyone harming one of these little ones ( when Jesus had the children brought to him).
Bingo! Found it! Luke 17:2.
livinginblurredlines,
In regard to your statement:
I am not sure our government will respect closed communities – it will be called “discriminatory” and the government will come in to break them up.
But then again the situation is so fluid I am not sure what will happen. As I have said several times on this blog, I see some sort of second civil war coming. We are already in the midst of a cold civil war, but eventually it will become an actual civil war. I don’t know if will be the liberal states seceding or the conservative states seceding. Most likely it will be the conservative states, which make the bulk of the country where the liberal states, with the exception of Illinois, are all on the Coasts.
There just comes a point where there is nowhere left to compromise. The kindling is already set. Only the right match needs to be dropped. I see the left going after churches very soon whether it is about discrimination against gays, not allowing women to be Pastors, or teaching on abortion. More than likely it will be transgender or gay discrimination. That is one match.
Another match that could be lit is gun confiscation. They won’t try to take all guns, but what they will do is try to confiscate guns like certain semi-automatic rifles thinking they can get away with it. The cops will come to some people’s house to confiscate the guns and get shot. And when grandpa gets pulled into court for not surrendering his semi-automatic rifle that will could light the match as well.
Two things you absolutely can’t mess with in America, the right to bear arms and freedom of religion. The first time a Pastor is arrested for preaching against transgenderism or homosexuality or a church is shut down over it that will also light the match. It might even be just taking away tax exempt status from churches for supposed discrimination against homosexuals and transgenders.
It is only a matter of time.
Some states already have red flag laws, which basically gives authorities carte blanche ability to remove guns from private homes based on a the word of another against you. So, if Little Johnny is in public school and likes to draw pictures of battle scenes or “shoots” with his fingers (as healthy, masculine little boys are prone to do), teacher can contact police or social workers and report that Johnny has a “fixation” on guns and may become a school shooting terrorist. Then, the authorities can come into your house and confiscate your guns, and put a mark on Johnny’s record, preventing him (and possibly you) from being allowed to own a gun.
I know parents who have become homeschoolers to avoid this kind of invasion, and more are trying to leave the states which have red flag laws.
I also know many conservatives who agree with revolution, but, I have to be honest, most of them have become beta male couch potatoes who are more likeky to capitulate to their comfort than actually pick up arms. They all say the same thing, too, “someone needs to rise up and lead a revolution!” Yup….someone. Always someone, buck-passing.
Here’s the thing: liberals have guns. They are elitists and think they are the exception to the rule. I have actually met liberal gun owners who fully support strict gun laws because they honestly think they are the exception to the rule. “Well, you can trust me, but I don’t trust them.” The uber-elitists like Pelosi and Sanders have guns or access to them. Liberals also have no problem becoming viciously violent against anyone because they believe it is righteous due to them thinking they have the moral high ground. They honestly see a peaceful gathering of Trump supporters as more violent than themselves beating the living tar out of anyone wearing a MAGA hat.
I say all that to say, we can’t wait until guns are being confiscated. We can’t wait until they have the upper hand.
Here’s my prediction: Trump wins 2020. Media and leftists become more bold and brazen during those 4 years, adding fuel to the revlution fire. 2024, if a bad righty gets in, or a leftist, we are screwed. They Will command the senate and now down everything Trump built up. They will attack with full political and legislative force to get back at 8 years of right wing success. They will gladly destroy this country to get back at us.
I do think we need to divide this nation. East and West Germany all over again, but with the USA.
@ livinginblurredlinesorted
You are quite right about libs who own guns effectively telling the rest of us that we can trust them with guns even though they cannot trust the rest of us with guns. But consider, the vast majority of these mass shootings in public places are committed by those who have self-identified as being on the Left or of the Democratic Party. Shocking, isn’t it? Here in California, they are again talking of adding more restrictive gun laws at the state level. Basically, these laws do not prevent criminals from getting guns because there is already a flourishing illegal market for guns here in CA. These laws forced on us from the elites in Sacramento do make it much harder for law abiding citizens to purchase guns and ammunition.
What is an independent minded, socially conservative individual to do, if he or she lives in such a state (like CA, NY, IL, MD, MA, OR, WA, HI, etc.)? If he or she can, vote with their feet and move out of such a state. That is what my wife and I are going to do by year’s end. In CA, they are taking our God-given rights away from us slowly and steadily, and they are giving us counterfeit rights in return.
But, back to the issue of abortion in America. We cannot even get a fair debate at the national level on this issue. The Left always reframes the debate to make it about a woman’s choice, and about the problem of unwanted pregnancies. Really? If a woman is seeking a late term abortion, she has obviously delayed coming to a decision as to whether she wants the child. Either way, either early or late, a child’ life is violently taken away, and God did not give parents the right to murder their children. And, let us not take the bait or fall for the trap here! Whether a person is “wanted” or not is not what defines that person as having worth and qualifying for legal protection. Abortion in the US survives because of the legal fiction that one can be a human being but not at the same time be a “person” as defined arbitrarily by black robed jurists from on high.
When abortion and the so-called right to choose is left in the abstract, many folks buy into the lies coming from the pit of Hell, and accept the ongoing killing in our society of children in the womb. When these same folks are confronted by the accurate, authentic photos of the horribly torn and shredded remains of the bodies of human children who have been aborted, they are struck dumbfounded, and are in shock. The reality convicts! And, there are many on the spot conversions to the pro=life position. That is why so many colleges and high schools restrict free speech on campuses. The Left here knows that if the truth gets out – they lose. (Thankfully, there are several great legal groups composed of Christian attorneys that are taking these school administrators to court and are winning to restore the 1st amendment rights of citizens. Even unpopular, politically incorrect speech is protected.)
The left can only live in a state of make-believe. They make-believe personhood, as you have stated concerning abortion. They make-believe sexual and gender identities. They make-believe religions, racism, and gender equality. And as with any fairy tale, it doesn’t contain much fact or reality. The problem is when fairy tale meets reality, reality rules, and it blows their minds. The left is all about the humanistic, satanistic individual and their striving for perfect peace and happiness, which is impossible in this world, and impossible without Christ. They just perpetuate their mental and spiritual illness.
Please pray that my dear husband has the strength of spirit and character to move out of the state we live in. He is a good man and part of that goodness is he has a good job here, but provision for family goes beyond a paycheck. I refuse to nag him about politics and moving. It has to come from his leadership, his decision. But, we really need to go. It is too dangerous to remain here.
Larry,
Great article! Take women’s rights away. It’s that simple. How come I haven’t heard this obvious answer to the problem of abortion, divorce, out of wedlock births, single moms on welfare and many other ills of society that come about due to neomarxist feminism?
I hope it does’t take war, famine or plagues and natural disasters to bring us to our senses.
Thanks
Hulio
I am a recent high school graduate (in May). For several months now I’ve been reading many blogs like yours and I just would like to say thank you for transforming my life. I am an 18 year old female And prior to graduation I’ve always been asked what career I want to go into. I’ve always had trouble figuring it out because I’ve ever only wanted to be a wife and mother as the the Bible says. My mother has been pushing me towards a career in medicine as a doctor simply because they make a lot of money and are noble.
I’ve chosen to take a gap year before college which of course has made my mom upset. She is now forcing me to find a job since I won’t be going to school. I have told my mom that I don’t want to get into so much debt from college yet she is still pushing me towards it. I’ve been raised my whole life as a Christian and by a single mother, since my father was very abusive when I was a child, but I was never taught about biblical gender roles. My mom has never lived a life according to the Bible’s gender roles.
I would like to ask you how and where can I find a husband who is traditional in the biblical sense and how can I convince my mom that college and a career is not what I am supposed to do. My church does not teach the things that you write about so I am hesitant to go to my pastor in fear that I will be pushed into college and a career.
Shary,
I have just posted an article addressing your comment. I hope it will help for you. And feel free to post any follow up questions you have on that article.
https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2019/10/08/my-mom-doesnt-want-me-to-be-a-homemaker/